Our children usually do the "if they cry or they're being difficult just call and we'll come get them". Um, no. I raised you just fine and you weren't perfect, so I'm pretty sure I can handle your child without you intervening. Of course, most of the time, they act better for us than they do for their parents.
I'm sure it is confusing for the baby since she doesn't spend that much time with her father or his family. But, if they stick around, even just a little, unfortunately she'll have to get somewhat used to it.
You know, I've had SO many people I know and like approach me and ask what it's like, us being grandparents and I can be so excited about all the fun things - especially NOW that she's 1 (Tomorrow!) and getting so animated, but also very interactive, she's just so darn fun to be around, and such a happy child - and someone will always invariably say:
I LOVE being a grandma/grandpa! I can load them up on sugar and send them home! or When they get sick or cranky, I can send them home! or I get to have fun with them, then send them home.
The implication being when kids are tired, cranky, need a bath, need a nap, need their britches changed, when they're teething, sick, or generally unpleasant, just send them home.
I don't get that mentality. I'm maybe sounding judgy here, but no one in my family is like this. My husband's grandparents and great grandparents helped raise him. My greats were of the Nothing to do with Me variety and very elderly anyway by the time I came along, so I wasn't close to them, or my mother's parents because they were estranged and lived in other states... but dad's parents? They helped raise my brother and I, and they didn't bail when it was time to roll up sleeves and do work. My parents are right there helping with grandbaby now.
We're not bailing and shoving her off on someone else ourselves just because it's inconvenient or she's teething and puking. We plan our date nights around daughter's schedule, we give her a heads up if we're going to be gone a long weekend so she can find a sitter and make work arrangements... the BABY is our first consideration, and everything else revolves around raising her, not fobbing her off when we're tired or she's crabby.
I don't get Grandparents at Convenience. Part of me says: Must be nice; part of me is glad to be passing down the legacy of love and Stick it Out I inherited from my own Ma and Pa.