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post #31 of 40 Old 01-01-2017, 06:05 PM
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She had the "my" in quotes I think. I had to read it twice. I would think it is the lesson horse she rides or a horse at the barn where she rides she feels close to. Several of the young girls refer to the horse they ride as theirs here. I thought it was because they are assigned a horse for their lesson and they have to graduate to another but SIL says the same happens where her son rides and they rotate horses every lesson. They girls have their favorites and they "claim" them and lie about rotations so they ride the fav more than the others. It really burns her son up. Heck she said a neighbor's daughter claims her horse because she lets her groom and ride her sometimes if her son is out riding his mare and wants company. I think that is just young girls.
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post #32 of 40 Old 01-01-2017, 06:29 PM
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What exactly do you mean by sponsoring? Do you mean donating things to a horse at a rescue or?? Not a term I am familiar with, where I am from at least, so I'm having trouble picturing what you mean?

And again, I'm wondering about the QH you posted about in another thread when you said "we have a QH". Does your family already own horses and you want one for yourself?
I also don't understand why the land would have to be "zoned for horses" just to take the horse for a trail ride.

The bottom line, OP, is that in your posts, you come off as a little entitled. Your dad doesn't owe you a horse, no matter how much money he makes. It's his money, not yours. That said, if he promised a horse on the condition that you work at a barn for a year, and isn't following through - ASSUMING you actually followed through on your end - then it's unfortunate and I can understand your disappointment. Parents shouldn't promise things they don't intend to ever deliver on, but sometimes they do. However, you need to be honest with us, but even more importantly, with yourself. Did you really hold up your end of the bargain?

Notwithstanding, my initial advice stands: learn as much as you can, spend as much time as possible with horses, and someday, when you are an adult and can pay for everything as well as take on ALL the responsibilities, you'll be more than ready.
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post #33 of 40 Old 01-01-2017, 06:53 PM
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OP, people on this thread probably "don't understand you" because the first line of your first post reads:
Basically I've wanted a horse ever since I started lessons, and Dad keeps saying no without listening to me.

To most people, that would suggest that you want to own a horse.

Odd use of the word "sponsoring" aside, I feel as though I'm still confused.
If you were to lease a horse it would be very unlikely that the owners would welcome you trailering it off the property to trail ride on yours, without supervision.

Based on this thread, maybe it's best to stick to lessons for now?
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post #34 of 40 Old 01-01-2017, 07:16 PM
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She had the "my" in quotes I think. I had to read it twice. I would think it is the lesson horse she rides or a horse at the barn where she rides she feels close to. Several of the young girls refer to the horse they ride as theirs here. I thought it was because they are assigned a horse for their lesson and they have to graduate to another but SIL says the same happens where her son rides and they rotate horses every lesson. They girls have their favorites and they "claim" them and lie about rotations so they ride the fav more than the others. It really burns her son up. Heck she said a neighbor's daughter claims her horse because she lets her groom and ride her sometimes if her son is out riding his mare and wants company. I think that is just young girls.

I think we're thinking of different threads, there was definitely one a while back that said "we have a QH". But I do agree, young girls tend to act that way. I likely did as well with lesson ponies I felt extra attached to.

(edit - I'll admit I just creeped her previous posts because I thought maybe I remembered wrong, but I did happen to find the one I am thinking of, it was something about a registered name for a QH in which she responded with the quote I mentioned). Hence my confusion on if her family already has other horses possibly?
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post #35 of 40 Old 01-01-2017, 07:38 PM
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Well I don't know your Dad or you.

I'd be looking for responsibility and passion as a Dad, which I'm not.

Maybe it is as simple as a commitment you haven't quite made yet to sell him on the idea.

"If you really wanted to do something you would have already done it".

Keep that little phrase in your mind. It will teach you a lot.
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post #36 of 40 Old 01-02-2017, 01:57 AM Thread Starter
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@Zexious I guess I should.

I am getting some bad vibes from this thread that will probably make people edgy around me for the rest of my time here. Oh well. Wish I could delete it... :/

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post #37 of 40 Old 01-02-2017, 03:34 AM
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No Ember, you are not getting bad vibes, you are getting replies that are truthful and nothing like what you wanted to hear.

Majority of people answering you have been in your position and do understand how you are feeling.

I know I felt the same way. Age, and I could be you grandmother, has made me realise how unsuitable I would have been as a horse owner when I was a youngster. Not because I wouldn't have cared for the animal, I would have, but because I didn't know how much I didnt know.
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post #38 of 40 Old 01-02-2017, 04:13 AM Thread Starter
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Yes, you are ALL right. I am probably just blinded by my own opinion. I'm nieve and mistaken. And I was tired and wrong when I wrote the thread starter. It was stupid, and I just kind of wish people would stop replying. It's sort of overwhelming to read The the same thing over and over, and feeling kind of dumb.The faster I can get rid of my own young stupidity the better. :(
I should just stick to talking to my mentor or trainer, and taking lessons. I'll leave the owning or leasing or whatever to the experts, and respect my father's decision.

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post #39 of 40 Old 01-02-2017, 07:31 AM
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Ember, admitting that you were mistaken is a BIG move towards growing up.

Believe me, no one was trying to be nasty and when most are of the same opinion they are usually correct.


It will happen that you get your own horse, might not be for a while and for you it will seem like a lifetime but, stick to riding, learning and dedication and you will get one.
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