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I see this happens a lot in the US just as it does in other countrirs. Apparently a bill was supposed to be drafted 9 months ago.

Too many countries are sitting on their collective behinds on this one.. Many will ask where are the parents of the little snots who behave this way?

I would venture that it is the parents in many cases that are in fact "showing the way" and setting the example from what I see on so many sites.


Boston, MA.

The story of Massachusetts high school student Phoebe Prince's death is waking up lawmakers on Beacon Hill.


The freshman at South Hadley High School died Jan. 14. and two students accused of bullying the15-year-old have been punished.

According to the principal, Prince, who had recently moved to western Massachusetts from Ireland, was harassed through texting and Facebook entries by a clique of girls.

Whether she committed suicide because of all the taunting police are still investigating. About 200 students held a vigil the night after Prince died and several web tribute pages for her popped up Facebook. Most of the messages were positive but others were cruel had to be taken down.

Many legislators are feeling more pressure to do something to stop bullying before another child commits suicide.

For months, lawmakers have been working on an anti-bullying bill some say it should finally head to the House and Senate sometime next week. Meanwhile the school formed a task force to examine the bullying issue.
 

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I cannot remember the name of the film I watched, but it was about Cyber Bullying. A teenage girl was being picked on and bullied by her peers from school via chat rooms and e-mails - it was a great movie, and a great way to show those through telivision what is going on today.

I have been cyber bullied, and even am today. I play alot of Xbox live, a specific game called Call Of Duty.

I get picked on alot because I am a girl, in a overly populated man community who plays the game. When they find out I am a girl, they get very ignorant - and sometimes, it comes to messages being sent to me with very nasty comments, and I even get sexually insulting messages, and once in a while, I get pictures of their genitalia sent to me.

Yes, seriously.

My Husband discussed this with Xbox themselves, and there isn't much they can do. I can report them, and who knows where it'll go from there. My Husband wasn't happy with the response, so he contacted the police.

They said, that it is cyber bullying and it is a crime. So when it happens again, I am to save the messages and they will supina Xbox for the person's information, and if deemed necessary, they will be charged.

Charged not only for bullying, but for sexual harrassment.
 

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I used to get bullied when I was in grades 7 and half of 8. It was horrible. Everyone was scared to stand up to the girl who did it to, which just made it worse, because they'd just watch while she'd be horrible to me.
I seriously hated going to school and skipped many times because i just couldn't deal with her. She made me cry every single freaking week! She also bullied some of my friends but she would bully different people in different ways. She also hacked into my msn account and spread rumors about me and she would talk about me behind my back.
But thankfully during the last few weeks before Christmas holiday we started to stand up to her and we ignored her, so she changed schools. :D
Thanks to her I hate getting calls from numbers I don't know and i had to change all my passwords,etc.
She was horrible! I really hope she has matured!
 

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I've never been bullied in person, which I attribute to the fact that I've always been a fairly quiet person who sticks to herself...

But I have been cyber-bullied a few times by random people who somehow got my AIM screenname. Still not sure how they ot it, as I don't advertise it and only inform my closest internet friends (which, at this point, there's only one person who has it, lol). I just ignored it, never wrote back, and sometimes blocked the other person. It quit, regardless. Lol, and now I'm back bully-free.
 

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I cannot remember the name of the film I watched, but it was about Cyber Bullying. A teenage girl was being picked on and bullied by her peers from school via chat rooms and e-mails - it was a great movie, and a great way to show those through telivision what is going on today.
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odd girl out


It was a very good movie for teens to watch.
 

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It's tough enough to be a kid in your own skin much less being picked on by your peers. I wonder, if I had children today if I would even allow internet access except on a very restricted basis. I don't think any kid needs a cell phone with internet access either. I'd be a mean mom :evil:
 

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The internet provides a way to send messages anonymously. People are more forthcoming with information and tend to judge - and hit reply - faster because there is no association face-to-face. You can't see the other person's reaction, and it is very easy to hide behind "oh, well s/he took it the wrong way," as one cannot convey tone through text.
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"Sorry to sound insensitive, but grow some thicker skin. Ignore it and move on." - I take this to be insulting. Perhaps you didn't mean it as such, but I took it that way. That is the problem with text, there is no emotion behind it. I am a very sensitive person, and I take things to heart - whether it's online or face-to-face. I am the same person online as I am in person.
Whether we like it or not, communication is becoming digitalized. It used to be easy to shut off the computer or phone and ignore what people said to you, but that is becoming less and less the case. People are depending on the internet for communication, and because of this, we have to take responsibility for what we say and do online, and realize that there is another human being on the other side of the screen. If you wouldn't say it to their faces, why would you type it in a reply box, texting screen, or message?
Again, it's a very impersonal way of getting your message across - more to the point, it provides an 'out' for bullies; they can say "that's not now I meant it," or "it wasn't me, so-and-so hacked my account, and sent those rumors out."
The internet provides a new way for bullies to be even less accountable for their actions.
 

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I am pretty cut and dry. Im sorry but words will only hurt you as much as you let them. Its mean and cruel for people to make fun of each other, but it will always happen. Mostly because those people are insecure about themselves.
Living in it and feeling bad only strengthens a bullies power and makes you feel worthless.
So, Again grow thicker skin. Ignore it and move on.
 

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I do take issue with those who try to squelch free speech on the Internet. It is a place where people speak their mind. I don't think that should ever change. Its one of the last uncontrolled voices we have. Even as a mod I have to decide what is free speech and what is unacceptable. I can't be a thread Nazi and edit helter skelter as I see fit. Its more of having to take the stance for the masses, not just based on my opinion.
If a statement is made "grow some skin" well that is that persons opinion and they have the right to voice it. Its up to the individual whether to read it or not.
I think it is the fault of the parent that allows their child free access to this media. If anyone needs censure, its them, not the adults who willingly partake in it.
If your going to let your child onto the Internet then yes, they had better grow some thicker skin. In my opinion the answer is to not allow them free access in the first place.
 

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^ I agree. I was always pretty well monitored on the internet. I will say I have a decently thick skin (and head) too...lol. In school only a few people tried to bully me. I ignored them, they got mad, they yelled, adn then I laughed at them in front of everyone. It pretty much stopped the bullying. I have also never had an issue with stepping in if I see someone else bullied. I would have wanted someone to step in if it were me, a friend, or my younger sister. I have that whole want to right the wrongs attitude about it. It has gotten me in trouble before, but sometimes it helps that person find enough of a backbone to say back off. If not, it at least gives them some time to get away.
 

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IMHO cyberbulling is not bad...at all. I'm 14 (15 next week!) and being made fun of to your face is much MUCH worse. I get made of a lot and when someone sends you a mean e-mail you can delete it and be done. But when someone makes fun of you to your face them there are usually other people there that join in. And there is not much you can do when it's in the middle of class and the teacher actully joins in. If you are getting made fun of on Facebook just DON'T GET ON IT! You can't avoid going to school (trust me I've tried) but you can avoid getting on Facebook and opening up texts that you know are mean. Just my honest opinion...
 

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IMHO cyberbulling is not bad...at all. I'm 14 (15 next week!) and being made fun of to your face is much MUCH worse. I get made of a lot and when someone sends you a mean e-mail you can delete it and be done. But when someone makes fun of you to your face them there are usually other people there that join in. And there is not much you can do when it's in the middle of class and the teacher actully joins in. If you are getting made fun of on Facebook just DON'T GET ON IT! You can't avoid going to school (trust me I've tried) but you can avoid getting on Facebook and opening up texts that you know are mean. Just my honest opinion...
Live a little longer and you may feel the full brunt of true cyberbullying, stalking and harassment.

One individual was subjected to seeing a picture of a tombstone with their name on it. A real threat,.. probably not if the distance is great but the implication is there. The legal department that monitored that site felt it was a threat.

With face to face confrontation at least you see your harassers but on the net, it could be your best friend in real live that has a grudge. Just get a username and stalk your victim (or your best friend). So easily done and IS done.


Lets hope you never are in a situation like that. There was even one case where in a chat room one person was so harassed that he did what was being pushed on him over and over and committed suicide.

As one person said grow a thicker skin but not everyone CAN ignore the taunts and in some cases the best defence against some harassers is to aggressivly fight back (wiuthout doing what the bullies are doing though).
 

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I moved from a bigger city to a smaller town around 4-6th grade and got bullied. Not very badly in a straight way but more like clearly ostracized. I think I carry some scared wounds from it also nowdays, even of course I've grown a lot during all these years and got the most of my confidence towards people back. About cyberbullying, it's something I've luckily never experienced.

If my memory serves me, the Jokela school shooter (the school shooting which happened here back in 2008 ) was heavily bullied. Then he started to seclude himself mentally from other, normal people and create his genocide plans and ended up a massacre.

I think it's a lot because of immaturity. Children and many teens can't step in someone else's shoes and like most of adults can do (even seems that some adults will never reach that empathy stage either) and many things seem to be pretty black-and-white before these youngsters start to find more tones when growing up. Besides that it's easy to find some outer target in which to project all these negative feelings when you're feeling unsure yourself and about it who YOU are. Some of these teen harassers will be all wise adults when they once grow up. I'd say that happened with most of those teens who ostracized me too.

My opinion is that school and parents should be interfere in things IMMEDIATELY when somebody starts to bully someone. Also social workers and even police if the situation needs it. I think we would need more preventive work too. These children, teens (and some adults) need to understand that the victim of bullying is a human creature with all these feelings too.

Crimsonhorse, some people are just more sensitive than others, especially during their youth times. Even I recommend that ignoring thing too as a first step since it has effects on some teasers, I can believe that when some person or people just bugs and bugs you, you finally just can't ignore it anymore.

ETA: This thread had gained many news answers during I wrote mine so I could add: It's not words all the time. How you can ignore it when the teaser, after noticing that words will not hurt you, starts to threaten you physically or just does something else in practice. I've luckily never been there personally but sometimes felt it would have been turned like that soon and know some teasers go there.
 

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Online harassment and bullying IS real, whether you want to turn a blind eye or not. Sure, you can say "don't let it get to you" or what have you, but it simply isn't that easy.
 

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Sorry to sound insensitive, but grow some thicker skin. Ignore it and move on.
Okay so is that what your going to tell your child if they get bullied to "Grow some thicker skin and get over it?"

I take bullying very personally in person and through internet. I never had a high self esteem in school. In result, I got picked on.
 

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I think it is the fault of the parent that allows their child free access to this media. If anyone needs censure, its them, not the adults who willingly partake in it.
That's an interesting point. My personal view (based on one other forum which has been divided senior talk and junior talk besiedes some other categories) is that sometimes adults should be more censored than children. I'm mainly for free speech too and think it can be hard to draw the line between it when someone says his or her opinion very straightly and it when it has turned insulting. Anyways, comments like "you have to be deranged" or "you're a totally jerk" on that forum came mainly from adult people, don't from children.

So, perhaps in some cases, like father, like son...?
 

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Okay so is that what your going to tell your child if they get bullied to "Grow some thicker skin and get over it?"

I take bullying very personally in person and through internet. I never had a high self esteem in school. In result, I got picked on.
That is most certainly what I will tell her. I will also tell her the reason why. If it gets to physical threats than it gets into parents stepping in. But, I will not be there all the time to protect her from what people will say. It happens in school it happens when your an adult. I to was made fun of in school but I really didnt give a S*(&.
 

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Wow to all of this!

Crimsonhorse01- you really have no heart if your going to tell your own daughter that. Instead of telling her to get over it maybe you should talk to her about it. I feel bad for her when she comes home crying because she got picked on and you tell her to grow thicker skin!
 
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