Need Honest advice on the challenges I am having with my first horse. Thinking I need to sell him, but not even sure best way to go about it.
Short version of background: rode English for 3-4 years in my teens and didn't ride again until mid 40's. Took lessons on and off for 4-5 years. Bought first horse last February when I was 51.
Found horse on craigslist, took instructor with me and had vet check. Seemed like a good fit so I bought him. 7-8 yr old grade gelding. Brought him back to instructors place and boarded there until December. We had a really rough winter and spring weather wise so didn't get to ride him as much as needed. He got a little testy.
Finally after a few more small issues I sent him to training for 120 days. Ended in March and now he is mine to finish. Things were going very slowly after he finished training - not very happy with end product (thought he would be pretty broke) but still having small issues. He does perfect for trainer but just has my number. Was really working on ground work and was riding him in arena at a walk and trot.
Had to leave town for a family emergency for one week and when I returns there was a new mare in the paddock with my horse. That's okay because my contract for boarding says he could be in with another horse. But now I can't catch my horse. The paddock is about 1/2 acre and he just continually runs from me and hides behind the other mare. I tried for over an hour the first night and 1-1/2 hours the second night. Using methods I read about but nothing works not even treats. I told the trainer about it and he got his four wheeler and chased him until he wore out (30 minutes). He was able to catch him and then just fed him and let him go. But when I go back out tonight I can't catch him.
I want to sell him. Trainer said I won't get anything for him because he is grade and says he is really smart but lazy.
Concern: I think I need to sell him and find an older dead broke horse, but don't want to sell him to someone who will send him to be killed. He rides great, stands for farrier, loads into trailer, does not bite or kick. Should I leave him at this place and try to sell him? Or should I move him to another barn until I can sell him- where I can catch him easily (or now that he has developed this game is it correctable) I have never had to sell a horse and not sure best way to go about it. Don't care so much about money just want to make sure he gets a good home.
Sorry for the long version, just don't know where to turn.
I am a little confused here. You said your "instructor" went with you when you purchased the horse, then he was sent out for training, then a "trainer" chased him with the four wheeler. How many people are we talking about ? It seems strange to me that a horse that rode well initially for a rider of your ability would need 120 days of training. Perhaps after a winter of no work a few rides under a professional and then a GOOD trainer working with both you and the horse was all that was needed. The catching problem is certainly frustrating but that can be corrected and I am glad to hear that you are working on that. I also don't think that there is such a thing as a "perfect" horse any more than there is a perfect job or relationship. It is all a matter of what one individual is willing to work with or try to correct.