I guess I lucked out and did a few things right, the biggest one being I was clueless, I knew it and I begged for help anywhere I thought I might find it, including here. In theory, I agree with everything you guys have said. It IS a lot of work, and scary, and yes it can go wrong. I'm just not sure that the first advice to give someone in a situation is "you're in over your head, get out of the pool." You'd be surprised how fast someone who's motivated can learn to swim. But then again, this involves an animal who is totally dependent on a person being able to learn quickly. Gah, I'm sitting here arguing with myself haha. I shouldn't have scolded you, you're absolutely right. Just, knowing how it feels to be that totally helpless, clueless new horse owner who's begging for help and they receive a response like yours...it kind of feels like horse people think they belong to a select club to which very few can belong. Which may be true to an extent as well....what I do know is it's become a way of life for me in less than a year and I'm soaking up knowledge wherever I can find it. I have been very lucky, but a lot of my luck stems from my determination to do right by my animals and my willingness to read, ask, learn etc.
What I know for sure is that if I had heeded a lot of the advice I was given here a year ago, I wouldn't have the horses I have now. I wouldn't have the pride of seeing my two young horses go from skinny and terrified to happy and healthy. It is not a commitment to be taken lightly or entered into without some kind of idea of the work (and costs) involved. Yeah, so I'm rambling on top of arguing with myself lol. Nothing to see here, folks, carry on. :P