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post #31 of 50 Old 09-05-2016, 06:44 AM
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Ok, everyone is going on about costs. If your mum owned horses and she is an accountant I have no doubt she knows what she is doing when she suggested it.

I started riding 3 years ago and I bought a horse. It's great. However, I am still taking lessons, a lot of them. And my instructor had to jump in and ride my mare for two weeks because I could not get her to slow down even with lessons five times a week. So, regardless of owning or not, unless it's a perfect unicorn horse, you will need lessons even if you buy your own. You need to sort that out before you buy. Even if you have to switch to Western, if that's what's available. From my (limited) experience, riding is riding, whichever way you are thought and you will be able to switch to English relatively easily if your riding is good.

Will your mum be helping you with the horse? That would be great.

Best of luck
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post #32 of 50 Old 09-05-2016, 06:53 AM
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It sounds like you are saying you feel like you will progress faster as a rider if you actually get to RIDE. And I totally agree with that! Do you plan to continue to take lessons? Or work on your own?.
One thing I am surprised, knowing this forum, is that no one suggested you look at a different trainer. If I were in your situation, I would not find it acceptable to be treated that poorly by any "business". You are admittedly at a beginner level. No matter how wonderful that trainer is ( or tells you she is ) there are undoubtedly others who could work with you at a beginner level. If someone did that to me ONCE, I would be gone. I assume she is the only trainer at the only lesson barn you know of?
If your mom knows horses, and you can find a boarding situation ( hint: there are probably a number of small barns near you who do NOT advertise, you can check with a vet since they usually know who boards in the area, or find a Facebook page for horse people near where you live ) and you can find a trainer ( same way) I would say go for it.
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post #33 of 50 Old 09-05-2016, 07:40 AM
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Hi LaikaDoodles!

It's not quite clear to me whether you're thinking about boarding a horse or keeping it at home.

You say your mom is very experienced with horses, but not in shape to ride. Assuming you are thinking of keeping the horse at home, will she be willing/able to take on the day-to-day care of the horse? Will she be wiling to do that even after you go off to college? Indefinitely? There are just so many cases of teenagers getting horses then leaving for college and the horse just sits in the pasture, acquiring bad habits or bad health and becoming virtually impossible to sell. This may not be the best time in your life to commit to a horse. Also, (again, assuming you would be keeping him at home) a horse really needs companionship. So will you get two? Or a goat or something?

If thinking of boarding, at least you don't have to worry about feeding, etc. (presumably you would go to a full board barn), but will your parents be willing to continue to pay board on a horse you're not using because you're at college two hours away and have homework, exams, etc.?

I would definitely advise you to wait because you're at a point in your life when things are about to change radically. Going off to college, maybe meeting someone, getting married, having kids (no, I don't think all those things are going to happen in the next year, but they can happen in the next 10 or 15 and horses often life to the old age of 30 these days!). It's a great, exciting time in your life and it's great that you have this opportunity to have a horse of your own, but not really fair to the horse. Unless, as I said above, your mom is willing to shoulder the day-to-day care of the horse no matter what.
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post #34 of 50 Old 09-06-2016, 01:21 PM
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OP, if your mother is experienced with horses, I assume she was a rider. Is she intending to be your riding instructor (I am assuming you will be keeping the horse at home).

As mentioned, you will still need instruction and places to ride and BE instructed, regardless of how well trained the horse. Also the horse will need a companion if not boarded with others.

Maybe the cost is thought out, but the other factors mentioned by several posters needs to be seriously considered.
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post #35 of 50 Old 09-06-2016, 03:39 PM
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I don't know why people are saying that it's a bad idea, I think it sounds like getting a horse is a great idea! You sound prepared and like you have plenty of backup. Find a dependable, safe, experienced horse that you can enjoy and will not intimidate you. And be prepared to drop thousands of dollars on a horse like that. If your mom was a horse person, she is obviously prepared for the costs, vet bills, boarding, etc.. I would recommend boarding if you just plan on having one horse, because the majority of horses do not do well on their own. This way, when you go to college, you can have the possibility of half-leasing out to another rider. And you can rest assured that your horse is taken good care of while you're gone.
Getting a horse was the best thing my parents ever did for me, and I know many, many people who can say the same. There's just something about the bond you create with your own horse. It's awesome. Don't get me wrong, horses are a lot of work and a require a lot of time/energy, but obviously we all do it! It's worth it. I had horses all throughout school and was very active in sports and activities. M y horses were my escape from the stresses of high school, and now they are the same for me in college.
Many people don't have parents like you do. If they are willing to do something like this for you, definitely take advantage of it. Horses are the BEST therapists, listeners, and friends!
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post #36 of 50 Old 09-06-2016, 07:32 PM
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Originally Posted by Troubador View Post
I don't know why people are saying that it's a bad idea,
Because they have concerns if the timing and situation are right for this person right now.

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post #37 of 50 Old 09-07-2016, 01:10 PM
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Originally Posted by LaikaDoodles View Post
I'm a relatively inexperienced rider - I've been riding since I was 7, but only in little bits during the summer. We once leased horses for the whole summer and went trail riding in the mountains every day, but that's the most consistent riding I've done. I'm 18 now and have begun taking lessons in English at the only horse lesson school within 60 miles. However, the lessons are very pricey for what we can afford, and there are no horses available nearby for lease. My parents are thinking we should buy a well trained, gentle horse for me to ride. I'm worried this would be a bad idea though. Help please?
Ultimately it is up to your parents what they do with their money - however, if the finances for lessons are too pricey, how in the heck will they afford owning a horse?

(have not read other replies, but am genuinely curious how one affords owning when lessons are "pricey". ??)
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post #38 of 50 Old 09-07-2016, 01:33 PM
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I think if you are looking for more riding time and your parents are OK with forking over the money, it probably isn't a bad idea. My concern would be the time you actually have to spend with the horse.

You mentioned you have an IT band injury. Are you planning on returning to Cross Country once you are healed? If your running normally takes up a lot of your time, and you currently find yourself with some spare time...what happens when you start running again?

I only mention this b/c I have been in similar situations. I run competitively and also try to balance riding lessons and training my horse....along with a full time job, maintaining an acreage and trying to maintain some semblance of a social life. It is HARD. I won't lie - when I'm training for my runs other aspects of my life start to crumble b/c of it. This is something to think about when you decide to get a horse. I am lucky and my horses are on my property, so even if I don't have time to ride, I can socialize, groom & spend time with them daily.

Just some food for thought.
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post #39 of 50 Old 09-07-2016, 07:13 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you everyone for replying!
For those wondering, we don't own horse property, but there are reasonable stables nearby. The lessons, I believe, are more expensive in the long run than buying a horse would be - $50 for a half hour, which really isn't a long time, and it would take a least a couple a week for any improvement. My mom is experienced in Western riding (as I am somewhat) but I love the closeness and feel of English, which is what I'd prefer to pursue. To be honest, I really do want to be dedicated to and love a horse of my own, and I have TOO MUCH time on my hands. At the moment we are looking at horses to buy, but if an off site lease is available I think that would be a better idea. I'm also thinking of looking for a new instructor, even though that means I'll have to drive 50-60 miles away.
Again, thank you all so much! I really mean it, everyone's thoughts helped.
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post #40 of 50 Old 09-07-2016, 07:15 PM Thread Starter
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Also, about running, it has never been my priority. Cross country and track were only activities I did to hang out with my friends, and I've accomplished all I ever wanted with them. Running is fun, but it's not my life.
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