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I grew up at a barn where if that kind of crap happened, you got kicked out. I have my own barn to train out of now and I run things the same way. I do not tolerate drama, and these girls are being dangerous.
If you think your trainer is trustworthy, I would mention it to her. I would also talk to your parents or another adult you trust. Perhaps another barn employee?
Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and call them out. You don't have to return the abusive behavior, but next time they bother you, look them right in the eye and ask them to back off. You will be amazed what confidence can do. They might still try, but if you don't yield then they can't hurt you. Don't let them close to you. Don't talk to them. Don't ride with them, and don't acknowledge them. If they want to start something with you, be assertive. Tell them to get away. Tell them your horse is your horse and it's your decision what you do, not theirs.
If you think your trainer is trustworthy, I would mention it to her. I would also talk to your parents or another adult you trust. Perhaps another barn employee?
Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and call them out. You don't have to return the abusive behavior, but next time they bother you, look them right in the eye and ask them to back off. You will be amazed what confidence can do. They might still try, but if you don't yield then they can't hurt you. Don't let them close to you. Don't talk to them. Don't ride with them, and don't acknowledge them. If they want to start something with you, be assertive. Tell them to get away. Tell them your horse is your horse and it's your decision what you do, not theirs.
