Originally Posted by Comfortably Numb View Post
Without a doubt for me your fault - first and foremost, then the insutrctor's fault - that he/she is so bad at the trade and he/she would even consider following your request. What is next - car driving lessons?
That's a bit unreasonable IMO. Agree the child is too young for lessons, but why is it mostly Mum's 'fault' that this terrible experience happened?? She obviously didn't realise it was a bit early for the daughter(yep, been there, just not with horse riding off lead - was a bit over cautious there('you can let go of me now Mum'... 'No, I don't think I can darling'
) but if this person was any kind of decent instructor, she would have informed OP of this, that lead line lessons were likely prudent for a while longer, let alone having the child off lead, let alone trotting, let alone hitting horse & causing the... mess.
My older daughter will be 4 in November, her lessons I give to her are for now encompass feeding carrots, petting the horse and talking to it,
OK, so maybe I wasn't so over cautious compared to some...
P.S. I am not a medic, but it is also clear that your daughter's bones are far from maturity - might want to consider how riding affects this as well.
'green' bones actually heal quicker if broken, and can often just bend, not break(green stick fracture).