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I'm starting to get discouraged and depressed lately. I have been trying to get my heart horse back for 6 years, and keep comming out empty handed. I have been searching EVERY day (browsing through ads, making phone calls, etc) for 6 YEARS and still cannot find my friend. I feel like I'm a failure. I promised him when I had to leave, that I would find him and bring him home, not matter what. I had given him to my friend as my family had to move out of the area and could not afford to board horse's where we were going. My sister managed to get a job, and brought her boy along, but I was too young and couldn't afford to pay for board. My friend sold him on me a few years later, and would not tell me where he was. I finally tracked down who she sold him to, but those owners had resold him because he had started bucking. I have traced him through 6 different owners, but each one says they just sold him a few months ago. I came to a dead end last november, and havn't picked up any leads since. I have been browsing adds, posting wanted notices, and making phone calls like crazy, but no one has seen him. I'm so worried that he got sent for dog food, or put down, and its literally eating me up inside that I can't find him, and don't even know if he's still alive. I've known my boy since he hit the ground, and more than half his life. The only thing I want in life is to get him back.
I'm sorry for such the long post, but I needed to get this off my chest, and would love to hear any success stories from anyone on here who have finally found a missing horse. He was my heart horse, and I just want him home some badly.
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I'm sorry you can't find your friend, but you're going to have to face the fact that you may never know where he is, or what his ultimate fate turned out to be.

I'm not telling you to completely give up, but for your own sanity you may HAVE to. Sometimes we can't keep promises we made in good faith. This may be one of those times.

If he was registered you might have a better chance, but if he's grade you'll have just that much more difficulty. Grade horses can be extremely hard to track.
 

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have you contacted netpose for help? they are very good at finding lost horses
 

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I know exactly how you feel! I just posted my story on another thread and although I got some negative feedback, I think it will help you see the light at the end of the tunnel. SpeedRacer is right though, you may never find him and although it tears your heart out, you have to give yourself some time accept that and to grieve. That moment came to me when I finally broke down and told my fiance how much it was eating me inside and he let me cry it out in his arms. It's hard to lose a best friend, especially when you don't know if he's being well taken care of, if he's happy, or even alive. When I finally found Stormy, I could not have imagined a better life for him when I sold him. It was nothing like the terrors I had imagined he'd been through (although he was passed around a lot too). He was on a private farm with 4 other horses, fat, happy, and although he wasn't what they were looking for, he was loved. There are success stories out there and by no means should you give up.. Just don't be so hard on yourself for having to sell him. That's what ate me alive for years. Guilt is more powerful than some people realize.

Here's my story.. Maybe I can give you some hope for a brighter future..

http://www.horseforum.com/horse-talk/special-bond-138056/page3/
 

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Thanks for all the encouragement. I do understand that I may never find him, but I just cannot let myself give up yet.
I've posted on Kijiji and a facebook group for the area that helps find horses (both stolen, and one's that have been sold).
I never thought to post his info on here, but I guess there's no harm in it. I'll check out netposse too- i thought it was only for stolen horses, which is not the case here.
He's 11/12 years old, and is an appy/ draft cross. He's around 16hh (can't remember exactly), has a lopsided star and half stripe, and a few white spots on each shoulder from an ill-fitting saddle. Last known location was in NB Canada, and he was going by the name Sir Chevington. His birth name was Kidder.



 

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I am sorry that you are going through that. I can only imagine the sick feeling you have. I pray you can find your dear boy and he is well. Not knowing is the worst.
 

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I definitely don't think you should give up! I just meant that you shouldn't be so hard on yourself about it. It's easy to let the guilt eat you up. He's precious to you and that's what matter the most. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for missing him either.. I learned that the hard way and its one of the reasons I never talked to anyone about it until recently.

I wish you the best of luck finding your boy and if you do, make sure you let us know!
 

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Not knowing is definitely the worst. Even if he is no longer alive, knowing that would at least give me some closure. I'm hoping to find him healthy and happy, but the last photo I was able to find of him (from last year), he looked like an overworked, broken down horse. He looked like he was in his 20s, and it broke my heart a bit. Hopefully the people that have him now are treating him well. He's also very prone to colic, so the idea that he was put down due to it is always nagging at me.
If I do find him, you guys will be the first to know.
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I am going to say don't give up. There are some very kind and loving horse people in this world.

I had a simullar situation last year. I had to move my herd to a pasture as my parents moved off the 18 stall horse farm we rented. Horses where my thing no one elses in the family.

Long story short I had a broodmare named Spook. Unbroke pretty much wild mare. I rescued her. Thinking in panic mode I placed her up for sale. I advertised her for what she was. I had 3 trainers tell me to ship her.

Well this kind (at the time) lady came out to look at her. She did three visits and I seemed they be a good fit. We came to the agreement she pay 150.00 for her, however there would be no breeding her, I would be given first option buy back at purchase if Spook ever needed be resold.

WELL... 2 months later Spook came up for sale on kijiji for 1500.00 *** this bomb proof kids horse. Knowing Spook, hence her name, what I have done and what she was before me it baffled me. I contacted her saying I like follow through out agreement. Well adds disappeared in 2 hours and I got back if you want her she 1500.00 now.I responded back many times saying we had an agreement. It was in our emails. She never responded. I spent every evening scrolling through kijiji adds for her. Add came up again now wanting 1700.00 about month later. And a picture of JUST spooks eye under a different name.

I contacted her saying I would like to see Spook as we agreed and follow through with our agreement. No response. I sent her 3 emails, spoke to a lawyer. She tried saying I was harrassing her in her final response. Well adds where gone again.

I didn't see any new adds.

I posted a wanted add on kijiji. The new owner of Spook contacted me. Said I could come get her for 700.00. That when she saw Spook she normally doesn't buy that type of horse but she was underweight hooves hacked too short wrong angles and a cut on her nose that needed stitches but never got them.

I trailed up there the following day and got Spook. She showed the pictures of her when she first got her (2 week differnce).

There are many nice horse people. Spooks previous owner didn't have to but she took a lost so Spook could come home, as she says where she belongs. Oh and guess what got Spook home, wanted see how she was with this "riding" thing. I walk near her with a pad she broke her hatler and reared. To saddle her was like a wild bronc. She bucked under saddle and reared. I took about month working with her to calm her. And this mare was advertised by lady I sold her to as a kids lesson horse... Hmmmmm.
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Keep trying, I found what happenend to mine, same situation as yours. too young and couldn't pay for board.
I found him through Kijiji the only thing was it was not good news.
However He did have a good home and was loved very much. I felt so much better knowing what happend to him. I found him 15 years later.
 

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Wow! I am surprised at how many people hav found specific horses on Kijiji. You can count me in on that lot as well.

Sam is my old man Clyde x. We got him as a 3 year old, over 17 years ago. About 8 years ago, we reluctantly sold him to friends who we knew would give him a great home. At the time, my kids were quite young making iit difficult for us to give him the time and attention he deserved. A couple years later, we learned he had been sold again. I was disappointed and prayed he had a good home, especially since I knew he was getting on in age. I wasn't really looking for Sam, but worried about him. In June of 2011, I stumbled upon an ad on Kijiji from another part of the province. He was for sale again. By that time, my kids had become much more independent, my daughter was an avid rider and we had just moved to an acreage where we had the space for more horses. Needless to say, it took all of 5 minutes to decide to buy him back.

Now, he is 21 years old and happily munching in the pasture with his "herd" just outside my kitchen window. Between my daughter and I, we ride him at least twice a week, saving our weekend trail rides just for him. My husband thinks he has won the horse lottery. I don't know about that, but I do know he has won my heart all over again and I may have also won his.

I guess the point of telling you this story is to say don't give up. It is possible you might not find your horse, but when you least expect it, you might. If / when you do, the horse will remember and it will be worth it.

I sincerely wish you the very best of luck in finding your horse again.
 
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