[Kalraii]

Subbing. Finally. Not gonna lie your other thread was intimidating to scroll through on a mobile (especially when it sometimes would go back to the top or where I started!) I love the timeline thank you for doing that for those of us needing it xD Beautiful pictures. Your previous thread and this one already is an inspiration to not give up when the rough days come by.

 

[Kalraii]

Yay for happy ending in the move... aww coz you sound taken advantage off. It's gotta be great and exciting to be part of this but sheesh. I can understand being anxious... I asked my instructor/yard manager to load/unload for me the first few times but I still tidied the box :O I wonder if she's realised this pony isn't what she was hoping for and already quickly disconnected? Or maybe seeing how much effort it already was (despite sounding fantastic given everything) was off putting? I've also seen people, past "Friends", that quickly lose interest in an animal or hobby when someone comes along and connects/does better. Of course the more experienced horseperson is gonna probably do better but the whole point is to learn from the challenge and share the reward :< Maybe a more hands off approach letting her be in full control would help? A real shame but it tells you everything you need to know and I wouldn't be trusting her with very much. After the ordeal you described I'd probably be up there at 3am making sure the horse wasn't colicking and on my knees thanking you for being there! It is a real downer. I am finding each year I am becoming more jaded and losing faith in people. Glad the mare has you and hope the new owner steps up. She's gonna be a real pretty mare once fixed up!

 

[Kalraii]

Oh no. You need to get out of this situation ASAP O.O I've been bitten too many times now. I lost a few friends when I sold my car, after moving Katie closer. How sad is that? Guess how many of those friends were non-drivers? lol. In London of all places where transport is pretty aight. Anything more than a 20minute journey is considered a trek :/ I thought they were taking the mick but this lady of yours... I'm really glad you picked up on it quickly though and can take action to try distance yourself. Help Estelle and then shut that door for good! People I don't know get one "freebie" and the harder they try pull on my heart strings the quicker they get plucked. Just dont have the energy for it anymore. It's nice reading in real time you helping an unhandled mare and sharing the progress.

 

[Kalraii]

That is exactly like the uh strange person I'm dealing with. Explosive and random behaviour. It took filing THREE police reports for her to finally get the message and leave me alone. Even now she tries to stare me down as I walk past or bangs pots together if I'm having a conversation nearby. Anyone, and that now means everyone, that talks to me or goes out with, she insults and ignores. It's at a point the only person she is "friends" with is the young timid lady that has a horsebox. I wonder why she didn't destroy that "friendship" hmm...

I wonder if she's using this as a good way to dump the pony or if later on she might go back on her words and try to "prove people that she can do it" or summat? Either way I guess both you and the barn owner have it in writing, sort of. I feel really bad for her because she obviously needs help - but has to be willing to accept it and actually try. But we only have so much to give. Not your problem! Hope it works out :O

 

[Kalraii]

I'm having trouble getting pics to link in on my phone. What do you think about this halter? It has a velcro noseband and throatlatch, no metal hardware. It seems like it would be safer than leather even. Am I missing any safety issues?

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07PLK4BBV/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_imm_JBRXGR2EJNE91SWTGPMH

That's like the one I want to be able to put a nose net on for Katie when its really dusty. Some here have velcro muzzles and its actually to the owners dismay as they get them off so easily because of it so I'm seriously considering it. They don't last long apparently if you overuse the velcro but I'd probably spend a bit of time making it weak specifically so it breaks faster. Or shortening the velcro bits so its just a couple cm of velcro than a whole strip?

 

[Kalraii]

I laughed at the video where she clearly didn't like the taste I love that stuff ahah

 

[Kalraii]

I love positive reinforcement but completely agree with you all - there are times and some personalities that require a harsher hand. Even a little fear can get better, faster results sometimes. The trainers I relate to most are the ones that have both sides of the coin, literally. Too much one way can create a dangerous animal or completely kill their spirit. Sometimes love is doing the "ugly" thing. Honestly I have so many times loved to hand over a raging macaw and ask them to try. Or restrain an aggressive python coz don't we love throttling them? The last incident I remember was a friend's boyfriend got an adult male iguana (right?) that needed his eyes bathed and drops. It took me and a muscle man to pin that TEACUP down and get it done, after I advised that he go back to his vet because this just wasn't gonna work, we couldn't go there twice a day for him. We were then chewed out for being "abusive". He honestly thought there would be another way.. sure let's just wait for it to go blind, it'll probably let us near it then Sometimes a job just needs doing. For the record he ended up giving the iguana away less than a week later to a sanctuary - I had refused to take it.

I think they have it in their mind that rescue centres and veterinary practices are sunshine and rainbows. It's sooo far from it. What vet is gonna sit there and clicker train an animal just to get an IV in? Do whatchugottado! Also the vast majority of "gentle" handlers I've come across either refuse or have never experienced working with a truly difficult or even dangerous animal. I think my earliest memory of one the extremes was with the llama at our college. Girl from the equine course thought she could save this llama (who was pinning/humping everyone and later shot) with gentle methods. She got a faceful of spit. That was ALL IT TOOK to put her off and she was quite hurt as she was being so nice to him, saying nice words. A real glob of reality Good luck not gonna lie I am still enjoying you sharing your processes and figuring this out!

 

[Kalraii]

Its amazing how time flies and what some loving can do - she looks gorgeous! I wasn't sure if I missed somewhere since full ownership but you planning on backing her (is she too small?) or driving?

 

[Kalraii]

Oh dang. I was scrolling down "nah nah WHAT"

To be fair there are quite a few mares at my field, most definitely not bred, that look like that. But my goodness... I would hate for my mare to be bred (coz risk) but at the same time overjoyed. Much wow, big confusion. Good luck

 

[Kalraii]

I am so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful tribute. I agree with the manner in which you chose to lay her to rest. It is unfortunate that something so necessary in my opinion - a quick and painless end - has to cost so. That should be a right for every living creature. Sometimes the only consolation is the quick relief the needle brings, the only way I've found to be able to live with myself at times for also regretting letting things go too far at times. She was so beautiful, I was only just yesterday browsing and determined to make sure I do everything I can to let my two girls age so gracefully.

 

[Kalraii]

I didn't know where to write this nor could I actually figure out how to say it but your recent posts helped. Many on here bring comfort during difficult times it really is true. It's often me having to reassure others experience their first traumatic loss (human or otherwise) because I've been through so much and y'know, life really does just go on. I don't have "that" person I can turn to in real life so to speak. Now I get to read the likes of yourself and @SueC and I feel like I can breathe.. coming here makes the loneliness of dealing with all that go away. Especially better when you meet those kind souls in the real, like when your little lady was taken on her last journey. I'm glad she'll be buried. I don't really mind cremation either but something feels right about letting nature take over the rest. Hope you're feeling better.

 

[Kalraii]

I love her neck and mane. I have my phone tucked away most of the time, which is why I never have pictures when exciting things happen. It’s just time to focus. Lol

It was blowing my mind because you had her on your left. When I had my broken foot I tried to put Queen on the left, and it was such a mess. 😂 I pony like I rope, and apparently my horses agree.

I was about to write the same thing. She has an amazing mane. Look how far and how fast you've progressed. It's wonderful. She's so darned lucky! That cart video I have to say that tail swishing back and forth is very cute. The noise would worry me doesn't something need greasing?!

 

[Kalraii]

You look fantastic on her not at all too big! Not at all. How very exciting, can't wait to see your new adventures. Thanks for sharing the video I loved it. Hero is such a goof and Aria is such a boss A ride n drive on the way... poor Hero I hope he feels better soon. When you dismount do you usually leave one foot in the stirrup? Is this a thing? Never in my life shall I ever! Not that I can on Katie without doing the splits.