[WhattaTroublemaker]

So I just need to let some steam off. I don't know what's been going on in my life.

I seem to have absolutely awful bad luck, but have good enough of luck to come away from it unscathed.

Fist, I went to work, locked my car, opened my window about an inch, and went inside. I came out at 11pm to find my windows pried down and my doors unlocked. I had just finished house sitting for someone, so I had my 2500$ camera in there, as well as my phone, my laptop and other personal items. I was hysterical. I didn't even bother looking for them. I just ran inside crying asking if there were any cameras in that parking lot. There wasn't. I went out to see the damage, and NOTHING was stolen except a few dollars of change, and my clothes were moved around. I couldn't believe it.

Two days later, I got up, like I do every morning, at 5am. I left for work in the dark. I was going about 90km an hour and all of the sudden there was a MOOSE, who bolted out of a logging road in front of me. I slammed my breaks, cut the wheel and closed my eyes. I felt an impact, and was sitting sideways in my small neon in the middle of the road. The moose was running up the road to my right. I drove the rest of the way to work a bit shook up but okay. I washed my windshield that day and found hair where I hit him. If I was going any faster, he would have come in my passenger window.

Then, the next day, a child cut in front of me on a bicycle on a blind hill, and I cut into the ditch. I was able to drive out and there was no harm to the child except a little lesson and some fear.

Yesterday I fed Trouble and the rest of the horses like always, and was standing guard while everyone ate. I wasn't paying attention until I heard something behind me. One of my mares left her grain and was giving me an evil look, and I waved, my arm and shooed her away, and she turned and came literally an inch away from double barreling my face. I could see the bottom of both her feet. My dad saw it, and came in asking if I was okay, he thought for sure she got me in the face with both feet.

Today... Today scared me most. I was driving home, and put my blinker (which works, btw) to turn onto my road. I noticed a white van riding my @ss, so I slowed down way before, very slowly and turned my signal on a bit early-to give them time to slow down without hitting me- there was traffic coming so I stopped with my signal on. Well the witch stopped behind me, and decided she would go around me between the ditch and my car, blowing her horn. She hit my bumper and pushed me into oncoming traffic, and sped away. I cut down my road, cutting the traffic off and just missing being hit head on. I was crying until I got home. She didn't even stop.

WHAT in the world is going on with me? I don't know what I'm doing or what I did to deserve this kind of Karma. I am just so beat down. Yesterday my boss yelled at me in front of customers and I just broke down, and had to leave for an hour, crying hysterically. I just don't know what's going on. I don't cry, ever, and I've just been so run down and stressed... I just broke down. In front of regulars, people who know me.

 

[Horsef]

Well, you could look at from a different perspective: you've been having great luck lately with so many near-misses. But I get what you're saying - if I were you I would want to take the week off and just spend it on the sofa, reading. Hopefully what ever this is has run its course.

 

[Kriva]

If the saying "what doesn't kill you will make you stronger" is true, then you should be at Wonder Woman status now. I'm sorry you're having these issues. Sometimes it does seem like when one thing goes wrong then it's just down hill from there and everything will go wrong. It also gets worse when you are exhausted and stressed, as you then don't always make the best decisions or pay as close attention to things as you should. I'm not saying that any of the things you mentioned were your doing, just that when we're tired we aren't always seeing things clearly. I do not have car accidents (knock on wood) but a few months after my mom passed away I totaled my car. The other person was in the wrong but I could have prevented it too. I think I was just still in a daze with everything going on that I wasn't as "on top of my game" like I should have been.

However, at least you can recognize that within these bad things, there is the silver lining of the fact that you made it through each of them alive and well. Your expensive items weren't stolen (thieves are sometimes really stupid, thank Goodness), and the auto and horse incidents could have ended up in disaster. Through it all you are ok! So maybe it's not bad luck at all, just incredibly good luck that you've made it through all of these things unscathed.

 

[KLJcowgirl]

:shock:

OH HONEY!!! I'm just glad you're ok. And THAT is something to be grateful for.

It's interesting how everything seems to go down hill at once.... :icon_rolleyes: I think we've all been there on more than one occasion.

I agree with Horsef! Maybe a couple days off is needed here if at all possible for some you time! Maybe things seem to be accumulating because you're a bit stressed (rightfully so stressed!).

Stay safe girlie! Chin up. From what I've seen of you here you are a STRONG and INTELLIGENT person and I admire you. You will persevere. I will keep you on my mind and try to send you good vibes haha

Hugs :hug:

 

[tinyliny]

so, did the thief take your photo equip> ? I'm not sure I understood correctly or not.

I would have trouble with the driver that sped past you on the inside, when you are signalling to turn left. It endangers both your lives, but more so yours. I might have lost my temper and chased them down the highway, afteer recovering from the shock.

hope you hit an equally big streak of good luck, soon.

 

[WhattaTroublemaker]

so, did the thief take your photo equip> ? I'm not sure I understood correctly or not.

I would have trouble with the driver that sped past you on the inside, when you are signalling to turn left. It endangers both your lives, but more so yours. I might have lost my temper and chased them down the highway, afteer recovering from the shock.

hope you hit an equally big streak of good luck, soon.

Thanks everyone. I have four days off now, hoping everything calms down.

And nope tiny, nothing expensive was touched except a few dollars change, and my clothes had been moved around, thrown on the floor, etc. It was awful. I can still see the marks on my window where someone used something to shimmy my window down and unlock the door. My mcdonalds cup of pop was knocked over too, and they left the window down and the doors unlocked. The only logical reason I can think why they didn't steal my camera equipment is that someone may have walked by or saw them. I asked the waitresses at work if they saw anything suspicious going on around my car and none of them had. Unless of course, it was one of the workers. Anywho, I just make double sure to keep my windows up and my doors locked, and park closer to the doors.

 

[tinyliny]

many years ago I was up visiting Vancouver BC and left my car parked in an area that , though I did not know it, was lousy with drug addicts who break into cars to steal. we foolishly left our luggage in the car while out shopping, and , YEP, car window was smashed and all luggage and shopping (expensive tea from Chinatown) was stolen.

the thing that upset me the most was imagining some slimey addict using my beautiful Mason Pearson hairbrush on their dirty locks. I was angry and revolted. we reported the loss to the cops, who acted basically like "Stupid Yanks, you'd think they'd know better". Needless to say, we cancelled our hotel reservation, taped up the window and drove teh 3 hourse home. It took me a long time before I was willing to set foot in Van again.

But , the good part was , upon returning home, I discovered that I had forgotten to pack my hairbrush, thus I still had it! same with my husband's pricey camera. so, we did not lose the things that reallly mattered. I call that GOOD luck.

 

[tennesseewalkers]

You're not the only one who had a string of severely bad luck! In the same week a few weeks ago, I:
-almost got arrested (was out past curfew, didn't realize there was a curfew, my friends and I just wanted to go swing at a park across the street and thought it wouldn't be an issue until cops showed up, I'm not proud of it)
-was kneed in the face by a horse
-watched a girl nearly break her arm falling off a horse
-and was broken up with by someone I really liked (over FaceBook, just to add insult to injury)
However, the past few weeks after that have all been really good. There seems to be a pattern in my life that whenever I have a period of everything sucking, I have a period of everything going amazing next. I hope it's the same way for you! Chin up!

 

[elkdog]

I think of God as an expert horse packer. He puts the big loads on the big horses (or people). Never more than they can handle.

 

[GMA100]

I think of God as an expert horse packer. He puts the big loads on the big horses (or people). Never more than they can handle.

^^I was going to say the same thing!


But yes, I see hardships as a way to make me stronger. I don't know if you believe in God, but I believe that he sometimes will give us some trial as ways to test us to see how strong we are and even to show us our own strength. Maybe there is something 'big' coming up in your life and God is preparing you for it.

I love listening to this song when I'm down. I hope life gets better for you soon!

 

[WhattaTroublemaker]

I'm not a believer, but I do appreciate your kind words! They say it comes in threes and sevens, so I'm just waiting for my luck to change.

 

[WhattaTroublemaker]

It's not over guys. I lost two of my good friends this week, one tonight and I just found out and I don't know how to deal with grief and it's all coming out now I'm devastated and I don't know how to deal with it.

 

[Mewlie]

Words over the internet aren't much comfort but I'm truly sorry all this horrid stuff is happening to you. Losing friends and loved ones is gut-wrenching, and to have to lose two so quickly is unimaginable. I hope you have someone in your life that can give you a great big hug and let you know that eventually something in the universe has to change for you for the better and until that time you have people who will be behind you 100%.

 

[JCnGrace]

My sympathies on the deaths of your friends, Whatta. Stay strong and a cyber hug to you.

 

[gunslinger]

Everyone's life has storms....and we're either in a storm, just past a storm, or waiting on another storm....

To me, the one thing I try to avoid, is being sucked into another person's storm.....

 

[redbarron1010]

I am sorry for your bad luck lately. I have had weeks like that! That is where the expression "when it rains, it pours" comes from. Your boss probably got yelled at by someone else and took it out on you. that's wrong but it sure does happen. I have been in the bathroom crying at work more times than I can count. You cannot change that, and don't dwell on it, just say "he was a jerk" and move on. I am glad you were ok with the other situations. I agree that it would be more like good luck that you weren't seriously hurt, especially with your mare. Light a candle, and say thanks for your guardian angel watching over you and keeping you safe... and then sell that mare... Just kidding ;-)

 

[PoptartShop]

Wow, I am glad you are OK first off...I can understand. I have weeks (sometimes months!) like this...where 'bad' things happen, & my luck is just terrible.
But, this has to mean something good is going to happen. That is how it usually goes.
With 4 days off I think you will be able to recuperate & relax; just be extra careful driving too. It seems like everyone is out to get you! I know the feeling.
It seems like bad things happen in 3's (but for me it feels like 5-10) :lol: you will get through this rough patch.
Stay strong!!

& think of the positives (even though it's hard)- they did not take your expensive equipment, your phone, etc...& you did not get severe damage to your car with both incidents...& you ended up safe with the horse situation...try to flip it into something positive. It's easier said than done, believe me...but I hope things get better.

 

[KLJcowgirl]

My deepest condolences (I'm guessing lost meant death there and I'm going with it, if not... this sentiment still remains).

I've only really ever dealt with one death of someone close to me, and that was my Grandpa. He truly was my best friend. He was the one who got me to where I am with the horses. We spent countless hours at the barn together. He was the one who registered my Gelding in my name. He always had a way of explaining things (EVERYTHING in life) like no one else. He had a contagious sense of humor and could make anyone happy. I still struggle with that, and its been over 10 years. I have so many days when I wish he were here to see something, or that I could call him up and tell him about my day. The hardest thing I've had to deal with is the fact that my husband will never know him, they would have loved each other. Many things remind me of him and I cry often. What's worked well for me though to accept the fact that he's gone, is I had to find a "positive". His health has been bad since the day he was born, but it plummeted a couple months before he died. He could no longer do the things he loved and it is comforting to know his suffering and misery is over. I do also believe in a higher power than us and do believe we will be reunited some day... I know that's not for everyone, and you did say you were not a believer (and that's perfectly fine!), but that is another thing that keeps me going. And the days I wish I could have told him something, I write him a letter. Maybe it's silly, but I do. I take it to his grave and leave it there (yeah I litter haha), but that is another thing that helps me cope.

I know it's extremely hard to do that though when someone so young is lost. I have no idea what I would do or feel if I lost my my close friends, especially since I really only have a few truly close friends anymore. Maybe you can find some way to honor their memory, since it might be kind of tough to find a "positive" in this case.

I truly do wish you the best Whatta. Life is the hardest test I've ever taken! I'm sure that's the same for a lot of other people. I am glad you had a couple days off of work, and hopefully that helped you decompress a little bit (though that's hard to do when things just keep piling up!) If you have someone to confide in, do it. If you don't, go give Trouble a big hug around the neck and breathe deep. Tell him all your fears and worries. Tell him all your struggles. I can't count the number of times my horses have saved me from my own mind. They are magical creatures.

 

[Zexious]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Whatta.

In regards to the subject of the thread, I can most definitely relate. It seems as though I am perpetually putting myself in near death situations; I can't figure out if I'm unlucky that they keep happening to me, or lucky that I keep surviving.

Many of you know that I fell off a third story balcony almost four years ago. It was a 40ish foot fall onto concrete. I shattered my calcaneus, broke my pelvis in four places, broke my tail bone and my hip, and cracked my skull in three places.
But I had no cognitive issues, no paralysis... I'm still dealing with it, but as a whole am alright.

Just two (three now?) weeks ago, my Boyfriend totaled my car.
We're going 70+ in the fast lane. I'm in the passenger seat, and his brother is in the back (we were going to visit their dying grandmother... go figure). I look in the side view mirror and see the entire back half my car engulfed in flames. I say "Oh my god, we're on fire!" And Tristan goes to apply the breaks and pull onto the shoulder, since we were already in the fast lane.
Immediately the back end of the car slips out from underneath him. We hit the median, do a 360, hit the median again, and ultimately land on our side in a burning car.
I had gotten my oil changed two days before; turns out the mechanic didn't put my filter or the cap on right. My car is totaled, and I'm heart broken, but (somehow?) no one was hurt. If any one thing about that had been different (If we had been in a different lane; if we had been in a different part of Texas; if there hadn't been a median and we had gone into oncoming traffic, or into the center ditch thing) the outcome would have probably been much more grim.

So I can totally sympathize.

 

[PoptartShop]

Just saw the new post (before I posted my reply) about your friends - I am so sorry for your loss. :sad: That is terrible. Hugs to you.