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post #1 of 14 Old 04-01-2016, 09:34 PM Thread Starter
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Hi everybody,

Bit of a weird question but here goes; how did you know you were ready to part board or own your own horse?

A bit of background on the reason for my question, the horse I have been riding for the past few months is going to "retire" for the summer at the end of April, after asking my teacher why, she told me his allergies are so bad it is just too much for him to be ridden during allergy season. I'm ok with that, he did lessons all through the fall, winter and spring. ( she explained that the head shaking and scratching is just unbearable for him) I am ok with that, he was a show horse, school horse and he owes her nothing and deserves the time off to just be a horse and take it easy for the summer!

So I get home and tell my husband the situation. I'm sure I'll be able to find another horse to have lessons on when the time comes. His reply? Well maybe we should consider looking around to part board or maybe even purchase. Ummmm dream answer! Here is my reservations on that, I used to ride as a teen, had to give it up due to life happening and something had to go. Fast forward 25 years later and riding again. I said I wasn't ready for ownership it's a huge responsibility. I'd like to think I have progressed well in lessons, but not that good!

How did you know you were ready? Did you just jump into it or did you need a push or suggestion from somebody.

And NO I am not getting a horse. Don't get me wrong I love the idea of ownership, I don't think I'm ready.
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I was in your exact situation a few months ago. We first leased a couple of of horses, which is ideal I think. However, in our lease situation, it was at a different barn than where we take lessons (no lessons were available at the barn where our horses were leased). We felt kind of lost and isolated. Then, this horse came up for sale at our lesson barn and I just felt compelled to buy him, even though I didn't think we were ready to buy. We are able to take lessons on him and he's also in training there, so we have lots of help. It's a busy barn, and there's always someone to ask questions of (usually the BO or one of her two assistants).

I think whether you buy or lease, it's important to be in a barn/boarding situation where you can take lessons on your own horse, or at least have someone there to help you. I thought I knew it all about horse care since I grew up having horses, but I'm finding there's a LOT I didn't know that I didn't know. Not so much about care, but more about the riding and handling. I'm so relieved we have help.

p.s. your husband is awesome.
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I think I begged for one from the time I could talk. When mom & dad finally told me I could get one as long as I paid for it, paid for all feed and health related care and took care of it, I jumped right on in the deep end. I had grown up in a rural area where it was common for most farmers to have a horse/pony or two for their kids and so I had ridden a lot and then when my oldest sister got married she got a horse and I got to learn more about actually caring for one because I spent most weekends and school breaks at her house and it was in a different time when horse care was not given the thought it is now.

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I was in your exact situation a few months ago. We first leased a couple of of horses, which is ideal I think. However, in our lease situation, it was at a different barn than where we take lessons (no lessons were available at the barn where our horses were leased). We felt kind of lost and isolated. Then, this horse came up for sale at our lesson barn and I just felt compelled to buy him, even though I didn't think we were ready to buy. We are able to take lessons on him and he's also in training there, so we have lots of help. It's a busy barn, and there's always someone to ask questions of (usually the BO or one of her two assistants).

I think whether you buy or lease, it's important to be in a barn/boarding situation where you can take lessons on your own horse, or at least have someone there to help you. I thought I knew it all about horse care since I grew up having horses, but I'm finding there's a LOT I didn't know that I didn't know. Not so much about care, but more about the riding and handling. I'm so relieved we have help.

p.s. your husband is awesome.


He is awesome, he has known for years how I wanted to get back into riding and doesn't want me to stop due to a situation.

I'm glad to hear I'm not the only person that has to deal with something like this though it is nobody's fault, things come up. I'd rather see somebody care for a horse than force the poor guy through a summer of allergies.

If it did come down to it I think there is a horse or two I could part board if there is no replacement lesson horse. ( I don't think there is) I want to stay at the barn I'm at, it's drama free and no question is a dumb one, it is a real confidence boosting place!
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I think I begged for one from the time I could talk. When mom & dad finally told me I could get one as long as I paid for it, paid for all feed and health related care and took care of it, I jumped right on in the deep end. I had grown up in a rural area where it was common for most farmers to have a horse/pony or two for their kids and so I had ridden a lot and then when my oldest sister got married she got a horse and I got to learn more about actually caring for one because I spent most weekends and school breaks at her house and it was in a different time when horse care was not given the thought it is now.


I begged and begged as a kid for a horse as well, taking lessons twice a week was all my parents could afford at the time. We lived in the city so it was quite a drive to the barn. Even me offering to take care of all expenses I still got a no.
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I want to stay at the barn I'm at, it's drama free and no question is a dumb one, it is a real confidence boosting place!
That is huge! I actually think finding the right barn might be even more important than finding the right horse! Good luck finding something to lease/buy.
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That is huge! I actually think finding the right barn might be even more important than finding the right horse! Good luck finding something to lease/buy.


Thanks, I'll update the thread as soon as I know more. I appreciate the feedback!
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post #8 of 14 Old 04-02-2016, 09:45 AM
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I want to stay at the barn I'm at, it's drama free and no question is a dumb one, it is a real confidence boosting place!
That is huge! I actually think finding the right barn might be even more important than finding the right horse! Good luck finding something to lease/buy.
I agree completely. I started going to three barns. One very private one 45 minutes away from me. It's her own barn next to her house. About 6-8 horses. Inside and outside arena. Very clean. It's just her and her husband. She's in her 50s and so very humble and just amazing. Confidence booster for sure. She gives u so much encouragement. She is so not judgey.

A second barn I go to its much bigger. Only inside arena. She's maybe in her early 40s. I see one other man maybe law 20s cleaning and caring for the horses. Thats all. They are also very humble and very respectful and kind!

The third barn I go to--is huge. This is my least favorite and I'm actually done going there. A lot of younger younger girls there. Teenagers. I feel they are all VERY judgey. Very intimidating to ask any question because they stare at you like you have a third head. I feel it is rushed. And they care more about making money then actually caring for the riders or teaching. It's unfortunate. Even one trainer told me she's used to barns where they care more for the horse--so that told me something. I would much rather lease from the two other barns with respectful and humble owners who care for the horse the rider and the lesson learned.
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post #9 of 14 Old 04-02-2016, 10:26 AM
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In no particular order: Time, Money, Support System (family, trainer/instructor, quick access to good vet, farrier) Found where to walk the line between needed firmness and desired kindness, some idea of your personal limitations (selecting the right kind of horse).

With my first horse, I wasn't ready. Didn't have the time or the support system in place and the line between kindness and firmness was blurry. It was a failure. But I am happy to say she found a forever home with a neighbor girl who over the last 10 years worked wonders with her.

I think you will know when you are ready because you are hesitating and questioning yourself. A lot of us waited so long to get a horse that when the situation is even somewhat right, we jump in with both feet and realize that the waters aren't as calm as they looked from atop the pier!
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post #10 of 14 Old 04-02-2016, 02:28 PM
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Only you (and your husband) can decide how much time and money you can invest in your riding at this time. If neither is an issue, you certainly have options. A partial lease is a good step toward eventually owning your own horse and might be the best way if you are not sure if you are ready for more commitment right now. It gives you the option of having a horse that suits your riding ability now and to move on to a more advanced horse in the future if that is what you want. I think the best thing that you have going for you is the barn that you are riding at. There is nothing worse than a barn with drama or one with people telling you what you "should" be doing.
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