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post #1 of 3 Old 08-23-2020, 08:27 PM Thread Starter
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Changing Riding Stables

I am special needs adult female who lives my mom in Santa Monica. I ride at two therapeutic horse riding stables, one in Chatsworth and the other in Pacific Palisades.

The Chatsworth one is where my dad who lives in Van Nuys likes taking me there because it is cheap. The Chatsworth one used to be good when I was 10. I have to cancel a lot of lessons because health or other obligations like Bocce Ball tournaments. The instructors there are focused on children, Paralympic riders, and Veterans not the special needs adult riders who want go to a few local Dressage shows. Everyone else come there sick as a dog to ride, but the instructor doesn't even care. The main instructor blames everything bad on my mom and me when the instructor cancels, the government forced them to close during the lockdown, and the fires. The instructor punishes me with a lunge line lessons after any problem that happens. Another rider broke her foot, but she didn't get that treatment when she was better. She was able to ride on a horse by herself at last year's big horse show; I had to do a lower level class on a horse that was so lazy! I never can canter which I want to. I don't even want to go back there.

The Pacific Palisades one is really good where my mom takes me, but there is not enough school horses there. The instructor and the volunteers treat my mom and me with respect. I picked the stable myself. I was able to canter a horse at the Pacific Palisades one on a lunge line lesson.

My dad said it was okay if I didn't go back to the Chatsworth one. He wants me take lessons with his friend in Shadow Hills or ride free with his girlfriend also in Shadow Hills. He just want cheap horseback riding lessons that he picks. He tells me that I am an adult, but then he picks places for me to ride horses at. I should pick the stable where I want to ride at even if I only ride two times a month at the more expensive one, so my dad can afford it.

I am keeping the Pacific Palisades one, but I want to get rid of the Chatsworth one. What are some good family oriented Dressage stables in Burbank, Malibu, Topanga Canyon, or Chatsworth? I only need assistance on mounting the horse and dismounting the horse, a three-step mounting block, a grab strap, and flexible stirrups.
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post #2 of 3 Old 08-23-2020, 09:55 PM
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I remember you writing much the same things before Dressagegirl.

Sadly it doesn't sound like much has changed in your situation.
As long as mom & dad are driving you to lessons and paying for them, even if it is some of the lesson cost they pay for then their money they get to decide where it shall get spent too.
It isn't right, but it is what it is if you want to ride.

So, show this post to dad to read...maybe it will help if he understands a bit more about being a therapeutic riding instructor..
I don't think your dad quite understands that for you to ride as you do on therapy horses is very different than riding on a lesson horse at a program of "normal" riders and extremely different than to ride a private horse who is not trained to accept the disabled rider...
It makes a difference that the horses you ride are specially trained and exposed to stimuli that most horses would freak out about those specially trained animals not blink an eye = a very big safety issue for you.

The one barn sounds to have issues with leadership and management and I too would not want to be riding their either.
Why can your mom not continue to take you to lessons where you want to go to?
If she would do that, then you no longer need to ride at the other.
Not having enough lessons horses is not your problem if you have a set lesson day and time scheduled... Then the barn has a horse assigned for you to ride.

Riding where you question how you are treated is not a place that instills faith in your abilities I see no reason to go nor spend money their either...
Save what you would spend at the place you wish to leave and use it to cut the cost of the more expensive barn and let dad know you are giving up willingly the lessons every month at the barn you don't want to associate with so you can ride where you feel wanted and don't feel safe nor wanted as a student in the other barn and do not want to return to it anymore.

Because the girlfriend has a horse or thinks she can teach is far different than teaching the challenged rider as you are.
Unless she is a certified riding instructor/coach by PATH and now PATH International then you don't know if she is trained to actually teach the disabled, without that...
Because the girlfriend rides herself does not mean she can teach...and teach you safely so you progress in abilities.
If you want to show and your instructor is not working for a PATH International accredited barn and she is not certified you may not qualify or be allowed to compete as the entry forms must be signed by a accredited/certified coach/instructor...
The biggest reason not to be forced to ride with the girlfriend nor on her horse is you don't feel safe...and feeling safe on a 1000 pound animal is the first part of being safe.
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post #3 of 3 Old 08-23-2020, 10:51 PM Thread Starter
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I can compete in regular shows like I do at the Pacific Palisades one. The Pacific Palisades instructor is a PATH International certified instructor. Dad's girlfriend is also a PATH International certified instructor, but she will be too busy with my dad to teach me properly. Dad's friend is also a certified PATH International instructor, but it will be just like the Chatsworth one. The shows that I want to go to are local Dressage schooling shows which the instructor doesn't have to be certified by PATH! I will still have the PATH International instructor from the Pacific Palisades one. I just want expand my riding by taking lessons with different instructors who treat me with respect.

I would help out at the stables and take Access Van to the my riding stable, but I can't do that because of COVID-19. If I had a caretaker who I trust, I would be able to help out at the stables where I want to ride.
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