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post #21 of 38 Old 07-30-2014, 04:12 PM
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"Yes breeding your 16hh Appendix mare (grey) with my 14hh Quarter stud (red roan) will produce a prettay pinto horse". I mean, it sounded good at the time....now I have the illegitimate, grey, horse. XD

I wish somebody was there to say "hey that's not going to work out very well *insert trainers name here* is a lying scumbag with multiple pending lawsuits".
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post #22 of 38 Old 08-02-2014, 02:23 AM
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I had 4 years with the best trainer I've ever had. She had 27 horses that were all at various stages of recovery from their past abuse and eventual rescue. She was a miracle worker to them. The thing is, she terrified me!! She was the kind of person who you were terrified of doing something wrong in front of. She wasn't mean, but when she corrected you, boy did you feel embarrassed! She knew so much about horses, I'm so disappointed I never took advantage of her knowledge. She was like a vet, farrier, trainer, and a horse all in one lol. She knew horses inside and out and used a lot of natural remedies for various ailments. She knew massage therapy too and used it a lot on her older horses and animals with conformation issues.

These days I'm much bolder and at ease socially, but before my elders scared the crap out of me. Don't be that person! Ever!!

If you have a question, it doesn't matter if it's "stupid" or not...ask your vet, your farrier, ask your trainer or even the neighbor down the road who has a couple of Shetlands. All knowledge can be reasoned with or used to refine your own fountain of knowledge! Everyone knows something that you don't.
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post #23 of 38 Old 08-02-2014, 07:52 AM
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Originally Posted by PaintingPintos View Post
If you have a question, it doesn't matter if it's "stupid" or not...ask your vet, your farrier, ask your trainer or even the neighbor down the road who has a couple of Shetlands. All knowledge can be reasoned with or used to refine your own fountain of knowledge! Everyone knows something that you don't.
Yes this is important too.

"There's no such thing as a stupid question" and "All knowledge is worth having"

You never know when some piece of info will be useful :)
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post #24 of 38 Old 08-02-2014, 08:41 AM
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Get together a good network of horse people around you. Trainer, barn owner, farrier, vet, good friends, whoever. When your horse has got you down and there's a problem you can't seem to figure out, they will be the ones to help you come up with answers.

Internet advice is a good starting point, but you need people who can physically show you things or teach you lessons. This will help you develop your skills more than anything. :)
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post #25 of 38 Old 08-02-2014, 04:47 PM
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Groundwork is so important! Wish someone would have told me that.
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post #26 of 38 Old 08-03-2014, 12:02 AM
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-Horses get hurt a lot, unless your lucky
-If your boarding, there is a lot of bad barns out there, so look out!
- groundwork and respect from your horse is so important and needs to be taught/understood asap.
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post #27 of 38 Old 08-03-2014, 01:05 AM
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Every horse I ever owned was an accident looking for a place to happen. And those accidents only happen at night or on Sundays, when you have to pay extra to get the vet to come out.
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post #28 of 38 Old 08-03-2014, 10:32 AM
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Something I was talking with a friend about just yesterday.

Like has already been stated, don't assume that because you love and care for a horse, it will love you back. That relationship takes time.
Remember that a bond is not formed over night. Or in the saddle. Bonding with the horse takes place on the ground. Focus on a lot of groundwork for a couple weeks, maybe even months depending on the horse, before riding too much. That's not to say that you should not ride at all within this time period (as it could take even years) With the bond comes respect, for each of you toward the other. You'll know when you have that, it just kind of..clicks. And it is an absolutely incredible and rewarding feeling. But also remember that you may own a horse, but NOT be able to reach that type of relationship. In my experiences, when this happens.. It's better to cut your losses and sell him/her to a good home so that he/she may have that chance to be in such a relationship.

Also.. No matter how afraid you may be of the horse, or of a situation you're in with them, keep as calm and collected as possible. The horse does NOT know you're afraid of him, he just knows you're afraid. And that's where trouble starts. He's start "acting up" (people mistake this for them being mean, but generally it's just nerves) For the most part..A horse isn't out to kill you xD

For an "unruly" horse (like my pony) I always say to make him think you're bigger than him. In other words, even though you know he could do some serious damage to you, don't let him know it. Or, if he has, that he can get away with it. You need to establish yourself as the lead in his herd; you are the boss, and what you say goes. If your horse does something wrong (my pony bites) you've got 5 seconds to correct it. After that, you'll need to wait for the next time. After that amount of time, they forget they've done something wrong, so any correction after that is like disciplining for something you want them to do. (After he bites, he turns his head away or starts eating if he's allowed.)

Conditioning is important! If a horse is ridden around a yard or arena for an hour or so a day, or on light easy trails or hasn't been ridden at all that year, do not expect to be able to jump on for a 10 mile trek up and down hills or do high level showing or endurance riding. It just can't happen. You can ruin a horse quickly that way, and in the process lose any trust you have with them, as well as your own confidence and self esteem.
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post #29 of 38 Old 08-03-2014, 10:44 AM
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I wish my first trainers would have said - Hey, our opinions are not absolute! Maybe, I would have been better off as a horseperson if my first experiences had not been within a very dogmatic environment.
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post #30 of 38 Old 08-03-2014, 05:53 PM
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I second what MeggPotr said and add:

A horse can love you from the ground, and be a nightmare from saddle, and vice versa, a horse can be perfect from saddle and impossible to handle without a stud chain and 3 helpers.

Ground and saddle are different things.

Oh, and your horse doesn't actually know that it's "wrong" to bite, kick, buck, rear, etc etc. Humans (trainers, handlers, riders) can teach the horse what is considered ok or not ok, but it's beyond any horsey reasoning that if he bucks hard you might fall and break a bone. Horses don't even know that you have bones that can break.

So if a horse misbehaves, correct it, but don't take it personally. A horse doesn't misbehave because he doesn't love you, and a horse doesn't behave because he loves you. If a horse does something majorly wrong (hard bit, kick, rear) he doesn't do it because he wants to deliberately betray your trust.

Training, training, training is the only thing that makes the difference.

Another thing that you might consider: how much do you care that your horse loves touch, grooming, is cuddly and all? Because if it something that is important to you, look for a horse that is cuddly from the beginning.

Don't hope that a horse who doesn't like much touching, will become all touch-friendly after you establish a relationship. Some horses just don't appreciate it. They can like you and trust you and be a dream to ride, and still not show any pleasure to be groomed.

Don't buy a horse who wants minimal contact, if part of your horse-owning dreams
includes a friendly, dog-like, cuddly horse.
Those who like to be petted, will show it very soon, most likely from the first time you see them.
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