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Feeling the horse's emotions when riding?

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I am not quite sure how to ask this, so bear with me.

Anyone who has ridden horses for any amount of time can recognize that "sudden alert" body posture -- head and ears up, back arched downward, legs tensed and ready to go. So that emotion, I don't know what you'd call it besides "sudden alert", is pretty easy to feel through the saddle or through our physical connection.

But what I'm wondering about is more subtle emotions.

I don't want to anthropomorphize horses, but I do think that they have a wider range of emotions than we may give them credit for. So if I say below that a horse can feel "pride", maybe what they feel isn't exactly the same as what a human might feel that we would call "pride," but it's some variation of it. Just like, we know that horses don't have the same range of color vision that humans have, but that doesn't make them color blind, it just means they see things a bit differently.

So, for instance, I now have two riding horses. With Pony, I can feel when he's grumpy. I can also feel that when we jump, he really enjoys it. So I guess I would call that emotion "enjoyment." It feels like his whole body becomes an arrow that points at each jump as we line up for it, he gets super focused and engaged, and perky. After we do a course, he feels like "pride," which feels like him arching his neck and arching his back and being a little prancy. Kind of like a stallion showing off.

Rowan, I got another feeling of pride off him yesterday after our first canter. It was a little like that sort of archy-bodied feeling of pride, but also a sort of contentment and ease. It felt to me like he felt proud to be able to carry me and do things with me on his back, and that he felt like he was special because he could do so. Confidence, maybe? So like pride and confidence?

I am sure that the emotions I feel coming off Pony aren't me reading my own emotions into the situation, because I don't think I enjoy jumping like he does. I like feeling like we're on the same page and are working together as a team, but I still feel nervous going over jumps. He doesn't, though.

I don't think these emotions that I'm describing are impossible for a horse to feel, and I know that it's possible to feel a horse's emotions through our physical connection, as in my example of "sudden alert", so I don't think it's impossible that I'm feeling their emotions correctly.

So do you guys think you feel your horse's emotions when riding? If so, what kind of emotions do you think you feel?

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Absolutely! I think horses are pretty egotistical and genuinely feel pride in themselves. And want us to be proud of them too. They can be grumpy. Bored. Or "You think so too?" From an 1868 book by a Cavalry officer:

"...There is another thing to be considered with regard to the horse's character - it loves to exercise its powers, and it possesses a great spirit of emulation; it likes variety of scene and amusement; and under a rider that understands how to indulge it in all this without overtaxing its powers, will work willingly to the last gasp, which is what entitles it to the name of a noble and generous animal...

...Horses don't like to be ennuye, and will rather stick at home than go out to be bored; they like amusement, variety, and society: give them their share of these, but never in a pedantic way, and avoid getting into a groove of any kind, either as to time or place, especially with young animals. It is evident that all these things must be taken into account and receive due attention, whether it be our object to prevent or to get rid of some bad habit a horse may have acquired; and a little reflection will generally suffice to point out the means of remedying something that, if left to itself, would grow into a confirmed habit, or if attacked with the energy of folly and violence, would suddenly culminate in the grand catastrophe of restiveness..."

In honesty, Bandit sometimes turns his head around and gives me his, "Are you REALLY that stupid?" look...:rolleyes:
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I think this ^^^^^ sums it up nicely. Good thing because I was at a loss for words🫣🫣

Also, keep in mind every horse is different, just like people each one shows their emotions in a different way.

Recognizing the subtleties comes with time and knowing the horse. What I had in my favor to recognize changes sooner was rarely using a saddle. I could sense/feel what the horse was thinking almost before he could. Except for my beloved Duke (RIP) - that horse was always two hoof beats ahead of me🥰🥰
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I definitely know what you are talking about. Halla would sometimes give off this feeling of arrogance or superiority toward other horses. She wanted to lead and sometimes insisted on it, and it seemed to make her feel like she was superior if she was in front.

I've ridden Halla and several other horses that gave off a feeling of absolute joy when they galloped. Not every time; sometimes they felt more grimly competitive, or serious and focused, like it was a job.

Another emotion I would feel from Halla was chagrin. If she failed at something or spooked when it wasn't worth it, she would shrink into herself for a second, and then put on this extra tall posture of bravado, as if hoping no one had noticed.

Not sure if it is an emotion, per se, but my mare Amore would give off this zany vibe sometimes under saddle. Like, "Whee, I have no idea what we're doing and I'm totally bonkers."

I knew a gelding who would put on a funny expression after he played a joke. He packed kids, but once in a while he'd whip the reins out of their hands, they'd say "Ow" and he would look amused.
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I think my horses show those emotions, but some horses aren't as overt about their feelings as others so it's harder to "read" those emotions. When you think about it, they are far better at reading us than we are at reading them. Harley is like that - he's very stoic. I can see his grumpiness under saddle sometimes and I think he's uncomfortable because of his arthritis at times, and I can see his joy in eating his beet pulp, and his excitement about going out to eat grass - it's genuinely joyful as his whole body picks up as he canters out to the back pasture, tail up, head high, ears forward. But under saddle it's not easy to pick up on his emotions.

Rusty, on the other hand, wears his heart on his sleeve. We've been hitting the trails again lately and he is a completely different horse. So bold, and eager. He loves it so much, he doesn't want to come home (we need to find longer trails). The first few trails of spring, he is a little tentative, but if Bella is behind us, he is suddenly the bravest horse in the world. She can't be ahead of us though, that drives him crazy. Which is fine because she's happier behind us too. She's like his back up - either that or he is proud to lead? He really fluffs up with his whole body.

In the ring, he mostly shows that he is pleased with himself when I give him lavish praise for doing something really well (jumping a cross-rail, lifting his back at the trot, side-passing without getting all crooked). I give treats for motivation under saddle because he is so sluggish in the ring, but I noticed that very strong praise also works (not just the regular "good boy" but a little more over the top praise for going above and beyond). He kind of curves his neck and relaxes his jaw, basking in it.

This is not an under-saddle example, but I have noticed that he got a bit full of himself this winter when the herd dynamics changed. Harley has started showing his age more, and is no longer able to push Rusty around. So Rusty is now at the top of the herd and boy, did he get arrogant about it! Like, even under saddle he thought he was suddenly the boss of everyone. I had to take him down a notch to remind him that regardless of his position in the horse herd, I still make the decisions under saddle. But he did test me as his ego got a little inflated. It was also evident on the ground as he tried to push me out of his way so we had to do a little ground work to remind him of his manners.
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There’s one particular maneuver in the drill that Skip absolutely loves. It’s a full arena sweetheart cross from one corner of the arena to the opposite corner at the other end and we do it at a full out gallop/run. He knows the drill better than I do and knows when that maneuver is coming up. I can feel him gathering himself and when we hit the corner to start the maneuver, in my head he’s going “Wheeeeeeeee!!!!!” He’s so funny in that moment and when we watch the videos he just makes the rest of the team laugh because they see how he feels too!

I think Skip’s overriding emotion is he pretty much loves everyone and wants to be loved back. He doesn’t understand another horse not liking him and it’s obvious (to me) that his feelings are hurt when it happens.

I have had him in pretty much every rideable type situation that I could expose him to, and he’s very good at taking care of newbie riders. Really calm and careful and seems to know they don’t know anything.

I’m part of the “woowoo” camp in that I’ve had my horses read by animal communicators and have always found their results helpful to me. When Skip lost his sight in his right eye, we had kind of a difficult time getting our groove back, and I had more than a few possible back up horses rotating through the pasture. The communicator told me Skip just loved his job and he was really worried I wasn’t giving him enough of a chance to prove himself. It was what I needed to hear and we worked through it and he’s still my main man today. When we moved up here and I had taken in a few rescues with medical issues and needing a soft place to land, I had them all read again and the communicator said Skip had taken on a fatherly role with all the new ones, telling them “this is a good place to be and let me show you how things work”. He wasn’t worried about losing his standing with me or his job etc.

So obviously I think horses have emotions and I think they can be pretty apparent, although I do think they may be more subtle under saddle since they’re at “work”. Kind of like how humans don’t act the same at work as they would at home.

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I don’t like the word anamorphize (I’m sure I spelled it wrong, but I don’t like it anyways.). It’s some rule “educated” people have learned and they use it to condescend or try and end an argument. Yet, if they had more experience they would learn the concept itself, the rule, is used wrong. Like cultural relativism, which I actually agree with, and maybe even makes more sense in the horsemanship concept, but still sometimes one may use the argument of cultural relativism to simply shut down the other speaker. It’s like “I’m smarter than you, so here is this rule you must follow.” Yet, whether we use cultural relativism or not, we may all believe Hitler mad a bad call. Lol. So, maybe the rule of anamorphizing holds similarly a good concept, we can still use the words we have to describe things.

Now that I am finished with my tangent I’ve always wanted to use, lol, I think horses are more emotional than most humans. I think much of their lives are dictated by emotions, and that to understand that helps us work better with them. I’m not saying they don’t show emotional control, because they are probably somewhat better at that than some humans, but I think they often are pure emotion. So, we can use that to our advantage to both understand them and motivate them, if we find each individual’s personality and what drives them to say pride or joy.

I feel like I can always feel an emotion radiating off of my horses. I can feel the emotions everyone has talked about, although I’m not sure I’ve had the weeeee feeling of @Txshecat0423’s Skip. I myself have had that emotion, so I get where he’s coming from. Lol
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I think that they do show/feel emotions that we can label to relate or describe.
Trotting Novia over raised cavaletti was cumbersome at first, it would trip her up. Didn't help that by nature she's a little on the lazy side. The first time that she got it perfectly, I could tell that she was proud of herself. We went back for another round and she made a bee line towards them like "I got this". She was having fun and I could tell. She also wants to stop and say hello to every horse that she sees while walking through the barn isle. If I don't let her (which I usually don't) she seems disappointed.

Laela always seems disappointed when I take anyone else but her out of the pasture. She loves to engage and wants it to always be her turn.
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@LoriF I have two who are both extremely jealous about being caught. I have to catch them in order. My big horse comes plowing towards me, neck down, ears pinned. If you didn’t know him you would be scared, but he’s saying “You had better put that halter on my head,” as well as threatening every horse in the corral to dare challenge him.

The filly, if I don’t catch her next, can and will jump the horse corral. It’s tall, picket fence fashion, in the shortest spot where the dust has accumulated, it is around 5’6”. She jumps out there. She is very temperamental. Lol. Many of her emotions are about how she hates everyone else but herself and me. She makes me laugh.
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I think Fizz tends to be an internalizer. When I first got her, I would stand at the gate of her field watching her and trying to get a vibe for how she was feeling because she is not overt in what she’s thinking. One day the BO asked me why I spent so much time standing at the gate looking worried. Which made me really self conscious 😆 But I guess it was because I couldn’t really figure Fizz out. My first horse Isabel was VERY loud with her emotions, which were generally along the lines of “I’m the boss, you all listen to me!” And she would glare at you if you didn’t get it. Some of the barn workers called her “miserabel” instead of “Isabel,” but they just didn’t know how to get along with her!

Anyway, back to Fizz, I came to learn how to feel her worried tension, both on the ground and under saddle. You might not see her demeanor change just by looking at her, as outwardly she’s very steady and quiet. But she has two big “tells” when she’s worried. First, she gulps audibly, kind of like Scooby Doo’s “rut roo” if people here are my age and get that reference 😉 She also does what I call her “ear cringe”- she takes her right ear and momentarily pins it back hard, in a moment where she’s overwhelmed or maybe uncomfortable. I obviously can’t see her face from the saddle, but I picture that it looks like a cringing person when she does that thing with her ear.

Reflecting on it, she shares these worried emotions much less often now than when I first got her. I always paid attention to them, but I think I pay attention even more now since it’s less common.

Her typical demeanor is an agreeable, ears up, moving right along kind of feeling. She doesn’t get flustered easily, so if she clearly telegraphs she doesn’t want to do something, I pay attention.
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You are absolutely correct. And I'll take it a step further. Not only do they have emotions, but they can feel ours, and even adjust to ours. For example, I ride these wooded trails solo, most of the time. I'm not one of those riders who think that if my horse is watchful of his surroundings, he isn't paying attention to me. Just haven't found that to be the case, at leas with my horses. It has happened before and it happened twice last Saturday, when the local chapter of BCHA held an "open house." Twice Ibn and I heard riders coming way before they noticed us. Ibn heard them and instant before I did. I can tell by his alertness level going up. So we moved to the side to let the group of riders go by (these trails are no more than one-horse wide). Both time those riders didn't see us until their horses suddenly froze in place, when they were practically on top of us. These riders were all talking and yapping and not paying a bit of attention to where they were going or what was ahead. Did their horses feel this from their riders and fall into the same lull?
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I agree @charrorider! It makes sense though, as horses are naturally a very social creature. Their whole survival is dependent on social interaction.

I know humans are social creatures too, although I struggle with that some myself. I don’t think humans are as social, because of people like me. I suppose I’ve seen some independent natured horses, but they seem rare enough.

I’m thinking dogs are more like humans. Some tend to be antisocial, but many enjoy socializing. They also tend to read human emotions quite well, and have their own whole set.

I think it’s odd how quickly people are sometimes apt to disregard the emotions of animals. Is it a survival trait? By that I mean, do some people disregard the idea that animals can have complex social and emotional lives because then they struggle to eat the cow? Or, are those people also the type to disregard other people’s emotions just as easily.
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I agree @charrorider! It makes sense though, as horses are naturally a very social creature. Their whole survival is dependent on social interaction.

I know humans are social creatures too, although I struggle with that some myself. I don’t think humans are as social, because of people like me. I suppose I’ve seen some independent natured horses, but they seem rare enough.

I’m thinking dogs are more like humans. Some tend to be antisocial, but many enjoy socializing. They also tend to read human emotions quite well, and have their own whole set.

I think it’s odd how quickly people are sometimes apt to disregard the emotions of animals. Is it a survival trait? By that I mean, do some people disregard the idea that animals can have complex social and emotional lives because then they struggle to eat the cow? Or, are those people also the type to disregard other people’s emotions just as easily.
I am like one of those guardian type dogs. Totally devoted to and will defend fiercely those in my inner circle but wary of unknown characters. I have been properly socialized though so I don't just attack everything and everybody.
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Lol @LoriF! I am like Junie B. I can do my job with cows, and I am loyal to my own, but I am not properly socialized. I don’t bite like she does, although I would in defense, but I am scared of humans I don’t know! I don’t know how to be around them.
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Knave and LoriF. I came to accept the fact that I like animals (at least dogs) more than people when I realized how annoying a found humans who snore, but a dog snoring I find cute. :)
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These riders were all talking and yapping and not paying a bit of attention to where they were going or what was ahead. Did their horses feel this from their riders and fall into the same lull?
Not being there I can only guess, but probably the horses had noticed Ibn before their riders, but the riders weren't paying attention or didn't know how to read the signs.
Probably they didn't notice as soon as Ibn, as the level of noise muffled other noises.

Or maybe if you noticed them soon enough and moved to the side and stayed quiet before they could hear you with all the noise around, they only could see you and not hear you before.

My gelding notices other horses, but usually he doesn't react strongly to them, so if I don't see/hear them myself, I don't notice them by his reactions, the tells aren't strong enough to make a difference to other things he pays attention to when we are riding solo. Now, it's true that our area is not solitary, and quite open, so it's full of bicycles, people walking, cows, dogs, rabbits, eagles, vultures and horses, in a heavily wooded area more solitary his reactions would be more strong.
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I have ridden multiple horses that ask questions when riding. They offer this small bump-kick asking for canter and then settle and wait for permission. Same with walk to trot transition - they work their shoulders in a specific way to tell me that they want to go faster and then settle to standard walk and wait for me. I find that such transitions are the absolute best I can get out of a horse. Since I don’t compete so it doesn’t really matter how I ride - I usually work up to those questions and only give the aid once the horse has said that they are ready and willing. I have my tricks how to get them to ask though (usually transitions within the gait).

Regarding emotions - my mare has exactly two: give me carrots and give me scratches and they are very easy to read.

She does sometimes get super-proud of her achievements - it is hilarious watching her prancing and beaming because she jumped a WHOLE CAVALLETI. She will go up to people in the arena to be praised for this humongous feat :) And they praise her and she laps it all up. I actually really enjoy it so I let her do that - again, I don’t compete so it makes zero difference.
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Not being there I can only guess, but probably the horses had noticed Ibn before their riders, but the riders weren't paying attention or didn't know how to read the signs.
Probably they didn't notice as soon as Ibn, as the level of noise muffled other noises.

Or maybe if you noticed them soon enough and moved to the side and stayed quiet before they could hear you with all the noise around, they only could see you and not hear you before.

My gelding notices other horses, but usually he doesn't react strongly to them, so if I don't see/hear them myself, I don't notice them by his reactions, the tells aren't strong enough to make a difference to other things he pays attention to when we are riding solo. Now, it's true that our area is not solitary, and quite open, so it's full of bicycles, people walking, cows, dogs, rabbits, eagles, vultures and horses, in a heavily wooded area more solitary his reactions would be more strong.
No doubt their horses noticed us before the riders did. But not much more from what I saw. From what I've seen of horses, I don't think a horse will notice something that's out of place (to him) and wait until he gets closer to react. He'll react as soon as he sees it. Waiting to react until they get closer is not in their DNA, from what I've seen.
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@charrorider mine depend a little. My corral raised horses don’t seem to be bothered by as much until they are near to it, then they have a big come undone. My two mustangs are crazy aware. I was talking to this cowhorse trainer as we rode colts together the other day. I mentioned it when Queen was watching a vehicle from probably three miles away.

She said she’d never been around a mustang until the one she was starting and riding in that moment. She said she did notice how much more aware he was than anything she’d started before.
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@charrorider mine depend a little. My corral raised horses don’t seem to be bothered by as much until they are near to it, then they have a big come undone. My two mustangs are crazy aware. I was talking to this cowhorse trainer as we rode colts together the other day. I mentioned it when Queen was watching a vehicle from probably three miles away.

She said she’d never been around a mustang until the one she was starting and riding in that moment. She said she did notice how much more aware he was than anything she’d started before.
You won't get an argument from me as far as mustangs being more aware of their surroundings than "civilized" horses. But what I said was that I don't believe horses delay their reactions. For example, if a horse notices something questionable 100' away from it, I don't believe he'll wait until he's 50' away from it to react. I don't believe your corral raised horse are delaying their reactions. They are reacting when they become aware of whatever it is.
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