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post #1 of 5 Old 07-22-2014, 05:53 AM Thread Starter
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New horse fretting when mare from other field goes out

Hi guys,

I have recently taken on loan (a week ago) a horse that I have been sharing for the past 6 months. He seems to have settled in his new home just fine (only a few 100 yards away from his old home), however, although he is in a field on his own, the field backs onto another yard where 3 mares are kept, he can see them all and stares down at them a lot. He has hacked out with one of the mares a few times so knows her. On Sunday we had issues as we were going out for a hack with this other mare, but when she turned up to meet us he just went lary, rearing up and generally going crazy. I got on him still as didn't want him thinking that he does all that and gets let off, and he was as good as gold on the ride with her, but as soon as we got back to the yards and she disappeared down the track he went crazy again until he could see her back in the field! Last night this mare was going out on her own and has to walk past my field to do so, when he saw her going he just went lary again, galloping up and down the field and calling, to the point where I could do nothing with him but leave him in his field to get over it. He paced the entire time she was gone and only settled when she came back to her field.
I am not yet seen as his boss although he does listen to me and do as I ask when we are out, without a problem so feel we are getting somewhere.
How do I stop him fretting so much when she goes out, it is horrible to see him stressing so much to the point where I can do nothing with him. On the other handI don't want to end up in a position where as soon as she disappears he goes nuts, and I can't do what I want with him because of it.
I know he has only been at my yard for a week so it will take time to settle in, and I am hoping that after a few times of her going out without him that he will realise she does come back and all is well again and he just stays calm in the meantime... is this likely given time?
I am not expecting so much so soon with him, but some helpful hints on how to help him in the meantime would be really appreciated.
His old yard he was in a field with other horses, but he isn't now totally alone so it shouldn't be a lonely thing?
Sorry this is long!
Thanks in advance for any help :)

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He is bewitched, that mare cast a spell on him. Only way to break the spell is to break all contact between the two. Mares make geldings do stupid things.
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If anyone has any helpful answers, as opposed to that above, I would be grateful.

Thanks :)
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post #4 of 5 Old 07-23-2014, 05:10 PM
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He sounds a little Buddy Sour which can create a dangerous situation for the person handling him. The best thing is to completely separate him from that horse, that means no riding together for awhile either.

I've owned my horse for 8 years and have had horses before her. She became very buddy Sour this last winter and I although I consider myself an experienced horse person, I was completely lost on what to do. I was so upset I couldn't do a thing with her and I wasn't thinking clearly about how to handle it. I posted on this forum and someone replied at which point I thought, "duh, I knew that all along!".

Really, you need to show your horse you are capable of being his leader. You need to regain control of his feet and maybe get a goat or two to keep him company if hes alone. My horse could sniff others over the fence but when it came down to me doing anything with her it was like I didn't exist (my case sounds worse than yours). However, a round pen works best. I had a 60x100 foot indoor arena to work with so I guess you can say I got my exercise too that day! Make him move, make him change directions a lot. Watch his ears, when he is not focused on you, Change directions. The point is to get him completely focused on you. If he tries to kick out at you like my horse did (she was pretty far gone in her head), snap him in the lower leg with the whip, not hard. I'm not one to ever touch a horse with a whip and I will honestly say this was the first time I ever did with this horse. It took about 2 hours. I waited until she started chewing and licking which is a sign of submission. You'll see this when foals meet new adults too. Ever since I did this I have my horse back. We have great rides, she doesn't call out to another horse ever and she is completely focused on me.

It sounds harsh I know but it worked miracles for me.

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post #5 of 5 Old 07-24-2014, 06:22 PM
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Originally Posted by Feeney View Post
If anyone has any helpful answers, as opposed to that above, I would be grateful.

Thanks :)
Listen, I have trained, ridden and shown horses for over 40 years, AND I do not have that problem. He is smitten with a mare, he is one of those horses who can not handle being around the opposite sex, period. You can muck around on here from now and until doomsday, it ain't going to change that gelding's behavior, it is what it is.

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