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post #1 of 17 Old 09-04-2020, 11:21 AM Thread Starter
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Putting my cat down. :(

I've talked a lot about my horse adventures on here, but I don't know that I've ever mentioned my cats. I have two: a brother and sister. To the best of my knowledge, they were born in June of 2003. So.... yeah, just over 17 years old. Wow. They've been in relatively good health all their lives (ironic, since my dad is a vet), but over the past year they've slowed down, lost weight, and started to show their age.

I thought the boy cat would go first. He was the only one that has ever had any health issues at all. (Some digestive stuff and one UTI, but all minor.) And he has been getting skinnier and losing some hair... but his energy and attitude have been great. Whereas my girl cat, while she sort of checked out socially a while ago, had been holding her weight and her health... until very recently. She was actually a little on the plump side until about a month ago. She started to rapidly lose weight, and just the other day, she seemed really painful and uncoordinated in her back end. She improved slightly but is still having trouble. She's also dehydrated and refusing to drink. And she's just super, super out of it.

So, I'm bringing her up to my dad's clinic tonight to have her put down. I know there's no bouncing back for her, at this point, and I refuse to wait any longer for the inevitable. No point in putting her through diagnostics or treatment, when it's almost certainly kidney failure. (It's almost always kidney failure.) I don't think she's suffering yet, or if she is, she hasn't been for long. This will be my first time putting down a pet in over twenty years, and my very first time putting down MY pet, as opposed to a family pet.

I'm swinging back and forth between feeling okay about it and being a crying wreck. She's been my little buddy for 17 years now, which is almost half my life. Going to be the saddest road trip ever, driving her up there tonight.
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post #2 of 17 Old 09-04-2020, 11:26 AM
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I'm very sorry. We had to do this ourselves a few months ago. It was really hard. We were able to get someone to come to our house, though, so he didn't have that trauma of going to the vet (he always hated the vet). I am sorry. You are doing the right thing and giving her that final gift.

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post #3 of 17 Old 09-04-2020, 11:42 AM
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I am so sorry. Sending any of our critters on is never an easy thing.

I also recently laid my last kitty to rest. Beebs was 14 and is in the Pet Sematary, with several other cats, 11 dogs, and three horses:)

I agree with sending her on a day or two early than too late - she has already enjoyed more quality AND quantity of life than many.

You have to keep telling yourself you gave her 17 of the most glorious years she would not have otherwise enjoyed:)
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post #4 of 17 Old 09-04-2020, 12:06 PM
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Very sorry to hear it. We thought we were heading to that same decision a couple of weeks ago. I have a 20 year old male cat that I've had since the month after I graduated from college. I literally don't know what it's like to live my adult life without him Over the years, he's had three urinary tract blockages that he's bounced back from- including one serious near-complete blockage last year that required surgery- but he's always seemed like he'll just live forever. About a month ago, he dropped almost 5 lbs and we figured that might be the end. Took him to the vet, they ran all his bloods, and while he has been anemic and dealing with kidney disease for a few years now they felt his bloodwork was no worse than the last time they looked at him and that he might perk up with more enticing food. So we decided together to see if that gets us anywhere. Truth be told, I do worry that was the wrong choice and I will regret not putting him down then, but for now we're going with it while his spirits are good and he still seems to be his cranky old self. It's never easy and I don't envy you having to make the call. We'll all be thinking of you!
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post #5 of 17 Old 09-04-2020, 12:13 PM
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I waited to long to put down my husband's old cat. He was 18. They were so bonded. He had mouth cancer. I removed the tumor, but it came back and spread. He still didn't want to let him go. I couldn't put him down without his agreement, but he realized that the cat was suffering.

I regret that I didn't let him go 6 months earlier.

It is really hard to do the right thing.
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post #6 of 17 Old 09-04-2020, 12:37 PM
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I will be thinking of you tonight - giving our pet's our final act of a kindness, a trip across the rainbow bridge, is the hardest thing as pet owner's that we have to do.

Spend the next couple of hours with her, and let her know that she is loved. Let yourself cry, but also be sure to smile and laugh and remember the past 17 years with her. If she'll eat it, spoil her with some canned tuna, or any of her other favorite treats.

The last pet that crossed the rainbow bridge was my SO's childhood dog, Lola. A week before her final day, she was her normal, aging self. Three days later, my SO's mom brought her to the vet because was rapidly declining all of a sudden, and cancer was discovered throughout her entire body, with tumors crushing her airways. There was nothing that could be done. We were devastated, and being 9 hours away, we left right away to be there the next morning for her euthanasia. It was heart-breaking, but she was so happy all of us being there with her the morning of, sitting in the warm spring sun with her. We brought her to the vet, and she was overjoyed with the treats and love she was being given, while showing off all of her tricks. And then she was gone, pain-free, and chasing sticks in doggie-heaven.
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So sorry to hear. What a lucky kitty to have had you to love her to the end.

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post #8 of 17 Old 09-04-2020, 01:36 PM
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My cat, Tabby, is the same age as yours. I got him as a tiny kitten the summer of 2003. He's also struggling with health issues. When he was healthy, he weighed about 8 pounds. Now, he's maybe four. He has long hair and is fluffy, so he looks okay, but when you look closer, you can see that he's skin and bones. He's still happy and active, even gets the zoomies sometimes, but I know his time is coming. Lately, I've been feeding him little bites of hot dog with his regular food. He's too picky to eat wet cat food, but he loves the hot dogs. My vet said to get the low sodium hot dogs, otherwise, they're pretty much the same as cat food.
This cat has mental problems and freaks out at the vet's. He hasn't been to the office in about 5 years. My vet has to come to him. It was my horse vet (also small animal) who okayed the hot dogs. She suspects kidney failure. I don't know what I'll do when it's Tabby's time to go. I don't want his last moments to be freaking out at the vet, but I also won't let him suffer longer than necessary.
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Originally Posted by mkmurphy81 View Post
I don't know what I'll do when it's Tabby's time to go. I don't want his last moments to be freaking out at the vet, but I also won't let him suffer longer than necessary.
Thanks! I was worried about my girl and this trip, too, when the time came... but she's so absolutely out of it that I'm actually not as concerned about it as I thought I would be. It's a fairly long drive to the clinic, but she seems pretty "done." I'm not leaving for a couple of hours yet, but as much as I don't like seeing her like this, in a way I'm relieved that she's so sedate. We'll see how it goes with her tonight.
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post #10 of 17 Old 09-04-2020, 02:55 PM
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I'm so sorry. It's hard to do the right thing sometimes.
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