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This seemed like a good place to put this tiny rant.

I went to Home Depot to get some silicone caulk and a blade to redo the shower cause it is leaking real bad. I have to remove all of the old caulk and put on the new one.

Well, why is it that whenever I walk into any type of home improvement store or go to the mechanics, they treat me like I don't know anything. AAARRGGHHH!!! It's soo frustrating. Just because I have female organs does not mean that I am stupid. I am so tired of being treated like I don't know the difference between a radiator cap and a gas cap. I am not an incompentent woman. I can change my own oil, I just don't feel like crawling underneath the car. I can change a tire. I can lay tile, caulk a tub/shower, paint a room, operate a tractor, and don't mind getting dirty.

I don't know if any of the other women on this forum are tired of this sterotype. I just wanted to share my experience and unite us all under the title of Compentent Women who aren't afraid to get dirty.

Share your stories if you have any!
 

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Isn't it just wonderful. I hate that stereotype. I'm much like you with the changing tires, oil, caulking, painting. The worst is going to buy a vehicle. The salesman sees blonde hair, and the first thing you want to say to him is "my eyes are up here"...ding dong. I even bought a house that HUD was trying to get out of its system. My dad said that I'd never get it liveable. I redid it by myself, and amazingly enough he found it liveable enough to move in with me and my daughter for a while after I got it done.

One of my biggest thrills is helping a guy who can't get his vehicle started, which I've done on several occasions.

Alright ladies...your turn...lol
 

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Hahahaha... I just love throwing it back into their faces.

The amazing thing is that my fiance (who is not handy and knows nothing about cars) gets way more respect than I do when I go to the mechanics or home improvement store. They don't ask him stupid questions or give him made up names of car parts.

I swear, I couldn't go to my regular mechanic one day and I needed to get my car fixed and I couldn't do it myself. Didn't have the ability to get my car on a lift. I told him what I thought was wrong, he gave me this weird look like, "Yeah right! This stupid big booby woman has no idea." So I come back in a few hours and I asked him if I was right, he tried to pull this baloney move on me before he solomnly confessed that I was right.

I swear MEN! Get over yourselves.
 

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If a guy wants to change my oil, tires or anything else, knock yourself out! I have no problem using my 'charms' to get out of doing certain tasks. But now that I'm older, I don't have as many offers to do these things. I have no problem letting a guy feel that he is a hero ect. I know what I am capable of doing and am secure with that.

Funny story. I had to go to the lumber store to pick up some materials to finish a project (can't quite recall what it was now). So, here I went into the lumber yard with my truck, slip for materials in hand and didn't see a single soul to load the materials. The rule there is you can help them but not do it alone. So, me being impatient, told my beautiful daughter (she was 18 at the time) to get out of the truck and just stand in front of it. She looked questioningly at me, but complied.

Well, the guys were coming out of the outer buildings like rats jumping ship. Racing each other to get to Jasmine first and help her! She looked at me, and realized I had used her to get faster service! :lol: I told her to thank God for her many blessings and not be afraid to use them when necessary! Of course, it's taken me years to adopt that philosophy. :wink:
 

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^^^LOL. I know what you mean. I don't look like I did 20 yrs ago. I feel the same way. It was nice playing the "helpless female" at times.
 

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OH, I don't have any problem with someone doing it for me. But I just don't want to be treated like an idiot, especially when I am on a mission. I do like the feeling of doing things on my own.

That's a great story though, Walkamile!

I don't think I'm that pretty though! Hahaha...
 

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LOL!

Welcome to the real world where the stereotype is strong and thriving.

Rather than waste the energy being resentful and frustrated, turn it around into your favor.
 

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I've had two episodes..both when dealing with cars.

The first time happened when I took my car to get an oil change and they broke something under the car, then called me and told me that it was an "old part" and that "I would have had to replace it sooner or later" and told me it was my responsibility to pay for it. I was outraged. I called my husband who called the gas station back and low and behold, they apologized..their mistake and they will pay for it.

Second time was a stupid car salesman. They were having a car sale and I stopped by to see what cars were available. Saw some that would possibly be in our price range, when the car salesman came over, I asked him a few questions to include if we bought two, would they give us a better deal. He told me he would and invited me to have my husband stop by. He and I came back by later that day and we decided on two cars. Later as we were filling out the paper work, the salesman tells us "so sorry..we can't give you a deal cause the cars are on sale already". I was fuming. I wanted to walk out on the deal right then and there.

Argh!!! Men!
 

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Sheesh!!

Keep the stories coming, ladies! Nothing like a bunch of women releasing pent up frustrations! Hehehe
 

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I love it when I can replace a serpentine belt, change the oil, replace a tire, lug 50lb bags of feed and 80lb hay bales, repair a sink and a hot water heater and I still get called a girly girl....So what If I get ****ed when I break a fingernail while nailing down a 2x4, I don't see you up here fixing the roof! lol At least I can still look good while doing it too, hehehehe.
 

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I have dozens of these stories, but my personal favorite was when hubby and I were shopping for a tractor for our property 4 - 5 years ago. The guy selling it gave us his pitch (and he should of known, because I asked more questions than hubby) and asked him if he wanted to drive it. Hubby turned to me and asked "Whaddya think? Wanna try it out?" (It was bigger than we needed, 70 hp with a cobbled on front end loader. It did have an extra set of rear hydraulic lines which was nice.) Seller said in disbelief "She's going to drive it????" and hubby said "Well, she sure as heck is gonna be the one driving it when we get it home, so I guess she better."

I thoroughly enjoyed the look on his face when I got on it, ran it through the gears, played around with the front end loader and tested all the hydraulics.

We ended up buying a much nicer 50 hp from someone else.

My worst stories are all about car dealers.
 

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I could go through stories all day long. :D Usually I just ignore the attitude and go on my merry way. I have a tendency to get more annoyed when people who know me forget that I'm perfectly capable and in fact know more than they do about some "manly" thing. My boyfriend is guilty of that one. :D Silly man!
 

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Hahaha...I love hearing about all of these stories! But with me, not only do I get the whole helpless woman, I also get the you are too young look as well.

I know...I know! I am still young, but I look even younger, like I'm 16. Blah!
 

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These are great... I work on my own vehicles and have been for a while so I'm familiar with this problem.

I went to look at trucks and I was going to trade in my car. I test drove a few trucks and the salesman looked at my car for trade-in. When we sat down to talk about it the salesman told me "You know that rattling noise your car makes? That is the oil pump and someday it will go and leave you stranded." I looked at him and said, "No that rattle is coming from a loose clamp on the exhaust from when I had exhaust work done." I walked out a bought a used truck from a private seller.

I get this problem all the time when I go to the parts store... if my husband is with me they look at him and ask him what he needs. He usually says to ask me, it is my truck. One time I needed an EGR Valve solenoid for my Chevy pickup. The guy gave my a part that looked nothing like what was on my truck. I told him that it wasn't the right thing and he gave me the old "That is what is in the computer.". I turned the part over and it was stamped Motorcraft. I asked "When did Ford start making parts for Chevy?"

And last but not least... (sorry for my long-windedness!)

I took my husband's Blazer to get an inspection one morning. It failed due to a bad idler arm. From there, I went to the parts store, picked up and idler arm, went home and replaced it. I took the Blazer back around 12:30 and the shop owner was still at lunch... I was still wearing my greasy, nasty clothes from replacing the idler arm and all the guys at the shop just stared at me in disbelief! What fun!
 

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I seem to gravitate (or they gravitate to me) to mechanics, I have always dated mechanics, so I quickly learned how to change my oil, check my fluids, change a tire, do brakes, etc. Last summer I swapped a 350 small block into my jeep mostly on my own, I also lifted it...put lockers on it...etc, with only some minor guidance from my BF. I know my cars thank you very much, however I can walk into any parts store and they all treat me like I am just a dumb woman even when I am covered up to my elbows in grease, who doesn't know that the axle boot is not something you get out of your closet for a fun night on the town. It really really ****es me off.
 

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Ugh I hate that. I play guitar and whenever I buy new strings they guys always hand me extra slinky. I use medium. I get a lot of crap at Guitar Center...ha.
 

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I think it great though that when my dad wants to go to the horse farm with me, he actually listens to what I have to say.

He's afraid of the other horses in the pasture. He got bit by another horse in the pasture today. The horse just grabbed his jacket and yanked him off his feet. I told him to "hit" the horse and he just looked at me with this "Are you crazy?" look. It's hillarious watching him interact with the horses. He is put off by their size and my dad isn't a small dude. He doesn't understand how I can go out there yelling and swinging my arms, pushing around these animals 3x my size.

Just puts a big smile to my face.
 

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This seemed like a good place to put this tiny rant.

I went to Home Depot to get some silicone caulk and a blade to redo the shower cause it is leaking real bad. I have to remove all of the old caulk and put on the new one.

Well, why is it that whenever I walk into any type of home improvement store or go to the mechanics, they treat me like I don't know anything. AAARRGGHHH!!! It's soo frustrating. Just because I have female organs does not mean that I am stupid. I am so tired of being treated like I don't know the difference between a radiator cap and a gas cap. I am not an incompentent woman. I can change my own oil, I just don't feel like crawling underneath the car. I can change a tire. I can lay tile, caulk a tub/shower, paint a room, operate a tractor, and don't mind getting dirty.

I don't know if any of the other women on this forum are tired of this sterotype. I just wanted to share my experience and unite us all under the title of Compentent Women who aren't afraid to get dirty.

Share your stories if you have any!
I worked EMS (on the ambulance) for 5 years on the trucks full time until now where I only work during the provincial examinations. That field of work mean that I would be with men 85% of the time, it also means that we have to VERY heavy manual labor. If you are female, it always seems that you have to prove yourself. It doesn't matter how many lives you've said, it doesn't matter that you can lift a cot with a 250lbs patient, it doesnt matter if you are able to do chest compressions for 45 mins.

You're a female so it has to mean you are weaker than your male counterpart :roll:
 

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Ain't that always the way, My2Geldings!
 
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