Hello! I live in Florida and I do Jumpers. Recently, my sister and I want to switch trainers/barns. We want to switch because there are only group lessons and they always have a ton of people in them, we aren't advancing in our riding, our trainer really doesn't teach us anything, there aren't a lot of school horses to ride, and our trainer isn't the kindest. We volunteer there three times a week. We used to get free lessons and free hacks but ever since she got more riders, she said we have to pay full price for lessons and no more free hacks. She also said no more to those things because we're sometimes not there all three days. But that's because we are busy or sick. We've become really close with all the workers and her family. My sister and I ride the bus and go to school with her son, and we don't want him to hate us. She is NOT very understanding. The last person who moved, she didn't take it very well and wasn't very nice about it. We've also looked at multiple other barns and we found one that we really like. So, how do we tell her that we are switching without her blowing up at us and without her son hating us?