[xxBarry Godden]

Rissax
My Father never said much to me throughout our time together but on one occasion, when I had just buried a very much loved pet dog he said to me:
"Son, if you had not known the love of the dog, you would not now be feeling the pain. In life many good things come at a cost."

If the horse is still in your mind - it is not dead to you. Continue to enjoy its company - even if you can't ride the animal.

B G

 

[Speed Racer]

I lost my best and brightest over 2 1/2 years ago. He was with me for 21 years, and that's longer than a lot of marriages. We were a lot like an old married couple, too; grumped at each other, but wouldn't know what to do without the other! :wink:

I will miss him until the day I die although I can talk about him now, and laugh at some of the silly things he did and what an ornery, opinionated little cuss he was his entire life.

There are some days when the pain of his loss is just as fresh and new as the day I lost him. Other times, and these are more and more frequent, I rejoice his life and my part in it, not the loss of his death.

I understood Kevin's response, and I think he was reacting to your comment that you can't talk about your horse without getting depressed and teary eyed. After so many years you should at least be able to laugh about and appreciate the good times you had, not continuously dwell on his loss.

It's okay to miss them and occasionally grieve deeply for them. It's not okay to never be able to remember the joy, and only think of the sorrow of their passing.

 

[kevinshorses]

If you had been greiving over a spouse or parent for 9 years and were troubled to point of dreaming about them frequently and having the memories adversely affect your life I would say you need to get some proffesional help. The fact that it was a horse makes little difference in the advice I would give. You could be suffering from depression and need counciling or medicine to help you cope.

 

[rissaxbmth]

If you had been greiving over a spouse or parent for 9 years and were troubled to point of dreaming about them frequently and having the memories adversely affect your life I would say you need to get some proffesional help. The fact that it was a horse makes little difference in the advice I would give. You could be suffering from depression and need counciling or medicine to help you cope.

I have depression and I do have medicine for it.

 

[kevinshorses]

I think my advice still applies.