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I guess I'm feeling sad cause I feel like I'm never going to get to should my horse. I feel like I'm going to be riding in my ex trainers ex in laws back yard forever. I just don't know to get myself into showing. Ever chance I got to show when the ex trainer was still there, were ruined each time by said ex trainer. For no other reason than she was jealous of my horse Shaggy and was afraid we would beat her daughter and the mare she rode at the time. I honestly believe that she was mad that I bought Shaggy and she didn't but oh well thats in the past. I just wish I knew how to go about getting myself to a show. Im too old 4h stuff now and thats the only local stuff I know of. I don't know if there are any breed shows around either. Guess i've babbled enough. Thanks to anyone who decided to read this.
 

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wow 28 people view this and say nothing. That really makes a person whose feeling sad feel better. Thats the horse forum for you I guess.
 

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Here in Australia we don't have 4H at all and there were always plenty of shows for me to go to.

I know your feeling a bit sad, but that does you no good. The choices you made led you to where you are today. If you don't like where you are then make different choices. Move your horse for one. Find somewhere else to keep it.

The best bet I think would be to join an adult riding club. They'll have schooling days and probably some shows too, and even if they don't there will probably be many people there who do amateur showing.
 

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Firstly, as someone who has only shown her horses twice and both are horses I no longer own... I can sympathise... I have wanted to show for some time but have had legitimate issues that stopped my attempts over the last few years... however this season I will endeavour to get out to at least one with my mare, as I'm currently setting up my show kit.

Anyway, like Saskia mentioned, there are always options if you wish to do something. Look in the newspapers, over here most shows are advertised in the papers, and I'm sure that'd be the case elsewhere. Also online, local communities will be able to offer information. Check in tack/feed shops and ask your friends.

Allowing a past experience with an ex trainer/person in your life to stamp out any chance of showing isn't something you should do. And getting sad isn't helpful... rather get proactive if its something you want to do. Make plans and stick to them.

Good luck!
 

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If ex trainer is a problem then you are allowing her to control you. Is this what you want? Obviously not. It is easy to allow small roadblocks to become huge ones as the mind plays games with our thinking but you can overcome these. Don't look at the past as it brings up petty feelings. Focus on where you are going and how to get there.
 

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What is it you want people to tell you? It's obvious you're blaming others for your own inability to get off your duff and do something about your situation. I guess it's just easier to whine about it than actually take charge of your own riding/showing.

Oh, and I don't believe for one second that your ex-trainer 'kept' you from showing or was jealous of you and your horse. Again, blaming someone else for your own failings. If you were truly determined to show you'd have made it happen, not expect others to take care of everything for you.

You always seem to have a 'poor little me' attitude. Nobody owes you anything. If you want something badly enough, you'll make it happen. If that means you have to wait until you're an adult and do all the work yourself, so be it. It'll help you grow up and learn to take responsibilty for your own happiness.
 

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You have to make small goals and consider each small goal that you reach an accomplishment.

I want to team pen. I have several obsticals in my way. I am slowly reaching my goal. Do I have a truck and trailer and a team and have entered in the circuit and have the money?

No.

But my horse is being retrained. I just bought the saddle I would need for the sport. I may have found one partner, and I'm looking to possibly rent out a barn.

Small, itsy bitsy steps. Altogether, I may be ready by next summer. MAYBE. But it doesn't matter, because each accomplishment gained makes me excited because I WORKED to get there, and its one more step to what I want to do.

I don't expect someone to train my horse for me, or buy me the saddle I want. I don't blame my BO for now owning cows to work and I don't blame anyone for not buying me a truck and trailer. It will all come if I work hard enough for it. Not until then, though.
 

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Check into the 4H horse shows. A lot of times they will be "open" shows not just limited to 4H only. And, you can ask at them if there ARE any open shows around. Shows are kinda few and far between out here too unless I wanna pay gas to drive 3 hours or more away.
 

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Shaggy! If you plan on meeting me at Grand Nationals in 2013, then start your research and training TODAY!:wink: First, Id recc you get on amha.com and learn alll the rules and regs weve got in our breed shows. Watch every you tube vid on Morgan Grand National, you will learn a lot just by seeing how and what the shows are like. Find yourself a new trainer that knows the Morgan circuit.

Then PM me and ill tell ya everything I know.

2013 girlfriend!!
 

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Btw you are region four, your state has its own Morgan Associaition...best part, its quite active.
 

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Shaggy! If you plan on meeting me at Grand Nationals in 2013, then start your research and training TODAY!:wink: First, Id recc you get on amha.com and learn alll the rules and regs weve got in our breed shows. Watch every you tube vid on Morgan Grand National, you will learn a lot just by seeing how and what the shows are like. Find yourself a new trainer that knows the Morgan circuit.

Then PM me and ill tell ya everything I know.

2013 girlfriend!!
I Love It !!!

You two girls go for it !!
 

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If ex trainer is a problem then you are allowing her to control you. Is this what you want? Obviously not. It is easy to allow small roadblocks to become huge ones as the mind plays games with our thinking but you can overcome these. Don't look at the past as it brings up petty feelings. Focus on where you are going and how to get there.
The ex trainer isn't a problem anymore. All the stuff with her happened a year ago. I didn't let control me then and she's not going to now! =)
 

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What is it you want people to tell you? It's obvious you're blaming others for your own inability to get off your duff and do something about your situation. I guess it's just easier to whine about it than actually take charge of your own riding/showing.

Oh, and I don't believe for one second that your ex-trainer 'kept' you from showing or was jealous of you and your horse. Again, blaming someone else for your own failings. If you were truly determined to show you'd have made it happen, not expect others to take care of everything for you.

You always seem to have a 'poor little me' attitude. Nobody owes you anything. If you want something badly enough, you'll make it happen. If that means you have to wait until you're an adult and do all the work yourself, so be it. It'll help you grow up and learn to take responsibilty for your own happiness.
I don't really know what I wanted people to tell me ok. igot a little down and out because my cousin who events text me to tell "Guess what I'm going to this big show and I get have former Olyimpic rider as my trainer!" which I think is awesome and I've very happy for her. but when I think about where she is with her riding and where I'm at with my mine. I just get depressed.
And weather you want to believe it or not the ex trainer did keep me from showing and was Jealous of my horse. She proved more than once she wished Shaggy was hers and not mine. I'm sorry if thats the kind of attitude i came off with I wasn't tying too honestly. I've been jerked around so much in the horse world that sometimes I don't know where to go anymore.
 

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find another trainer. Stop whining . how do you plan to pay for the shows?
Stop expecting to be handed things. Thats the problem with most kids today.
I worked my butt off, cleaning pens, babysitting etc. to PAY for hay , board and my horses.I did not have time or money for lessons. Be glad you have a horse and enjoy what you can .
 

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You can't have that attitude, where theres a will theres a way, always! It may be a slower process i'm 21 and never been in my first show. Find yourself a good trainer, and work your butt off to get there. Thats what I'm doing, and my horse is still 2 years away from being able to show!
 

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Shaggy! If you plan on meeting me at Grand Nationals in 2013, then start your research and training TODAY!:wink: First, Id recc you get on amha.com and learn alll the rules and regs weve got in our breed shows. Watch every you tube vid on Morgan Grand National, you will learn a lot just by seeing how and what the shows are like. Find yourself a new trainer that knows the Morgan circuit.

Then PM me and ill tell ya everything I know.

2013 girlfriend!!
I hope I can meet you 2013! Thanks for all the info! I'm gonna go start researching right now! The only problem I'm in such a small town idk if there are any trainers around here that know the morgan circuit. I'll definably be asking around tho.
 

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I hauled a boarder/friend's horse to a 3 day show this weekend.
She packed almost as much as a new Mom.
It's hot & the AC went out in my truck.
I missed 2 turns on the way there.
I had to hit on 2 guys to move mats into the show barn & 2 more to move them back out. (that part really wasn't so bad:wink:)
There was a dog show on the same grounds & that included non-stop barking.
Dog people were fighting with horse people.
It cost me almost a half tank of gas & 3 bags of shavings.
It cost my friend $55 for a stall plus whatever her class fees were. She did win 3 ribbons though her gelding had transformed into a naughty stallion.
I told her for $20 once a week I would watch her ride & I would give her a ribbon if she promised I could stay home next time.

Showing is not for me.
No point to this post but is was nice to vent a bit.:)
 

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Shaggy, what are your goals? Define them, write out a realistic list of the things you'll need to do to get there. Put your goals on a time schedule and get to working on them. If you break a big dream down into little steps you'll get there.
 
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