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Eh.

If its someone that gets on and ignores me after saying 'Soft hands, firm seat, strong legs' then yeah, I get a bit wound up.

But it depends on the horse.

I have let around 10 people ride Duffy. Only one of whom could actually make her trot, and a bit of canter. Shocked me that she was so hard, fussy and pig headed. I then had to correct that next time.

My old horse you could put anyone and anything on him. It didn't make a difference, you had to be good to ride him properly, but he is a lovely horse that worked well for anyone without giving me trouble the next time I got on.
 

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I let only two people ride my horse - his previous trainers who are now also my friends, wonderful persons and wise horsemen. I also feel safe with the fact that my horse likes them. However, due to the fact, that my horse is a "one person type only" guy, I don't let others ride him, especially, if they are just friends without experience who'd like to have a little ride. He's a bit too dominant to give him the chance to get all grumpy around novices - on a good day he'll just refuse do anything, but if he's really irritated and feels in charge, he can also bolt. He used to be a lesson horse for a short while before I bought him and I think that's where he learned to hate frequent change of inconsistent riders.
 

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Ta for the advise. I have had my horse for only a short while and all was going very well until someone else handled him much differently than I. And now his behavior has changed dramatically. Could this be the reason??
 

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Look, my horse is brand new so no one touches him but me! But there are people I would allow to ride him such as my instructor and my boyfriend who rides better than me. but that will happen with time only! I personally would battle to allow someone to elase my horse in future because I am particularly fussy about how they are treated. And i dont want someone undoing the work i might have done with him.

Its a tough one, depends on who the person is and whether they ride when you are there or not IMHO.

I dont know if someone handling him differently/badly once would change his attitude. How often has this other person handled him? And did you see them handle him differently and how exatcly did they handle him?
 

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Could be, but a bit more detailed description would help. How was he treated and how did his behavior change, also, did something else happen maybe between you two after the different treatment and before the change in his behavior?
 

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Thank you all. The person who handled him was just more forceful with him, ie catching him, saddling etc. My horse was quiet before all this happened and now it is very hard to do all the above with him! I am a novice rider/owner and am just trying to figure it all out. The day it all happened was the day the horse also bucked me off. Could he have lost trust in me? He has only been with us for about a month. He has become wary and skittish since the other person has been involved, but this could be just a coincidence maybe? Grrr wish I had all the answers :) I have had no previous problems with the horse until then.
 

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I would let just about anyone ride my old girl because I knew they would be safe on her and she wouldn't behave any different when I got on her afterwards.

For my boy Sam I now (since learning the hard way) only allow one other person to ride him and that is my riding instructor. I don't trust him with anyone else I know because they are all to inexperienced to handle his pushiness and rushing undersaddle. Other people are only allowed on him if I lunge them on him. The few times I have allowed other people on him he has turned into a rushing, excited, bolting twit and we are back at square one.

Finally my other boy Apache I allow other people to get on if they have at least been on a horse a few times and are completely confident. That leaves only a few. He is pretty bombproof but the moment he knows you are nervous he takes complete advantage of you and plays up. He is a really good lead line horse for little kids though because he is so quiet and well behaved when being led. He also doesn't take much to fix up if he is a bit lazy or something after someone else has been on him.

I make my decisions based on the horses behaviour, training etc and the experience of the person who is going get on my horse.
 

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Dew, keeping in mind that you're a novice rider, I think that a trustable trainer would really help you to sort this out - the problems you mentioned (especially bucking) can go a long way down, if they are not corrected in time.
 

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Dew, depends on WHO is riding. I have no problem what so ever if my trainer would get on either of my mares. In fact I'd LOVE that. As for other people, no, my mares are not beginner-friendly, and I don't want to have a pricey claim coming. If they would be very calm and reliable I probably wouldn't have problems letting others to ride them.
 

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No you are not alone. But yeah depends on who and how they ride. I have had people ride my horses behind my back and did see a change but I think the horses learn to adjust to riders.
 

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For me it depends on WHO is riding and WHICH horse. My bombproof seniors that will tolerate newbie mistakes and not be affected by them, sure - I have lesson kids on them all the time as well as friends, family, whoever wants to just ride a horse. My youngsters, those in training or my personal horse - nope, don't allow anyone on them (aside from my mom on occasion who is a retired trainer) until they are finished and to the point of being un-phased by rider error. I put too much time into them for them to backtrack in training due to another rider's mistake.
 

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Hi all, is it just me or does anyone else here get funny about other people riding their horse?? Any advise would be great thank you
It is absolutely NOT just you!

I am extremely selective about letting anybody else do ANYTHING with my horse.

When I was a teenager (a looooong time ago!) I let someone else ride my horse and they were hard on him and hurt his mouth (nothing permanent, thank the Lord!) And honestly, it hurt me more than if they had hurt MY mouth! I've had a much more restrictive policy ever since that day.

What I would watch out for the most would be (1) really inexperienced folks and (2) people who fancy themselves as trainers/accomplished riders who really don't know what they're doing. I'm a firm believer in the policy "you follow my instructions and ride like I say or you don't ride MY horse". Period.

I am my horse's advocate and protector and he depends on me to be faithful to him and to take the best care of him that I can and I intend to do that to the best of my ability! That includes being selective/careful about who rides and who doesn't... ;-)

So, you are not alone!
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I've let my entire family up on my horses. The only thing I wouldn't do again is ride doubles with my nephew. He wanted to "run" and tried to push me off my horses ****. I told him if he did that again I was going to grab him off that horse and beat his **** until he couldn't sit on anything for a week. He doesn't realize how dangerous it can be.
 

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Only very special people hop on my horse. He doesn't do well with beginners, he goes into a panic or takes over and carts them around in patterns at whatever gait he chooses (usually a trot) or if it's my mom, circles in a walk.

Which is why finding a lessee is proving to be difficult. It's not finding someone that likes him, EVERYONE does.. it's finding someone whom he can work with.

Thank you all. The person who handled him was just more forceful with him, ie catching him, saddling etc. My horse was quiet before all this happened and now it is very hard to do all the above with him! I am a novice rider/owner and am just trying to figure it all out. The day it all happened was the day the horse also bucked me off. Could he have lost trust in me? He has only been with us for about a month..
Maybe he's just testing where he fits in. Perhaps that person seemed more like a herd leader (hence the skittishness and putting horse in his place) than you. Yes it may have been too rough, but now you have to get this new behavior under control. A trainer would be helpful since you're new to this.

If you need anything else, keep on asking!

Good luck
 

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Two people have ridden Mudpie: my trainer Jessica, who has competed and one at two-star events on the east coast, and my trainer Debbie, who put dressage training on him to begin with and is one of the most incredible riders I've ever seen. I do, however, let people sit on him (several little children have had "pony" rides on him -- but they were Pony Club kids and decent riders themselves, they just wanted to ride Mudpie) while I lead him around, as long as they don't really "ride," you know? I'm really protective of him...

But when it comes to my other horses, as long as the person can safely and effectively ride the horse, I don't really care.

I just am super gung-ho about my Mudpie:)
 
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