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post #21 of 32 Old 03-31-2016, 06:47 AM
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However, in just the 2 weeks that we've had him, he already started to develop a couple of bad habits. It was getting harder to stop him, and he was not wanting to go into a canter nicely, for example. Nothing horrible, but geez, it has only been 2 weeks.
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It might only be two weeks but the horse had already caught on to what he could get away with.! It doesn't take them long to catch on.

Well done with going the right way and having someone on the ground - it does work.
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Thanks so much for sharing this Jan! As you know, we also chose a horse that is a bit too much for my daughter to handle at times. I can't say it was a mistake... I absolutely adore Harley (I bet you hadn't noticed) and have formed a great bond with him. I feel I can do what I want to do with him (mostly trail riding), so he may well end up being my horse rather than my daughter's. For these reasons, I don't think I could ever sell him and I don't think it was a mistake to buy him, however, he is not the right fit for my daughter at this time. Luckily, as you also know, we are looking for another horse for my daughter (we will keep both) and this time, we will look for the slowest, quietest, lesson-type, beginner-friendly horse you can find. He will be a calming influence on Harley's Arab temperament and a horse my daughter feels confident riding. In a few years, if she's ambitious enough to start doing more with Harley, I'll be content riding the quiet horse and it will be great to have a horse like that around for when guests come over.

In the meantime, we are also having Harley cantered by our trainer (my daughter and I both take lessons but she's afraid to canter him and I'm still working on my trot). He is perfectly capable of having a slow, collected canter (I've seen his dressage videos), but because we don't canter him that much, he kind of explodes when he gets a chance to do it. I've been working on cantering him on the lunge line too. And my daughter canters on other horses so she can continue to work on her skills.

Bottom line: it happens all too often that new horse owners (or rusty ones like ourselves who went a long time without horses) choose a horse that's a bit too much to handle. As you point out, this situation could quickly spiral out of control and create a mess of the horse, not to mention turn the rider off horses for good. And above all, we need to keep our kids safe.

Kudos to you for recognizing that you needed help and getting it! You're also teaching your son some great problem-solving skills in the process! EVERY young person EVERYWHERE who thinks they want a horse, especially that pretty stallion running wild on the beach in the movies, NEEDS to read this. Thank you for posting.
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Thanks AA! :) The shocking thing to me is that I thought I knew enough basics because I had horses growing up. I was very close to bringing a horse home instead of boarding...glad we didn't go that route!
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Thanks AA! :) The shocking thing to me is that I thought I knew enough basics because I had horses growing up. I was very close to bringing a horse home instead of boarding...glad we didn't go that route!
Jan, you and I have a lot in common. We both had horses when we were young (and when we basically just got on and did whatever, with very little guidance) and now our kids are into it. So we're thinking YES! finally! I get to do this again! And I know how to do this!

Only it's the most humbling thing I've done for a long, long time. I have to admit, on a pretty regular basis, to my riding instructor, my vet, my farrier, my BO, that there's a lot I don't know. Heck, I even have to admit that to my tack shop and to the guy at the store today who sells fencing supplies. The good thing is that it is keeping me humble and honestly, all of these people are happy to give me advice because horsey people like talking about horses :).

But in the end, you are doing what's best for you and the horse and are going to learn so much in the process!

Oh, and to any parent anywhere who is reading this and thinking about getting their kid a horse because they've been taking lessons for years, here's how my conversation went this time last year: "Honey, if we get our own horses and build a barn we'll have to cut back on lessons because we'll need to use that money for the horses and barn. And of course, you be able to PRACTICE on your own horse between lessons." One year later, still doing two lessons a week. No plans of stopping. Have spent more money on lessons than ever before.
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Jan, you and I have a lot in common. We both had horses when we were young (and when we basically just got on and did whatever, with very little guidance) and now our kids are into it. So we're thinking YES! finally! I get to do this again! And I know how to do this!
Yes! Exactly!! I have no idea how I successfully rode as a kid other than the fact that I basically just screwed around and trail rode and didn't do anything precise. Also my pony was really lazy and her default was stop, so anytime I stopped giving commands she mostly stopped.

I too thought I'd save money having our own horse since I wouldn't be boarding AND paying for lessons (we get free lessons with our horse in exchange for him being used for another woman's lessons 2x a week). However, he is now in full training.

It's funny, horses were kind of out of my head for 25 years. However, when I stepped into the barn last May when my kids had their first lesson, I KNEW I had to do it again.
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It's funny, horses were kind of out of my head for 25 years. However, when I stepped into the barn last May when my kids had their first lesson, I KNEW I had to do it again.
That last part. Yes. I thought it might just be temporary when my daughter started almost five years ago. I pretended I was just indulging her, but really, I don't think I was fooling anyone. I did wonder if maybe it was just a passing thing for both of us... after all those years of not having horses. I don't know about her, but I know I will have horses until I die now.

Maybe it's a middle-aged thing (I'm older than you Jan) where you reconnect with your childhood self. Maybe it's because I spent twelve years putting other people first and never. having. any. time. for. me. But I can't get enough of horses. I'm pretty sure my work colleagues think I've lost my mind. I don't even care that I have horse hair on my clothes when I go out in public. I just hope my daughter doesn't ever feel she is disappointing me if she chooses to be interested in something else.
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Yes yes yes - It was a running joke around our house for years that 'Mom' wanted a pony for her 50th birthday. 50 came and went, and I laughed at that silly dream. Then that same year I met a friend (about the time my kids headed off to college) who invited me to come riding with her on her spare beginner-friendly horse. My life's never been the same! I'm hooked. And yes, I think some people think I'm nuts. I don't talk about it all that much except to my family (probably more than I realize ha). Anyway, my husband and kids think it's a cool hobby - so I'm lucky

**btw - I never had horses when young, so I'm learning everything from scratch with the help of some mentors. How I wish I had that muscle-memory....

I'm a mid-lifer finally making time for horses... Having a blast, but there's soooo much to learn -
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Yes yes yes - It was a running joke around our house for years that 'Mom' wanted a pony for her 50th birthday. 50 came and went, and I laughed at that silly dream. Then that same year I met a friend (about the time my kids headed off to college) who invited me to come riding with her on her spare beginner-friendly horse. My life's never been the same! I'm hooked. And yes, I think some people think I'm nuts. I don't talk about it all that much except to my family (probably more than I realize ha).
LOL... yes, I've been told by some of my friends that my Facebook page is really getting boring with nothing but horse pictures on it! I've realized there's no point in explaining it to someone who isn't into it. Either they get it and are supportive, or they nod politely. I've even had colleagues hint that maybe horses were taking too much of my time! When I go the barn, my husband says I'm going to visit my boyfriend. :) But hubby and the kids support me too so if others want to judge, let them. Who cares.

Sorry Jan - got your thread all sidetracked again.
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LOL... yes, I've been told by some of my friends that my Facebook page is really getting boring with nothing but horse pictures on it! I've realized there's no point in explaining it to someone who isn't into it. Either they get it and are supportive, or they nod politely. I've even had colleagues hint that maybe horses were taking too much of my time! When I go the barn, my husband says I'm going to visit my boyfriend. :) But hubby and the kids support me too so if others want to judge, let them. Who cares.

Sorry Jan - got your thread all sidetracked again.
I've already posted on Facebook that if people don't like pics of horses & dogs they should just unfriend me now. Also, have you seen that post on FB where it says something like, "Ladies, if you have a man who..." and you are supposed to post a pic of your husband? I posted a pic of my horse.

No worries about hijacking the thread!
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LOL... yes, I've been told by some of my friends that my Facebook page is really getting boring with nothing but horse pictures on it! I've realized there's no point in explaining it to someone who isn't into it. .
I hijacked this quote to "quote of the day" so funny, and so true

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