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post #1 of 14 Old 10-28-2014, 03:11 AM Thread Starter
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Thank you.....just for sharing

I just wanted to say thanks to this forum. So many of the posters here are generous with your advise, time and insight. I recently (well today actually) returned my horse to the seller. I have only returned to horses recently after years away from them. My 6 year old daughter also takes lessons and rides. I looked at a few horses before purchasing a beautiful paint gelding. My friend who is also a trainer, insisted that his pushy and mouthy behavior could be "easily" dealt with and against my better judgement bought the horse. I put my heart and soul (and much$$$) into the last two months. But the extreme amount of mouthing (ultimately biting and leaving large bruises) and reluctant/bad attitude under saddle, proved to be a project way beyond my scope. And neither one of my trainers wanted to take him on. The feeling was that he would never be trustworthy around my child and he and I are just not a good match.....even with professional guidance. Sigh.....I did it all right. PPE,rode several times, asked all the right questions.Then I did it all wrong... I didn't listen to my gut, ignored troubling hints,relied on the wrong advise, and was impatient (plus he was sooo pretty.....oyy). So now I lost money and have to try and rebuild my funds and my confidence. BUT I have spent quite a bit of time cruising the forum tonight. It helps to hear other, much more experienced horse people admit they too have made dumb purchases,sometimes more than once!. Knowing that I'm not the first to jump into the wrong horse makes this whole mess a bit easier to stomach. Thank you guys for sharing your experiences.....even when they were your mistakes.
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post #2 of 14 Old 10-28-2014, 04:32 AM
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Well shucks! You are certainly not alone in having bought an unsuitable horse! I've had a few too, but seem to have a good one this time around. Don't kick yourself too much, it sounds like you did everything right, its just sometimes things don't go according to plan.
I too appreciate all of the advice and ideas on the forum, they've been an education! Especially for someone like me who has just picked up bits and pieces of knowledge along the way. Here you can see which bits were valid, and which bits are best ignored. There are some very knowledgeable people here, I'm not one of them, but like you I appreciate all they offer
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post #3 of 14 Old 10-28-2014, 05:18 AM
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Isn't it great? This forum has helped me out more times than I can remember over the years. It still amazes me that people can take the time out of their busy lives to give advise to someone they have never met and who may live on the other side of the world. I always try to remember to thank every person that helps me out, so nice of you to dedicate a post to it : )
On a side note I was also out-horsed by a flashy paint gelding who was way too much for a rusty re-rider like me. After dumping me twice in one week he went back, he sure was pretty though!
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post #4 of 14 Old 10-28-2014, 08:15 AM
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Not dumb, just the process of gaining more knowledge and experience! Some people never realize they are not a good match for their horse. Now you'll have a better idea what you need and want, so when you do start looking again you'll be able to find the right horse. Been there and done that, too!
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post #5 of 14 Old 10-28-2014, 09:42 AM
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I definitely agree with the helpfulness of the HF members. I am a part of several other online forums that interest me, but this is BY FAR the most educational, friendly and thorough community out there. I lurked for a while as I was getting into horses more about a year ago, and have been on here for the past 6 months or so blasting the boards with questions that everyone is so helpful to answer, especially for newbies!

Welcome, and stick around!!
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post #6 of 14 Old 10-28-2014, 09:54 AM
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Originally Posted by jenwill View Post
Thank you guys for sharing your experiences.....even when they were your mistakes.
Aaaah the lovely pinto or paint horse that gets your heart pumping. Yeah, I've done it. Fell for a pretty face and waited 3 years, 3 YEARS, for a filly to be born that looked just like him. Paid HUGE bucks for her and she was bat cr*p crazy. She double barrell kicked me first day, got off the trailer and BAM let me have it. I should have loaded her right back up and sent her back to the breeder right then. But oh no! I can train her. She's just a baby. Yeah, 4 years later as I put her to sleep I didn't even cry. I spent hours and $$$$$ and tried everything I could think of including, sending her to someone else because if, after 4 years, she and I still didn't click it had to be me, right? Yeah....NO. After 45 days he called and said, "Come get this thing. I am totally wasting your money. She's charging my kids, the barn helper won't even go feed her, she's trying to attack the horses next to her. She's just nuts.". Somehow in the hour between that phone call and me picking her up, she broke bone in her leg, kicking at the horse next to her probably.

Don't feel bad, we all make mistakes and next time, you won't ignore that gut feeling.

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post #7 of 14 Old 10-28-2014, 01:11 PM
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Thank you all for sharing your horse experiences. Its reassuring to know that even with the best of intentions sometimes our decisions don't always work out. I am approaching 3 months with my older adopted pony gelding and 4 yr old mare. I got the pony first and just wanted a companion for him. I purchased the mare. Not smart on my part, but the seller said all the right things, and she is a beauty, palomino and quarter horse mix, She is a good horse, really young, needs to be with other horses and ridden. It really breaks my heart to see her just hanging out in the pasture. She doesn't really run around or play with the pony. My gut has been screaming to me for the last 2 months, to give her back to the seller and find an older mature gentle pony for a companion to mine. I know in my heart its the right thing to do, but can't seem to bring myself to do it. The longer i wait the harder its going to be.
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post #8 of 14 Old 10-28-2014, 02:22 PM
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I don't know if this helps you at all...but before buying my first horse, I made a list of absolutes that I needed to have in a horse and then I only considered horses that made "the list" - I inquired on 4 different horses but only went to see one of them and ended up buying her.

That was 10 months ago. Although we are no longer in the "honeymoom" phase, I don't regret my decision to purchase her. She's been a great horse.
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post #9 of 14 Old 10-28-2014, 03:00 PM
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Originally Posted by smdecuir View Post
The longer i wait the harder its going to be.
Yes it is, but you will be surprised the weight that is lifted off of you when you make a decision, and act on it.

OP, congrats for realizing that keeping horses should be fun, and if you aren't having fun, then time to move on. Listening to your gut is good, I have also found listening to your trainer is even better.

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post #10 of 14 Old 10-28-2014, 03:57 PM
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This is a great forum for learning and getting good advice, there are so many experienced, knowledgeable horse men and women on this site who generously share that knowledge with us. It is much better than other forums where posters are so critical and judgemental instead of genuinely wanting to help those who ask for help.
I am constantly learning, hope you do too.
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