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post #1 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 02:08 AM Thread Starter
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Parents want to buy me a horse?

I'm a relatively inexperienced rider - I've been riding since I was 7, but only in little bits during the summer. We once leased horses for the whole summer and went trail riding in the mountains every day, but that's the most consistent riding I've done. I'm 18 now and have begun taking lessons in English at the only horse lesson school within 60 miles. However, the lessons are very pricey for what we can afford, and there are no horses available nearby for lease. My parents are thinking we should buy a well trained, gentle horse for me to ride. I'm worried this would be a bad idea though. Help please?
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post #2 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 02:15 AM
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why? what is it that you are concerned about?
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post #3 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 02:17 AM Thread Starter
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I've read it's a bad idea for beginners to buy horses.
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post #4 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 03:07 AM
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Would you be keeping this horse at home? Alone? Or boarding him at the place you take lessons?

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post #5 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 03:29 AM
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Buying a horse for a beginner isn't neccisarily a bad idea, however buying a horse to save money is not a good idea.

Its hard to know whats right for you. An ideal situation for a beginner horse owner is to take weekly or fortnightly lessons and keep the horse somewhere there is lots of help available.

Ideally you'd have your instructor help you to select a suitable horse.

It would depend on your skill both in the saddle and on the ground, as well as where and how you plan to keep your horse.
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Everyone has to start somewhere. 😊
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At one time in our lives we were all beginners and eventually took the plunge into horse ownership. Two things that stand out to me is 1) you don't sound all that thrilled with the idea and 2) at 18 you'll soon be starting college or working life and that's a bad time to begin. I think for those reasons you should hold off.

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post #8 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 08:41 AM
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Purchasing a horse is the "cheap" part of it...........

If you think lessons are pricey in your area and that ownership of a horse will save $$......

Years ago...
So...I am no longer a kid...that was a long time ago.
Where I grew up horses were a luxury, a expensive one.
To board a horse was over $500 a month.
Farrier was over $85 every 6 weeks for shoes, few had trims done!
Vet care for routine stuff was around $150 a year....
Lessons started for group @ hour....$25 per lesson.
Private/semi-private were $50 for 1/2 hour, not the best instructor either!

Today, horse board in a backyard barn is $650+++ a month.
Go to a boarding barn $850.00 - $1000.00+++ a month easy.
Farrier for shoes, no corrective work is $250 I'm told.
Vet...well the farm call alone for non-emergent $75.00 - $80.00 to just arrive....
Lessons start at $50 for group of 6 @ hour ride time...
Private/semi are well over $100.00 for 45 minutes.
Unless your parents have a farm and acres of land for the horse to graze...
No matter what way I look at it there is a expense of money and time needed to give.
Even on your own land, farrier, vet, feed, shelter, tack and yes you will still need lessons and help from a professional as you are only "learning", are all expenses....
The biggest one to me though is time to spend with the animal you MUST make and give willingly.

You classify yourself as a beginner rider......
18 years of age should be putting you close to high school grad or in college...
A horse is a large financial commitment but forget that part....
Don't do or get a horse if your heart and soul are not really into it...
You sound like it is a burden to you to be offered such a opportunity...that is fine, really.
But be honest with your parents, yourself and not get a animal that you will not be their for 5+ days of the week to ride, see, give attention to and love....horses need to see their humans too!
Having a horse is a large expense, not only financially but emotionally.
You need to be able to put that animal first in your life that may be full and busy.

For now, for you and how your post reads...
Pass on the gift of a horse from your parents.
Continue with lessons weekly.
Make a commitment to be the best rider you can be.
When, if in the future you feel you know enough, have enough spare time and energy to take on ownership, care of a horse properly, then go for it and step into the world of owning a

The worst day is instantly better when shared with my horse.....
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post #9 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 10:17 AM
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Buying a horse is cheap; caring for one properly is expensive. Not to mention, if you're used to taking lessons and learning new things and having an instructor, just riding around the yard on a gentle horse is going to get very boring, very quickly.
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post #10 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 10:52 AM Thread Starter
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Actually, I would love to have a horse and have wanted one since I was little (who hasn't here though? Haha) but I'm worried my inexperience would make it nervous or unhappy. If it counts for anything, my mom grew up raising horses so she's experienced but not in the shape to ride. Also, in our situation, we actually have taken account of boarding and vet bills as well as the cost of just a horse, and we wouldn't be able to board it at the lesson school for several reasons: high cost, unavailability, and the fact that she keeps up to four horses in <1 acre lots. There are other cheaper boarding stables available nearby. I have another year of high school left (no, I was not held back) and I may go to school in state (just for money reasons, I'd rather go to Duke).
This may be a little off topic, but my parents are also considering this because I've had a rough year and need something to keep myself busy and look after.
Thank you all for the great replies!
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