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Hi everyone. My friend who is 11 just got her first horse, or I should say horses. Our instructers told her that a suitable first horse for her would be a horse older than 10... about 11 or 12, and must know the basics.
She went out and bought a 7 year old 16.2hh racehorse, that at that point had only been off the track for a week. She diddnt try him out, as he was lame but still bought him!
She got a 4 year old 15.1hh mare, that hadnt even been off for 5 DAYS. She tried her out and got bolted with, still bought the mare.
And a 17hh 5 year old, that was only a week off as well, rode him... was quite fine, bought him.
Then she was stuck... she couldnt train them, she'd only been riding for about two years, not that Im saying she cant ride, she really can. So her dad asked me to help train them, he offered to pay me, but I said I'd do it for free, because she's my friend. Dispationate (the 5 year old) I have made good progress with. In the 4 months theyve had him, my friend never rides him, cause she says he's too calm (??). He now walks, trots and canters, really calm, and we are working on circles and that kind of thing. The 7 year old is her main horse. She doesnt want to teach him to collect and extend, and that stuff. She doesnt want to teach him circles or even to stand still when being mounted!! All because she doesnt want him to become a "dressage snob"(???) She wants to jump him. Ive told her that dressage is the base of jumping, and that if she wants a nice calm show horse, she's going to have to get him calm and able to canter a circle. She wont listen... She said "I dont want him calm, he's a challenge cause he gallops alot". So Ive given up there, she doesnt let me work him anymore.
The mare she does ride sometimes. I have given up with her to. I spent an entire week getting her calm in walk, then trot, and finally in canter... a week each. She became so calm and nice, then the next time I went I rode Dispationate, and she rode the mare. I was working on his circles and walk - halt transitions, when she came blowing past me at an almost gallop! The rest of the ride the mare was a nightmare, wouldnt walk, tried to bolt and even reared! I told her if she wanted me to help her train them, then she is going to have to work with me,and help me, not just go galloping along.
I dont know what to do. I cant stop her riding them, they are hers! Ive talked to her dad, but nothings changed. Im going to talk to our instructers this weekend. Im going to keep working with Dispationate, but not the other two. Sorry about the length, cookies if you read it all!
Do you think I handled anything wrong? Or rode any of them wrong? Thanx
She went out and bought a 7 year old 16.2hh racehorse, that at that point had only been off the track for a week. She diddnt try him out, as he was lame but still bought him!
She got a 4 year old 15.1hh mare, that hadnt even been off for 5 DAYS. She tried her out and got bolted with, still bought the mare.
And a 17hh 5 year old, that was only a week off as well, rode him... was quite fine, bought him.
Then she was stuck... she couldnt train them, she'd only been riding for about two years, not that Im saying she cant ride, she really can. So her dad asked me to help train them, he offered to pay me, but I said I'd do it for free, because she's my friend. Dispationate (the 5 year old) I have made good progress with. In the 4 months theyve had him, my friend never rides him, cause she says he's too calm (??). He now walks, trots and canters, really calm, and we are working on circles and that kind of thing. The 7 year old is her main horse. She doesnt want to teach him to collect and extend, and that stuff. She doesnt want to teach him circles or even to stand still when being mounted!! All because she doesnt want him to become a "dressage snob"(???) She wants to jump him. Ive told her that dressage is the base of jumping, and that if she wants a nice calm show horse, she's going to have to get him calm and able to canter a circle. She wont listen... She said "I dont want him calm, he's a challenge cause he gallops alot". So Ive given up there, she doesnt let me work him anymore.
The mare she does ride sometimes. I have given up with her to. I spent an entire week getting her calm in walk, then trot, and finally in canter... a week each. She became so calm and nice, then the next time I went I rode Dispationate, and she rode the mare. I was working on his circles and walk - halt transitions, when she came blowing past me at an almost gallop! The rest of the ride the mare was a nightmare, wouldnt walk, tried to bolt and even reared! I told her if she wanted me to help her train them, then she is going to have to work with me,and help me, not just go galloping along.
I dont know what to do. I cant stop her riding them, they are hers! Ive talked to her dad, but nothings changed. Im going to talk to our instructers this weekend. Im going to keep working with Dispationate, but not the other two. Sorry about the length, cookies if you read it all!
Do you think I handled anything wrong? Or rode any of them wrong? Thanx