Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Central Western NSW, Australia
You may have dodged a bullet, OP.
Even if she had behaved perfectly, that environment could easily have given her underlying issues.
I'm another one who has looked at dozens of horses; some were too big, some too small, some malnourished, some obese, some dead to aids, some super sensitive. And yet, almost all of their ads read very similarly. You can't know until you go and see, and ride, a horse. A dressage-trained TB I went to see, I expected to be far too sensitive for me. Instead we worked beautifully together, and I was SO considering getting him, but he wasn't suited to what I wanted. A QH I went to see sounded half-dead, but he was so sensitive that we both got confused and were a horrible match, even though his personality really clicked with me.
If nothing else, use the 'dud' horses you look at to your advantage - every horse you ride can teach you something about yourself. I had a dressage rider/trainer tell me, an overweight, barely-educated trail rider, that I had a lovely light seat and was a great match for the horse she was selling - there are no words for what that does for your confidence!