I asked the breeder's advice - she told me to hit her in the face with my hand if she bit, or tried to bite! And that to lead her, I just have to 'show her who is boss' !! I do not want this kind of relationship with my horses - they are babies at the moment - there must be a better way?
Even though they are young, they are horses. They cannot be treated as a pet. They have to be treated as a horse. It is hard to do since they are cute and loveable and you are inexperienced.
You do need to learn a lot and quick. I'm not saying this in a mean way. I'm just trying to make you aware. Things you need to learn are how to handle and teach them. Also you need to learn about herd dynamics.
Yes, horses should be kept with at least one other herd animal. It could be a cow, goat, mule, donkey, alpaca, sheep, etc. However, a young horse should have an older horse to teach it the roles of a herd.
Bugzapper may have seemed blunt or harsh but there is truth there too.
If you can, I would suggest researching some of the big name trainers and their methods. Personally, I like Clinton Anderson. He is easy to understand and follow. Just don't buy into their gadgets. You don't have to buy their "tools" to work with the horse. There are many videos on the Internet and YouTube. They also have many books out there. The problem with not having someone there in person is that the books and videos can't correct you or teach you timing. You need to learn when to apply pressure and where, and when to release or increase the pressure.
When working with horses, you are either sensitizing or desensitizing. Sensitizing is getting them to move or react when they feel pressure. Desensitizing is getting them to not move or react when they feel pressure.
Getting them halter broke is desensitizing. You approach and retreat. Bring the halter towards the horse just to the point that they are going to react and no further, the approach. Then when they relax, move the halter away, the retreat. Now you keep repeating but each time you should be able to get closer to your goal. Once you get the halter next to the horse, don't try to put it on. Just try to rub it on them and the retreat.
As for leading, teaching them to give to pressure is part of halter breaking. Keep calm. I was leading our weanling with my wife beside us. He started acting up and not walking like he should. I got after him just like a normal horse and my wife acted similar to you. She told me to be nice because he was a baby. I corrected him like I would with any other horse and he knocked it off. If I had treated him like a baby, he would have become worse. You could use a butt rope or a crop or training stick. When they won't move forward, create pressure behind them. If they pull, don't pull back but don't give them slack. Hold the pressure until they give and move towards you. Just be ready for them to leap forward.
Good luck with them and hopefully you can get your trainer soon. Posted via Mobile Device