This is going to be a long post, sorry!
I know some strong feelings have been created here and in other threads. I would just like to say I am not going to apologise for saying what I said. You called me beginner in an insulting way, when I proud to be a clean-slate learner and I found the way you phrased it wasn't necessary. Yes, you seem like a very knowledgeable person, and I would rather you put that to good use instead of attempting to shove me down.
enHorse IMO my reaction to Avna was needed, I will stand up for myself and not let others trample over me. The fact that I "don't have the mindset of an intermediate rider" doesn't concern you I don't think, simply based on me defending myself against someone calling me a beginner, phrased to insult.
my trainer is also very qualified in my region too, and she does teach other people how to become coaches. She has been doing dressage nearly all of her life, and has been around, riding and working with horses since she was 2. And let me tell you, she is on the older side! She gives me a description of the problem horses, tells me what their main issues are, she puts me on them (leads me for a minute) and then I walk at a slow pace, keeping the horse under control.
I also take lessons with some of my experienced horse friends who have been riding for 10 years, I do not ride some of there horses as they pretty hard to handle. I do lead them, wash them, rug them, halter + feed them, etc which I still think is great experience. One is a 16.2hh TB who I lunge (sometimes), then a 15.2hh ASU x QH who I work with too.
I talked to my parents about this and they semi-agreed. You are very right in saying I have to be an expert in taking care of horses, and the riding skills are a seperate something. Yes! I love the way you have put the whole DIY or when to call for help mindset! I notice I start to do little things around the yard like that. Good practice I think.
I enjoy a bit of constructive criticism. However, I do not believe Avna's was in any way constructive. Withe the UK levels, I would be intermediate-advanced to advanced, because I do have a few jump lessons booked with another trainer about 1hr away next week. So excited! You are so true about the commercial ridings school. I used to attend one in my local area, and they told me I was "so good" and I look back at videos now, only to see my canter was disgusting, my trot was all over the joint, my feet kept falling out of the stirrups and I was a shocker. Until I met my trainer, I looked so much better in just a few short months.I will start to record my lessons! Great idea.
I agree too. The labels have caused me hours of confusion figuring out which bracket I sit in! Your holiday sounds very interesting.
I totally agree here. I know now I not quite there yet.
I told my parents this too! They really loved it. Thank you.
Thanks to everyone who responded.