Join Date: Apr 2015
Location: Back and forth between the SW desert and N.Cal.
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Oh my... I'm so sorry for your family's bad experience.
I agree that the instructor was way too aggressive. Even if your daughter was some kind of equine prodigy, she should have been kept at a snail pace with a guide until her body and mind were able to fit the saddle.
We've had similar failed experiences. My son is 4.5-years old and I'm looking forward to the day I can start his riding lessons. Too many times in his short 4 years, though, I've been so excited about a toy or lesson that I've introduced it too soon. Snowboarding and soccer lessons at 2.5? Yup! This may be what you're experiencing right now.
Most of the stables around my area won't give a lesson unless the child is 8-years old. While I know every child is different, I feel that 8 is way too cautious, Still, it may be best to wait until around the 5th birthday for actual riding lessons... at least then her legs will wrap around the saddle a bit better. Until then, maybe just walk her around on the horse to make sure she grows to love them even more.
(And btw, my son loved snowboarding but hated soccer. The difference? I pulled him by a string on the snowboard, laughing and playing with him - but the soccer was actual lessons, which overwhelmed him. Every winter since, he asks to go snowboarding, but has never ask to be in another soccer class.)
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