Sorry, I didn't read all the posts. But I have a simple answer to your question: many horse people don't care about hurting your feelings because horse people like horses better than people. Personally, I find that rather comforting. I'd rather someone be blunt with me for my horse's sake, even if it's going to be harsh, than sugar-coat things and let me do things that are bad for my horse. I guess I like horses better than people too.
^^^^This. I have to pay for data usage, therefore I didn't watch the video; don't need to, just reading all the comments tells the story.
What I have done is read the OP's post several times. It is a rankling post, to be sure.
has pointed out, HOW one says something sets the tone for how comments or help are received.
The OP set the tone to be received negatively by HOW you said what you said. By now you should be able to go back and read your own press in a less-biased manner and see the glaring issues with your word choices.
If we were talking in real life, eyeball-to-eyeball, you would get one of two responses from me, depending which side of the sawdust I woke up on:
1. You would either get face-Palmed while I rolled my eyes and walked away.
2. You would hear the wrath, until you turned and walked away.
You came in, with this thread, looking for commotion. I'm still debating whether or not you are a horse wannabe gnome, or whether you've had minimal experience with horses and enjoy posting questions that are geared toward heated debates only.
There are a lot of horsemen kindly replying and I tip my hat to them. Some have a lot of years experience and possess common sense, some of them have a few years experience and possess common sense.
Common sense goes a long way in handling horses --- hopefully you will one day get there-------