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post #1 of 21 Old 07-15-2014, 12:58 PM Thread Starter
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Riding Instructor Problems

I am a teenager and not the most confident person. About a year ago my parents paid for me to have lessons, these lasted for about 8 months. I enjoyed them and learned a good deal but wouldn't go back to the same barn for certain reasons.
I am having trouble finding a place reasonably close that teaches western riding, which is weird considering my location. Several years ago I volunteered at a therapeutic riding center. One of the instructors there runs a barn that has western lessons. The instructor was good with the horses and it seems like a quality establishment. So I am considering taking lessons there. My problem is that she kind of scared me. I'm not sure why, everyone else loved her but I found her intimidating. It may not be that way now and who knows if I got to know her better it might not be like that.
So should I suck it up and take lessons there even though she scares me or should I keep looking for a different barn.
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post #2 of 21 Old 07-15-2014, 01:01 PM
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I am a teenager and not the most confident person. About a year ago my parents paid for me to have lessons, these lasted for about 8 months. I enjoyed them and learned a good deal but wouldn't go back to the same barn for certain reasons.
I am having trouble finding a place reasonably close that teaches western riding, which is weird considering my location. Several years ago I volunteered at a therapeutic riding center. One of the instructors there runs a barn that has western lessons. The instructor was good with the horses and it seems like a quality establishment. So I am considering taking lessons there. My problem is that she kind of scared me. I'm not sure why, everyone else loved her but I found her intimidating. It may not be that way now and who knows if I got to know her better it might not be like that.
So should I suck it up and take lessons there even though she scares me or should I keep looking for a different barn.
even if you do find it intimidating it will help you to grow and be more confident after the initial gitters. Go for it
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post #3 of 21 Old 07-15-2014, 01:10 PM
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I would call and ask if you could get a tour of the barn with the riding instructor. That way you can get a better idea of what her personality is really like and if you'll be able to work with her properly. I've had an instructor in the past that I really didn't click with and it got to the point where I wanted desperately to ride, but also dreaded attending my lessons. You don't want to let that happen, so make sure you've got a good feeling about things first!
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post #4 of 21 Old 07-15-2014, 01:25 PM
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Hi There!

I am also taking lessons, so I know how important it is to find a trainer you're comfortable with. However; look at it this way : she may intimidate you because she knows her stuff! That's good, and that's the type of person you want to learn from! It sounds like she has a good reputation and that she is experienced, so I say go for it! People can surprise you, give her a shot :)
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post #5 of 21 Old 07-15-2014, 02:30 PM
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in what way did she scare you?
was she loud?
was she harsh?
was she mean?

just curious

if it was just loud, no-nonsense, very confident, to the point type -- i would put any uneasiness aside -- it is something you will may need to learn how to emulate
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post #6 of 21 Old 07-15-2014, 02:34 PM
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If you're in NE Oklahoma, I can recommend somebody.

You could also just ask if you could stop by and observe a lesson to see if it would be a good fit. That way you don't feel obligated to stick with someone who is not a good fit for you.
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post #7 of 21 Old 07-15-2014, 02:36 PM Thread Starter
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She was of the loud variety. Thanks for your opinions. I think I will give it a try.
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post #8 of 21 Old 07-15-2014, 04:28 PM
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She was of the loud variety. Thanks for your opinions. I think I will give it a try.
great job getting out of your comfort zone

you don't have to be loud and assertive to be confident.
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post #9 of 21 Old 07-15-2014, 04:54 PM
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I tend to agree with Rebel. Any instructor in any sport is going to see intimidating at first. That is just normal as they are there to teach, not necessarily to make friends with every student. There is a big difference between being mean and simply being serious.
My instructor is certainly not"warm and fuzzy), but I'm not sure i would want her to be. I'm go me to the stables purely to learn. I'm polite to everyone (including the instructor), but my goal is pretty clear.
I think if you keep trying different stables you are going to seek they are similar and riding could become lessm fun for you.
You are just new, so relax and ride !

My best to you.
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post #10 of 21 Old 07-15-2014, 04:59 PM
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Many trainers and coaches are naturally loud people. That is why they are so good at teaching, because people listen. Often, that is just how the person communicates and doesn't mean anything by it. Goodluck! An try not to take her being loud personally.
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