Switching Horses For Lease? very long
Hi. I mostly just read around here more than post but I am stuck in a difficult position that is very frustrating. I lease one of my riding school's horses and she is a very sour mare who I don't blame for because of the way she is constantly ridden by beginners. Anyhow I love her even though pretty much everyone else have experienced problems with her like me. However the lease is supposed to be just pleasure riding and I'm having no fun at all with this mare-the reason I lease is to get more of what I love, y'know. I, of course, look to the positive things and am very patient with her, pressure and release, and praise for the slightest try. I always ride her with a loose rein too. Even then she is the same and the problem is that the whole time she just walks. I can squeeze, nudge, use my seat, click, kiss, kick, give her a reminder with a swat on the behind, or even spur her as my instructor suggested and she just walks-poor thing has been desensitized to all the kicking and pulling of beginner riders. She's so smart-while I'm working my butt off to get her to go she's just walking and doing less work. Yes I know I need to make her and show leadership no matter what but she knows that she could be tortured all day and just endure it if she wanted to (not implying I torture her!) plus she's learned to disregard and not pay attention to humans because riders never tried to listen to how she feels about something. Don't mean to complain-I rather like the challenge horses most of the time too. Spurs help but then when she actually gets going with them she'll start prancing everywhere even when you guide her. She's smart and when you try to get her back to the fence or guide her she takes that as an excuse to stop and take all the time in the world to scoot over. Even if you're clucking at her to keep the pace. I make sure she lopes at least once so I win and immediately get off and be done as a reward. However she's been winning recently and the reason is that I can't ride her for too long so she's not tired out. :/ I'm sad and hate the fact that she's getting her way and knowing I'm frusturated-I try hiding it but horses know better. It's not my job to school her (don't even know how really) and anything I did wouldn't make much impact anyways with so many people riding her every day and me twice a week or three! A used to be horsey person relative suggested I just let her walk so I'm in control but for short time so she gets less sour. But for the two days a week I pay to ride her, I'd only get a short walk ride when I come out to enjoy myself and not be frusturated at every turn-is only one weekend a week. I'm thinking about switching horses but the mare's (even though I love her in a way)attitude makes me determined to not anyways because I think it's her long term plan-this girl who is annoying will say I don't want to ride her now because she's so naughty-which means less work. Other than that I'm trying very hard to barely afford the lease myself and mom says I shouldn't be paying if it's no fun and I'm so upset I'm near tears. This mare is not corrected much and therefore gets away with a lot. So should I switch so I can just ride? No not a push button but one that isn't ignorant to the most pressuring of cues. Tried to keep it short though probably left out things.