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post #11 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 10:03 AM Thread Starter
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One more thing ...
As far as lessons go, my instructor, while a real great and talented lady, is constantly have things come up and my lessons get out on hold. I've had my last 3 lessons cancelled so I've missed riding the last 3 weeks ... This wouldn't bother me so much if she actually told me, but she doesn't pick up calls or reply to texts at all, so I actually have to drive out there and ask each time. She has a very hectic schedule, and I've had lessons when I would arrive on time and have to wait another four hours ... She's an amazing teacher, but it's hard to actually get lessons at all. I wouldn't be able to ride/learn on a consistent 1-2 time/week basis.
I'm sorry for sounding droll to all you guys ... I did first post at 1 in the morning, so I know I didn't sound enthused by the idea, but I am.
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post #12 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 10:04 AM
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Good idea or bad idea? That all depends on a lot of things. I think it's a bad idea if you jump into ownership and have no one experienced readily available to help you get started. The barn that I manage is not a lesson barn but the BO and I oversee the well being of the horses and a boarder can certainly bring in an instructor for lessons, so a beginner would have good support. You need to give this some careful thought. If your schedule allows for enough time to spend and ownership is affordable, then it can be a good thing. The more time you spend riding and working with horses the more experienced you become. If you would be boarding at the barn you take lessons at, how often would you ride since it is a distance away?
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post #13 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 10:11 AM Thread Starter
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Sorry if I was confusing above.
The lesson school that I wouldn't be able to board at (no availability and very very expensive, almost $800 a month) is only 10-15 minutes away. There are several substantially cheaper (in price, not quality - they are very nice stables) boarding stables close by, the nearest only 2 miles away, but none offer English riding lessons.
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post #14 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 10:15 AM Thread Starter
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I'll have lots of time available, since I'm not doing sports this year due to a sport injury and my school allowed me to shorten my schedule since I'm only taking college level courses. I'd be out before 1 in the afternoon. Also, I know the emotional aspect of owning animals (well, with dogs, but I've had quite a few!)
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post #15 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 10:16 AM
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Originally Posted by LaikaDoodles View Post
Actually, I would love to have a horse.....
This may be a little off topic, but my parents are also considering this because I've had a rough year and need something to keep myself busy and look after.

Your parents may "want" to do this for you.....
You would "love" to have a horse....
Are you going to be able to make that commitment to the animal it truly needs in all fairness to it and to you?...

Be fully able to take on a horse, love the horse and do right by the horse in giving proper care...
If you are in a "boarding barn" situation there will be others around who can offer advice.
Knowledgeable people to take the basic care of the horse already in place...
Find a place you feel very comfortable going to, taking quality lessons at, a instructor and barn workers who can offer guidance and support...
If you find all of that and most importantly YOU are willing to take on a horse for YOU, not because your parents think it a good idea....
Mom is a resource to use too if she rode and had horses of her own... you get rusty knowledge but don't forget...
Find a local barn, find a local instructor, vet and farrier....
Then and only then start a search for a new friend to share happy, sad, stressful and joyous times with..
Don't buy the first horse you see. Do look around and ride several...
Take with you trusted instructors, friends who own and ride their own horses...have a vet check the horse for good health and soundness...then when all those things and more fall into place...bring the horse home!!
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The worst day is instantly better when shared with my horse.....
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post #16 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 10:25 AM
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I saw the other replies after I posted...

Before going any further....
You had some type of injury that is limiting you to no school sports programs....

Make Sure You Can Put Forth The Effort, Time Involved It Takes To Care For, Ride and Maintain A Horse Daily While Still Recovering....
Be sure you are medically cleared to take on a horse
It is hard work on the body, muscles, tendons, the bones and mind...

The worst day is instantly better when shared with my horse.....
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post #17 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 10:26 AM Thread Starter
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Thank you for the advice!
I'm really trying not to sound like cliché teen dreamer here, so I apologize for coming off as ignorant (because, well, I am).
My mom has a friend who owns and shows horses, and she could help. I'll do as you said and find a suitable barn, vet, etc ... before even considering a horse. If none of that works, then I'll have to put it off until I'm a financially-stable adult.
My parents don't mean any harm wanting to do this for me. They're very smart and sensible people.
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post #18 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 10:32 AM Thread Starter
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My injury was iliotibial band syndrome. It only hurt a mile or so into a run, but then I'd have to stop and walk so I couldn't train all summer - I was the lead runner on my team, too. It's actually better now, but I wasn't enjoying cross country nearly as much as I used to, so I'm rather relieved to stop.
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post #19 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 10:42 AM
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I certainly am NOT trying to dissuade you from getting a horse....

Being able to be on your feet, then astride using particular muscles in particular ways needs to be seriously after day.
Having a horse under your care and ownership is a physically demanding sport...
You so far have only scratched the surface riding in occasional lessons one time a week....

Owning a horse though is a LARGE step forward in time, ability to care for and financial resources needed to own a horse.
It is not the purchase...
It is the things that also go along with purchasing a horse...
You need basics of saddle, bridle, grooming supplies and the ability to provide comfort items of blankets if weather dictates..
It is the financial ongoing needs of the horse to keep them healthy, safe....
It is the ability to groom, tack up and ride safely on a several days a week basis...very different than hopping aboard a lesson horse for a one time a week lesson.
It is the ability to seek out and trust the words given if you need help riding the horse during a difficult time.
There is a lot to consider and prepare for BEFORE you take on a horse...
Purchasing said animal is the simple part...
Losing your heart to them is the joyous part...
Being with them daily is the "grind" some once they have their own find they are not wanting...
Maybe start smaller in goals and find the new barn, the new trainer and lease a horse to get your feet wet in the work-load you look to take on..
just an idea....

The worst day is instantly better when shared with my horse.....
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post #20 of 50 Old 09-04-2016, 01:21 PM
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Do you have access to anyone who is an expert with horses? Ideally someone who either trains, shows, judges, consults professionally.

If so, enlist their help to find you the right horse for the right price.

Buying on your own without the help of an expert I'd say be patient and do your homework. Conformation and feet are a good place to focus your study before going shopping.

I'd stay away from sale barns and if possible buy from a well known/respected horse operation in your area. It is thin ice to stand on, but these people usually have more to lose buy offloading culls onto unsuspecting buyers.

If you get the right horse, a been there done that safe horse you can ride it is a great idea. They are out there, I know several myself. Just gotta be patient and do your best to know how to spot them (or have a pro find them for you).
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