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Hello Everyone.

I'm Heather.

I own two of my own horses, a Quarter Horse gelding named Jack who is a saint most of the time and a Thoroughbred mare, Sweetie, who can be a little, err, crazy at times. They are both like children to me and I love them dearly.

At one point in my life I took riding VERY seriously. It was all I did. I did not go to prom in high school, I was showing horses. I did not date, it cut into my barn time.

However, I did eventually start dating, and I got pregnant, and I had a little boy named Dominic who is the love of my life. He just turned two. I still teach hunter/jumper lessons, but I am extremely limited with time to ride. I work, I go to school full time. My horses mostly sit and eat, and they have no objections to the current arrangement.

I'm out of shape, and AFRAID to ride in front of the kids I teach. I know all the answers (no stirrup work, etc.). But I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions for me...

For instance, any single moms here actually find time to ride? And how did you do it?

- Heather
 

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Hi Heather,
Welcome to HF!

I know how you feel! I never taught lessons but I grew up with horses and rode since I was 8 yrs old, at the age of 22 I got preg. with my little girl who is now 10 almost 11! Anyway I had a young horse at that time and had to give him up ...I was heartbroken but knew I was doing the right thing for my new baby who was on the way.
Long story short, after about 7 yrs ...I just got back into horses about 4 yrs ago! Talk about out of shape....I realized that my body didnt remember the things that my mind thought it did.

As far as finding time to ride? Do you teach lessons to any teens? If so , they may be willing to babysit your little boy in exchange for reduced lessons? Just a thought.....it would give you some free time to ride for yourself. Also , do you have any family that could do some babysitting for you? My family has helped me out a lot when it comes to watching my girl.
Being a single mother def. can be a challenge especially trying to juggle horses , school, lessons, being a mom! I was a single mom for about the first 5 yrs of my childs life, my now husband has been a great help to allow me to have my barn time. I am lucky to have someone so supportive!
good luck , I would love to see pics of your horses!
 

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Hi RadHenry

Thanks for the response - glad to know I am not the only one who feels this way coming back into things. I rode up until I was 6 and a half months along, had Dominic at 7 months. One of the trainers (and a very, very, close friend of mine, she was like a second Mom while I was growing up) was told I had the baby and actually said "Well that's impossible, she was here last week."

My mom watches Dominic for me quite a bit while I am at work and at school. Since she watches him so much already I feel guilty asking her to watch him while I ride. Trading lessons or riding time for a sitter is seeming like a really good idea.

I just put pictures of my two horses in "my barn"? I think you can get to that..

Yeah - I am totally with you on the my mind telling my body to do things it can't stage. When I was working at one of the local barns teaching I used to intentionally schedule lessons when my kids couldn't watch me ride - kind of embarrassing to have your students realize you have issues dropping your stirrups too...

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WOW , you rode til you were that far a long! That is amazing ....I didnt ride when I was preg. I had a young/green horse and my Doc. didnt think it was a great idea! I am still having some confidence issues but I am def. working on them.
My daughter rides too, she is in 4H so I have been helping her a lot!

BTW My name is Amy , nice to meet ya!
 

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Hi Amy!

Well when I got pregnant I was riding and teaching for a living. I was the horseback riding director for a girl scout camp near my house. So when I was in the early stages I asked the doctor about it.

Her opinion was that since my body was used to it that I would be fine. I used discretion - for instance I did not get on my Thoroughbred. It was Jack and dead broke lesson horses all the way. No jumping either.

4H is excellent, isn't it? It must be nice to have your daughter involved with something you love.

Nice to meet you too!

- Heather
 
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