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post #11 of 40 Old 12-31-2016, 10:36 AM
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"I love having our horses, but it took me a while to get the mindset that I was confident to make the decision to change the entire lifestyle of our family to get our own horses."

THIS^^^ Bolding is mine. Even one horse whether boarded or on your property impacts EVERY family member. EVERY family member. Dad, mom, other sibs. If everyone is not on board then resentment builds.
@98ramtough and @Hotrodz4me , I respectfully disagree. I was 12 years old when I was finally allowed to get my first horse. My parents were also very opposed to it. We do not know how responsible @EmberScarlet is, but it sounds like she is very responsible. When I got my horse, my dad, my brothers, and I put together a lean-to behind our garage. It took one day to build. We fenced the pasture ourselves and that did take some time. We did not buy a trailer, a loafing shed, a corral, and the manger we made with scrap wood. My horse cost me $300 because he was a green broke cowhorse trucked in from Wyoming. My saddle cost $50 and I got no training or lessons. Once the fence and lean-to were up, I did 100% of my horse's care, and about 75% of his expenses. I made the farrier and vet appointments and was present every time. I was very aware that my parents were not thrilled with having a horse on the property and I did everything I could to make sure it did not inconvenience anyone in my family. I am certain there are other teens like me because I knew teens like me then and know teens like I was now.

The benefits of having a horse far outweigh the difficulties, and there is no reason why the parents have to take so much responsibility. The only thing you got correct is the worry. My daughter is training her own young horse, and yes, the worry is very real. But the benefits!
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post #12 of 40 Old 12-31-2016, 10:43 AM
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As much as you think you will do all the work, you will be gone at times or when you go to college and eventually at the end of the day your father is responsible for them
^^^^^^ WORD, man!

I broke my leg in 2015, and was non weight bearing for 12 weeks. 3 months of not being able to put my foot on the ground, of hopping around the house with a walker (crutches were deemed suicidal by both myself and the hospital discharge nurse) and a wheelchair when I was out of the house. And my horses are on self-care board. So guess who had to take up the Hay Dispenser & Poop Shoveler job. Twice. Daily. Plus, having to take care of me (I did what I could in regards to my daily needs, but I couldn't cook using the stove and a host of other things) because my mom spends half her time out of town taking care of her eighty-plus-year-old parents. And he had to work.

My father is my HERO. Thankfully, I was able to make arrangements regarding hay delivery, and my farrier had an assistant so Dad didn't need to be there.

And after I was allowed to walk again, he drove me to therapy, and kept taking care of my horses although I was able to assume supplement and bucket filling duties, and gradually took more responsibility for horse care, but it was a January before I was fully in charge of everything including mucking. That was a solid 8 months of taking care of his kid's horses. No mean feat for a non-horse person. Words alone can never express the gratitude I have for that man.
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post #13 of 40 Old 12-31-2016, 10:58 AM
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^^^^^^ WORD, man!

I broke my leg in 2015, and was non weight bearing for 12 weeks. 3 months of not being able to put my foot on the ground, of hopping around the house with a walker (crutches were deemed suicidal by both myself and the hospital discharge nurse) and a wheelchair when I was out of the house. And my horses are on self-care board. So guess who had to take up the Hay Dispenser & Poop Shoveler job. Twice. Daily. Plus, having to take care of me (I did what I could in regards to my daily needs, but I couldn't cook using the stove and a host of other things) because my mom spends half her time out of town taking care of her eighty-plus-year-old parents. And he had to work.

My father is my HERO. Thankfully, I was able to make arrangements regarding hay delivery, and my farrier had an assistant so Dad didn't need to be there.

And after I was allowed to walk again, he drove me to therapy, and kept taking care of my horses although I was able to assume supplement and bucket filling duties, and gradually took more responsibility for horse care, but it was a January before I was fully in charge of everything including mucking. That was a solid 8 months of taking care of his kid's horses. No mean feat for a non-horse person. Words alone can never express the gratitude I have for that man.
You, I would buy a horse for.

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post #14 of 40 Old 12-31-2016, 11:15 AM
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You, I would buy a horse for.
All right! Caballo Numero Tres!! Can it be a nice stout beginner-safe QH so I can take Dad trail riding with me? My mare is retired and wasn't particularly beginner safe (she's a sweetheart, but she could have a nasty buck if she's asked to do something she doesn't want to at times)
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post #15 of 40 Old 12-31-2016, 11:33 AM
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All we have are what she says. Same is true for each of us. We come here; we post; we tell about our experience and we are judged by what we put on the page. There is no magic fairy wand that grants us a window into another user's life to give us the information to make sure we have THE answer. What worked for you knight may not work for this family.
She says their property is zoned for horses. That is all well and good. My property is zoned for horses but the reality is it won't support a horse without massive monetary input because of size and pasture limitations. Couple that with restrictions from the homeowners association and I can't afford it. Pipe fences, metal barn, storage guidelines for the horse "stuff". My BIL has two on his property but little oversight or fewer restrictions on materials. SIL is even less restricted. BIL couldn't quite get away with your set up KR but SIL could. We are all operating under different circumstances. ES says she appreciates what she has but I guess I am old school and see her posts as disrespectful of his decision. I see entitlement along with a dream. Maybe if she focused on what she has which are lessons and permission (encouragement and support?) to work with horses then when she gets older or as other family members perhaps became interested and involved her dad would devote time, energy and resources. Horses are not the end all be all answer to life that we horse lovers want them to be.

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post #16 of 40 Old 12-31-2016, 12:11 PM
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All right! Caballo Numero Tres!! Can it be a nice stout beginner-safe QH so I can take Dad trail riding with me? My mare is retired and wasn't particularly beginner safe (she's a sweetheart, but she could have a nasty buck if she's asked to do something she doesn't want to at times)
LOL! Good luck with that! I finally just found my Hubby Safe mount and got her home. Took me years to find the right one.

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post #17 of 40 Old 12-31-2016, 12:42 PM
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I bought my own horse. I didn't really think it through. I bought the horse with zero tack and nowhere to keep it! Luckily I found a place for $50 per month and was able to buy feed and hay at the stables where I took lessons but I never considered vet bills, farrier costs, and well, anything else.

Luckily I made $100 per week at my part time job because I pretty much spent it all on the horse. I learned to drive a horse trailer at 16. A friend of mine used to loan me his to haul to lessons and shows. I also used it to haul to the vet so I didn't have to pay a farm call. Looking back, I think maybe old Doc Witaker used to maybe cut me a special deal because I need paid over $100 for shots and exams.

I learned to file my own hooves down which saved money but I highly doubt I did the best job, I was lucky to have a horse with good feet! A friend of mine gave me a ripped up blanket for the winter, it was held together with baling twine.

My mom ended up giving me a $150 dollars to go to the auction where I bought a saddle package for $125. It came with the saddle, stirrups, and girth. It was cheap argentine leather but it left me with $25 to buy a bridle. A friend of mines mom gave me a bit and bam. I had tack! He did come with a halter that was falling apart but it worked. Eventually my dad bought me that trailer that I used for $600. I actually still have the trailer, it's in the back woods. Thinking about turning it into a chicken coop.

I paid for my riding lessons after I bought him but my mom used to pay for my horse shows. They were local level so my fee would usually be around $35 for the two divisions that I rode in.

What I'm failing to mention is how much trouble I was in when my parents found out I bought a horse. You see, they did have to pick up the slack when I couldn't pay bills and luckily he never had a massive vet bill because they would have had to pay it. I couldn't have....

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post #18 of 40 Old 12-31-2016, 03:30 PM Thread Starter
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@CaliforniaDreaming Yeah, good luck with that. xD

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post #19 of 40 Old 12-31-2016, 03:35 PM Thread Starter
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@knightrider thanks for sticking with. Also good job!
I DO try to be as responsible as I can. I help out where ever I can. Even if it means waking up every two hours to feed the stove fire and keep us warm! :") (probably going to get lash back for this, from someone.)
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post #20 of 40 Old 12-31-2016, 03:39 PM Thread Starter
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@98ramtough I was very surprised to hear he was a horse person, too, when he was young! He loved horses, he even owned a appaloosa names Penny. He doesn't have anything against horses that I know of, but who knows!

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