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post #11 of 18 Old 04-30-2019, 09:16 PM Thread Starter
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It is absolutely realistic! You can 100% do it, and the way you have it planned out is exactly right! There should be a whole club of us: middle-aged women who maybe rode a little when they were kids, who now want to ride and maybe own one day.

Just briefly about me, I started riding in Feb of 2018 and (rather unpractically) bought my two horses in April of that year. Then I spent the next nine or ten months frantically learning everything I could about horses, while getting to know the guys I had bought. In January of this year I took on a third horse, who was free and came with a sob story about how he was neglected and anxious, etc. etc. It was true -- he really was worried and anxious about everything, but I got to know him, worked with him, gained his trust, and now he's a great riding horse. I board my three (am looking to buy land hopefully and then move them out there in five-ish more years once I have more knowledge); they are usually kept in their own pasure and are a really amazing little mini-herd (I always get compliments on how nice they are and how well they get along). I did it the dumb way (buying horses before I knew anything about owning horses) but it has worked out OK. This forum is a GREAT place to get advice, also!

Anyway, the point being, you can absolutely do this! I think everything @SteadyOn said is exactly right. I would personally recommend picking up a book or two by Mark Rashid. He is less about specific instructions on training or riding horses and more about understanding them.

The only thing I might suggest is that if you do want horses on your own land, you should probably plan on having more than one horse, as most horses really prefer to be around other horses. Or at least some sort of companion animal. People will disagree with this, and yes it does depend on the particular horse's temperment, but I would not plan on having just one horse.

ETA: and I will add the one piece of advice that I got from multiple people, and I think it's the best piece of advice I got about understanding horses. Spend time just watching them. Hours at a time if you can. Watch them in the pasture, watch them in a corral, watch them in stalls, watch them wherever you can. In my case, I believe that all of the time I spent watching (it was a LOT of time!) sort of fast-forwarded me into a place where I am able to sort of understand horse body language and what horses are thinking, just from looking at them. This is a knowledge that I think people who have been around horses all or most of their lives take for granted, but for people like us who are starting late, it's just super important.
Wow! Sounds like you’ve had quite the adventure over the last year or so. How very exciting!! Congratulations 🙂

I have been volunteering one day a week where I’m taking lessons, mostly mucking stalls and I rake a nice isle 🙂 I’m hoping in time I will get opportunities to do more! My time in the barn at the racetrack put some healthy respect in me as far as understanding the horses. The majority I dealt with were extremely hot. I’ve been bitten, kicked at, had a horse rear and buck on me while walking it. I don’t think I should have been doing half the the things I was but was a little naive and desperate to be around them and learn. I learned enough to know that I have so much more to learn!

As far as future ownership I think I could realistically afford and properly care for 3 or 4. We live in the city now but my husband is a country boy and desperately wants to escape city living, cold winters and high taxes, so we’ll be moving as soon as our son leaves the house. There is definitely a lot of things I need to learn about what makes a great horse property as far as the land and proper acreage etc. and at this point I have zero idea how to properly form a herd or if it’s just going for it and hoping they work it out. So many unknowns but am certainly excited about the journey 🙂

Thank you for sharing your story and advice!
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post #12 of 18 Old 04-30-2019, 09:19 PM Thread Starter
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It took me half a year to go on my first guided walk-trot-canter trail ride (5 hours). It took probably another year until I took out horses regularly on my own. In the beginning, I took one lesson a week. I think you're on a solid track. Learning to care for horses on your own is probably the harder task of the two... Not that it's difficult when everything goes well, but it's the "what ifs" that'll probably nag on your nerves for quite some time.
Thank you for the encouragement!
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post #13 of 18 Old 04-30-2019, 09:21 PM Thread Starter
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The thing I think I learned most from working at the race track was that I know nothing and there’s so much to learn. I was absolutely in waaaay over my head and only got that job due to a friend helping me. I have been volunteering one day a week where I’m taking lessons and have mostly been mucking stalls which has been fine since it’s the one thing I didn’t do much of at all. I’m a stay at home mom and blessed with a very supportive husband so I’m thankful to have the time to give and learn in the process. Watching someone else’s lesson sounds like a great idea! I’ll have to ask if they’d min 🙂 thank you!
You know, I never have minded mucking stalls. I get free exercise that way while all my other friends have to pay for a gym membership <img style="max-width:100%;" src="https://www.horseforum.com/images/smilies/icon_lol.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Laughing" class="inlineimg" />[/QUOTE

I completely agree - I definitely need the exercise and loathe the gym so it works out great!
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post #14 of 18 Old 04-30-2019, 09:46 PM
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Your plan is very realistic and achievable. I first touched a horse when I was 37, bought my own at 40. Still enjoying it immensely.

Just a few things:

- Do not allow instructors to force you to do anything. A begginers horse should not do any of the following: bite, buck, kick, rear, spook all the time, bolt off, tank off (there is a difference, bolting is a mindless run-for-its-life, tanking off is just a bratty horse going wherever it pleases). Shady instructors will use your inexperience and tell you that you HAVE to learn how to handle all sorts of horses. No - a professional needs to learn that - you just need to learn how to politely dismount and hand a rank horse back to its handler. Realistically, these are dangerous vices and if you end up owning a horse with one of these - you will call a professional to fix it. As soon as I stopped letting instructors persuade me to do things I knew I wasnít ready for, I magically stopped falling off.

- I found that I got the most out of my lessons if I had them close to each other. For example, I would rather have four lessons in four days than spread them out over two weeks. It might not work for you but give it a try.

- Spend money on good quality riding footwear, breaches and hat. None of the other bling matters at all.

- Plan on keeping your fist horse at a livery where you have a lot of support and plan on spending quite a bit of money on your first year. After about a year you will be ready to keep them at home.

- Enjoy it!
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post #15 of 18 Old 04-30-2019, 10:14 PM Thread Starter
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Your plan is very realistic and achievable. I first touched a horse when I was 37, bought my own at 40. Still enjoying it immensely.

Just a few things:

- Do not allow instructors to force you to do anything. A begginers horse should not do any of the following: bite, buck, kick, rear, spook all the time, bolt off, tank off (there is a difference, bolting is a mindless run-for-its-life, tanking off is just a bratty horse going wherever it pleases). Shady instructors will use your inexperience and tell you that you HAVE to learn how to handle all sorts of horses. No - a professional needs to learn that - you just need to learn how to politely dismount and hand a rank horse back to its handler. Realistically, these are dangerous vices and if you end up owning a horse with one of these - you will call a professional to fix it. As soon as I stopped letting instructors persuade me to do things I knew I wasn’t ready for, I magically stopped falling off.

- I found that I got the most out of my lessons if I had them close to each other. For example, I would rather have four lessons in four days than spread them out over two weeks. It might not work for you but give it a try.

- Spend money on good quality riding footwear, breaches and hat. None of the other bling matters at all.

- Plan on keeping your fist horse at a livery where you have a lot of support and plan on spending quite a bit of money on your first year. After about a year you will be ready to keep them at home.

- Enjoy it!
I have to say falling off is a definite fear of mine. Not really the falling off but being injured by falling off, I guess. I’m currently doing lessons and Percheron mix and he’s been so gentle and reliable. I swear this horse knows when I’m spent and goes into a walk to let me catch my breath. Although, I get scolded for letting him but the truth is, I got nothing left when he does it and I’m secretly relieved.

I did go out after my first lesson to buy some stuff as my trainers were a joke and doing me no favors during my first lesson and after realizing how much I sweat in the lesson helmet I was a little grossed out and wanted my own lol. I’ve been dropping hints for some Parlantis for my birthday but for now I have some decent paddocks boots with half chaps, breeches, gloves and a helmet. I can see how a girl could burn through some serious $$$ on this stuff!

I may give your idea a try and maybe instead of having a second lesson a week, I could ride once a week, 3 weeks out of the month, and load the 4th week up with a few back to back lessons. I’m not quite physically fit enough to pull that off but it’s a great idea once I am!

I’m not familiar with what a livery is so I’m off to google. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with me &#x1f642;
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post #16 of 18 Old 05-01-2019, 12:33 AM
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Your plan is definitely realistic! You should be ready to lease when you are easily able to ride in your lessons and your instructor gives you the green light. To own, I think you should be fairly independent in horse care and riding on your own. Also, learn as much as you can about first aid. You’ll never know when that knowledge will be needed.

Livery is boarding/ renting a stall at a barn. It’s a good idea to do the first year or so because you’ll be able to learn from the people around you. It also takes a lot of the stress off you, when your learning the ropes.
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post #17 of 18 Old 05-01-2019, 06:39 PM
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Similar situation here. I'm 44. Took a few lessons when I was 14 but nothing serious. Started doing morning chores at a training/boarding facility and about a month later, this past November, started lessons once a week. I'm still working there now. I learn a lot from the job. Its a very hands on facility. Even just boarders get looked after very well. We all notice any changes in them immediately. My goal was to lease a horse some day. The right opportunity fell into my lap last month. I am leasing to own now. Still taking lessons. Some weeks two lessons. We both have a full time and part time job so we cant do two every week. Current owner trained him after buying from a rescue. He is finished for an experienced rider, which I am not. So she is continuing to work with him (and me!) for the next nine months (ten when we started) while I make payments towards owning him, and lease payments. She is teaching me everything during these ten months. Its worked out great so far! I think a lease to own from someone with lots of experience is the best long term option for first time horse people! Your plan is great, just letting you know what has been working for me. :)
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post #18 of 18 Old 07-26-2019, 12:49 PM Thread Starter
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First of all, huge congratulations for taking the first steps toward your goal! That's awesome! In additions to lessons I always recommend to people to be around horses as much as you can - and learn whoever you can learn from. Heck, watch other people's lessons, groom horses, muck stalls in exchange for more ride time, anything that can you get more involved in the horse world if your goal eventually is to lease/own your own. Volunteer at a rescue. Sky's the limit! You'll meet lots of people in the horse world who will give you advice.

And never be ashamed to work in exchange for knowledge. It can be humbling but so very rewarding.
Thank you for all of the advice and encouragement &#x1f60a;
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