[KaylaOscer1994]

hey

i went \back to horse riding today and everything went good, but my instructor didnt teacher me anything new.
people kept saying a whole lot at once, telling me to smack him with the whip, telling me to jusr let him go, i was just like :-x one at a time, and preferably the instructor.

when i got off, bobby snuggled me and then this other girl got on.

at first she was alright with him, but people sometimes take him for a burn and after a jump he thought he was ment to go for on, but the girl got angry and for the rest of the lesson she was kicking him, and yelling at us, when i say kick i mean hard enough to see the ripples where she kicked. i didnt get to spend much time with him, again.

i dont think i can do it anymore. i love this horse to death and they wont let me near him, and i have to watch this happen to him. they treat him like he is a wild animal:-( i tight hold on his lead rope, smacking him, i cant watch this anymore. why do they do this? i was him onn a loose lead, keeping an eye on him, talking to him, and he just walks behind me, or rests his head on my shoulder.

they only thing i can think of is to leave, as much as i dont want to. im in the middle of getting a horse of my own, but i need to find one.

could you tell me what to do? could you tell me why they treat him this way? could you sugest the perfect horse for me?

this is what i cann do:-

ive been riding for about a year and a half, had pass experiance, nothing major.

i can walk, trot (post and sit) canter (sit, forward seat, and one hand) jumps (not such how big) i know how to yeild. im a pretty confedent rider, the horse i ride pig roots, kicks, lunges (like the jumping toward you and chasing you) and i do well controling him, hes only ever done that once with me. and yeah anything else you need to know tell me.

 

[Kiki]

the thing about crossroads is you can sit in the middle of the road otherwise you'll get run over. And I totally sympathize about having to stand by and watch the horse you love be mistreated but such is life when you dont own the horse. If your funds can allow it have you thought of asking to buy him?

 

[KaylaOscer1994]

it has crossed my mind but umm....i havnt got the guts. i can take on a horse that does all this, yet i can ask to buy him. i would love to having him, evenn my mum wants me to have him, shes seen how he is with me, but i havnt got the guts to ask, they gossip there and if i say know, they might talk aout it and then people will laugh at me : (

 

[White Foot]

You have to also remember that you did go back to riding. The instructor probably wanted to start from the beginning and see what you remembered and/or forgot. You can't expect to take awhile off and then just jump back into it, you have to start slow. Don't listen to anyone else but the instructor! I hate when other people are in a lesson with me and they do that.

When do they hit the horse?
I hate to say it, Horses are wild HUGE animals. You can't treat them like your kid or your dog. They can hurt you, without even meaning it. You need to be firm with them because once you let them get away with something small; it can turn into something huge that can put you in danger.
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[Alwaysbehind]

Why not have your mother ask about buying the horse? She can pretend it is a gift for your or something.

 

[KaylaOscer1994]

white foot i understand what you said, were all firm with them but they hit him for the stupidesst reasons. one of them have hit him just cause he wouldnt let her hug his neck.

always behind, ill see what my mum thinks about that

 

[Sophie19]

Sometimes in life when we want something we have to reach out and get it. Talk to your instructor about purchasing him. Worst case scenario, she says no, and things are no different for you than they are now.

 

[AlmostThere]

it has crossed my mind but umm....i havnt got the guts. i can take on a horse that does all this, yet i can ask to buy him. i would love to having him, evenn my mum wants me to have him, shes seen how he is with me, but i havnt got the guts to ask, they gossip there and if i say know, they might talk aout it and then people will laugh at me : (

Try to think of it this way:

Wouldn't it be better to face a little embarrassment now for the horse you love, than spend the rest of your life wondering if you could have had him if you had gotten up the courage to ask?

I also love the get your Mom to ask idea if she thinks he'd be a good horse for you. Moms have the perspective of age to realize that most embarrassments are very temporary :wink:.

 

[KaylaOscer1994]

ill talk to my mum about your ideas tonight. my mum has a way of getting her own way ; D haha. thankyou sooo much for all your help. ill keep you posted on what happens. i hope she says yes....the only thing is that they gossip. if she says no, then everyone will talk about it and then ill most probebly get a huge lecture from my instructer and what if she never lets me near him again? i wouldnt be able to stand it : (

 

[dantexeventer]

I think you should just ask. I mean, really - who cares what the stupid kids there say anyway? In a few years time you'll regret not having asked about him.

As far as once you have a horse - the most important thing is to be at a stable where you'll both be happy and confident, and have a trainer who has the best interest of the horse at heart. Someone who will push you just enough but won't make you do things you're not ready for. This person can help you find the perfect horse for you.
But seriously - ask about the lesson horse. You don't have to do it in front of everyone. Take your trainer/barn owner aside when she's not super busy, have your mum there so she knows you're serious, and ask!

 

[KaylaOscer1994]

my mum thinks its a good idea and we might ask. thank you everyone for all your help

 

[BarrelRacer64]

Keep us posted. Hope things go good for you *when* you ask.

 

[KaylaOscer1994]

haha i will barrelracer64

 

[speedy da fish]

Why not have your mother ask about buying the horse? She can pretend it is a gift for your or something.

Try to think of it this way:

Wouldn't it be better to face a little embarrassment now for the horse you love, than spend the rest of your life wondering if you could have had him if you had gotten up the courage to ask?

I also love the get your Mom to ask idea if she thinks he'd be a good horse for you. Moms have the perspective of age to realize that most embarrassments are very temporary :wink:.

yeah this is what i thought! mums loose the will to be embarrassment when they have children! she problably wont be embarrassed anyway, seeing as she doesnt have to same feelings for this horse as you do.
If bobby is the horse in your avatar then you look good together

 

[Kayty]

Hey girl. If you don't get this lesson horse, I *may* have something that might be alright for you. Wouldn't be for another few months at least though. This guy is a 17 year old WB gelding, about 16hh. He's got the most beautiful head/neck on him and lovely hocks, not the most stunning mover but he's alright for a bit of lower level dressage and has also done a fair bit of jumping. Dead quiet on trails.
I'm picking him up tomorrow from a friends place, she's had him for about 6 years now but has just had a baby so can't afford to keep him, I've known him the whole time she's had him and he's just lovely. A real sweetheart and pleasure to have around. Lives off the smell of an oat bag. Dead easy to sit on. And has no buck in him, most he'll do is a little play on the lunge (that was after 6 months out in the paddock, first time being put on the lunge!!).
I'm taking him off her and going to do some work with him while I settle back into Uni for the next couple of months. I'll get him going walk, trot canter again, leg yield, shoulder in etc. When I'm done with him he'll have a very good basic dressage foundation.
He is 17, but because he hasn't done a hell of a lot of work, you wouldn't know it!
You're more than welcome to come up and meet him at some point if you're interested I don't live far from you from memory.

 

[KaylaOscer1994]

speedy da fish, thanks, lol my mum laughed at what you said. yeah thats bobby, he dosnt let anyone else do that to him. the fish time i did it, it was after a lesson and i was talking to him as i was taking him to his stall and i turned him around so i could close the gate, i turned around and he walked up to me, and placed his head in my chest, i slowly (hes head shy you see) i slowly wraped my arms around his head and rested my head on his. he just stood there with his eyes closed, i was amazed, and i have never seen him do it to anyone else with out being forst, after every lesson he always does it and i just do the same, he doesnt fret when i get him out of the paddock, he only dose it when its windy but all he does is keep his head up then. i can pretty much to anything with him annd he dosnt care.

kayty, my mum likes the sound of the horse, i live in onkaparinga hills, we need to know the price though.....cause.....2000 is pretty much the highest, posably a liiiiiittle higher. whats his nname? i love the part about his jumping, i love to jump and go on trails : )

 

[Kayty]

I certainly wouldn't be asking more than $2000 for him. I'd say probably around the $1500 mark give or take a little depending on how much I do with him between now and if I sell him on.
His name is Rex, he's a registered trakahner and is a lovely bay. He's a very big sook, loves attention and cuddles.
I'm going to picj him up this morning actually, so will get some photo's. Keeping in mind he's been out of work for a few months and is OBESE! Hence you wouldn't need to fork out much on feeding him. He'd be a lovely pony club horse I think.

Onka hills is only about 15 mins away from me depending on where exactly you live, so I'll leve it up to you but once i start getting him working you're welcome to come up and have bit of a sit on him.

 

[KaylaOscer1994]

He sounds great! my mum loves his name lol.

you know where states park is? you know that big hill leading up to it? where on states road at the bottom of it and on the next hill

We'd love to come meet him and cant wait to see pictures

 

[Kayty]

Oh yep, so I'd say about 15-20 mins away

Little ****** wouldn't go on the float today, it was so hot i didn't want to get him too stirred up so going to leave it for a cooler day I think. Bit annoying but it's fair enough, poor old guy hasn't been on a float for a good 6 years. I'm the type of person who is determined to have a horse floating well before it leaves my hands, so don't worry about floating!
Will fill you in on how things are going.

 

[KaylaOscer1994]

ahhaha thats good. keep me updated ; ) we might be asking on thursday unless its too hot then we might leave it for another day to ask about bobby