Join Date: Sep 2018
Location: Outside Seattle, WA
Have you ever had a hard time finding tall boots (dress or field) that fit?
Yes, my entire life. As an equestrian and a boot lover in general, it's devastating. When I find a pair of western or fashion boots that do fit, I hang onto them until they are too destroyed to wear any longer. I have never had a pair of equestrian dress or field boots fit me. I'm short, overweight, with small feet and large calves.
When was the last time you searched for tall boots?
I'm always looking for boots.
Please tell me about that time.
I got back into horses a couple of years ago, and before long, I was in my local tack shop looking for boots. I knew what I wanted, a proper English boot. It was my initial draw to the discipline, those long, sleek black boots. I did not fit into a single pair, and the boots I left with that day were some dirt brown ariats that look like a hiking shoe. I don't like them at all. Later, I bought some boots from a shop online that sells extra extra wide calf field boots and they did fit in the calf, but the foot was too large. The company doesn't stock the size I'd need, so I returned the boots and they charged me a 15% restocking fee for putting a shipping label on the boot box though they'd put a label on the boot box to send them to me in the first place.
What emotions did you experience? I felt, and feel, so much shame about my body, what it said the horse world thought about people who look like me, that I was too much of a beast to be near a horse much less ride one, embarrassment that nothing fit, embarrassment that I was wasting the shopkeeper's time, the sadness and disappointment that comes with going out to buy a specific item you've been wanting your entire life and walk away empty-handed. And still now I feel sadness, shame, and embarrassment that I'm out riding my gorgeous horse, in the gorgeous tack I've bought for her, in these gross brown ankle boots. They're in every photo of me at the barn or with my horse. They make me feel slovenly. It affects my self-esteem to not be able to find boots that I like that fit me for the only sport I've ever enjoyed doing. And I've lost a lot of weight in the last couple of years, with all this increased activity....but my calf circumference is the same. So my body shame remains high.
What solution(s) have you tried when looking for tall boots that fit? I've tried tack shops, online shopping, used tack swap groups, I've considered fashion boots that might be suitableish, and ultimately I will probably have to have custom boots made.
What was not ideal about those solution(s)? Tack shops are limited in their stock. Online shops don't give you an opportunity to check fit, leather quality, and there still was only one option for me online that I've found so far--that pair of field boots that still wasn't really what I wanted, nor did they end up actually fitting. I've found nothing in consignment shops or swap groups. Fashion boots made in my calf width often look like they were made for pirates, and even if I found a pair that works-ish, the seams might not be suitable or they may not be durable or the heel may not be ideal. Custom boots are insanely expensive and I can't afford it.
Last edited by Vervain; 04-12-2019 at 02:47 PM.