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So lately I have just been feeling down with myself about my horse and my riding. I feel like I'm never going to go anywhere with my riding because I'm generally a nervous rider and pretty unconfident as well.

I got Moose knowing he is green (which doesn't bother me because I'm kinda use to riding green horses which is probably why my confidence is so low) BUT! He is nearly next to bombproof and wouldn't do anything to try and kill ya. I just think he could really benefit in a 30 or 60 day training program. He isn't totally green as he can w/t/c stops on a dime as well but isn't as broke as I wish he was.

I'm just feelin bummed because my goal is to try and take lessons on him in the spring or try and send him to the trainers. And I just feel like I am such a bad rider(which I know I'm really not) that i can't ride him. I don't even have any motivation to go out and ride him anymore. I think I'm making myself scared to ride and I dont even know why since I know truelly that I am not scared of him. Ah I don't know.
**rant over**
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It'll get better!

I've been there, pretty recently actually. My mare is greenish, and she gets ridiculously spooky sometimes. I felt like we were going more backwards then forwards. I switched barns and she did a 180. Its actually fun to go out there now.

I bet when you can make it to lessons and a trainer that things will turn around.

And in the mean time, if you are messing with your own head when it comes to riding, just take a break from riding. Teach him other stuff, make him absolutely pro at ground driving or whatever else to take your mind off riding.
I find that so many people keep questioning why my horse is still green under saddle after all this time, but I enjoy just going out and working on ground stuff some days. Its frustrating to explain but hey, who says you have to have Moose trained to ride perfectly any time soon?
 

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My mare was very very green when I got her (Who lets a 23 year old horse still be green? Seriously. haha) and I also found myself very frustrated with her.
I figured out though that part of my frustration was that I was asking too much (too many things, I needed to focus on ONE thing per session) of her all at once and since she didn't really get what was going on, she was getting frustrated with me. Then we were just engaging in this vicious cycle of frustration at each other.
Once I started focusing on little things, like going on a trail ride down the road (easy since she's also pretty bombproof), or getting an immediate stop when I say "ho", or something similar that was mildly challenging but not impossible for her, I started seeing much better results.
For instance, Lacey used to have a problem with rearing when I asked her to back up, and it turned out that I was just asking for too much backing up at once. Instead of requiring 5 steps of backing up right off, I needed to ask for one until she was ok with that-then two, etc. We had been struggling with backing up for literally months but when I started small, we were able to progress to backing up for as long as I wanted within about a month. I just needed to start out at her level so she understood what was going on.

The successes really made me feel much better about my riding ability and my horse, and it really helped me see how she was thinking which led to even more success since I was able to figure out how to work with her best.

Since your boy is bombproof, is there anyway you can get him out and go for a few long trail rides? I've found that there is nothing like a really long ride for a horse that 's relatively green. Trotting and cantering for long stretches taught my girl how to make her trot/canter slower and faster better than anything I could have taught her in the arena, for instance.
Also, just running is really really fun, and relaxing for me. Nothing like coming back from a good ride where you just went out and enjoyed what your horse does know (and in doing so, taught him/her some things).

You can do it! I know you can. :)
 
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Everyone's had those moments. They never last. :)

But really, even if you didn't get to where you want to be with your riding skill, it wouldn't be the end of the world. In the big scheme of things, riding isn't that important. There are much worse things that could happen. :wink:
 

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I had my bummed moment (read this IN context ;D) two weeks ago, with Duffy, I came off sobbing, not because of her, because of me and I thought I was doing her harm because I wasn't good enough... take a breath, lunge of freelunge for a few days then ride, and look at what you HAVE achieved, not what you're struggling to do, it'll lighten you up and then you may find when you don't concentrate and get down about it, its easier ^^
 

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Why wait until spring? Give yourself a holiday gift and start lessons now! Part of the feeling bummed is likely the dark and cold!
Well I don't have an indoor and I figured instead of having to plan my lessons around the weather spring would be a better choice haha
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Well I don't have a trailer and I pay for my horse all on my own with a wee bit of help with board. (I'm 17) But other wise I work my butt off to pay for where I am now. Boarding with an indoor can go upwards of $600+ over here!
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