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Yes I think its ungrateful when members ask questions and then can't be bothered to just give a 'like' or a short 'thank you' somewhere in the thread to everyone that's responded but does it bother me enough to dwell on it?
No it doesn't.
Life's too short and too full of real problems to concern myself about such trivial things.


As for the whole 'do a forum search' thing rather than ask the same question over and over again - as Tinyliny already pointed out - its not really what the Forum wants members to do. The forum needs that daily post count from new threads to stay profitable and stay alive so if its the same query that was posted a month ago, it doesn't matter.
 

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I hope it's not annoying any of my co-grumpies that I am responding soooooo much. But, after complaining about OPs not responding, I feel duty bound to do it....for now. Don't know how long I can keep it up....lol...if the thread is still active tomorrow, I'll apologize in advance as I'm headed to a Dave Ellis 3 day clinic mid day and I'm not sure if I'll be online much untill after I get back home late Sat.

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Yes I think its ungrateful when members ask questions and then can't be bothered to just give a 'like' or a short 'thank you' somewhere in the thread to everyone that's responded but does it bother me enough to dwell on it?
No it doesn't.
Life's too short and too full of real problems to concern myself about such trivial things.


As for the whole 'do a forum search' thing rather than ask the same question over and over again - as Tinyliny already pointed out - its not really what the Forum wants members to do. The forum needs that daily post count from new threads to stay profitable and stay alive so if its the same query that was posted a month ago, it doesn't matter.
You are right, I need to have more of the 'life's too short' attitude, and I certainly have my share of real problems...thanks for the wisdom shared.
I need to go back and read Tinyliny's posts, I missed the detail about a daily post count. That is interesting to know.

@ pasomountain Yes! you get me. Thanks.

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I'm pretty grumpy myself... but I will say that I do not get notices that there have been replies to my questions on HF. I have to go to my subscribed threads to see if they have been updated. So sometimes it takes a while, or if I have a lot of subscribed threads, I might miss it, and sometimes, if I have asked the question quite some time ago, I don't always think of going to check on it. And yes, sometimes other things take precedence. I also don't get notices if I got tagged in posts (FYI, if you've done this and I haven't responded, that's why).

That said, I think that many are smarter than me, and know when to just ignore responses they don't like rather than reply in a way that elicits an argument and ends up attracting negative attention from our lovely moderators. So it may be that some ARE in fact, ignoring responses. Probably not me though, at least not intentionally. I'm too grumpy for that.
 

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I hope it's not annoying any of my co-grumpies that I am responding soooooo much. But, after complaining about OPs not responding, I feel duty bound to do it....for now. Don't know how long I can keep it up....lol...if the thread is still active tomorrow, I'll apologize in advance as I'm headed to a Dave Ellis 3 day clinic mid day and I'm not sure if I'll be online much untill after I get back home late Sat.

Fay

ok, people, let's drive Fay crazy by posting and posting and posting, forcing her to have to reply and reply and reply, and feel guilty at the Dave Ellis clinic, and drag her sorry "me of monday" back to HF to eat crow! Ha!
 

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@Acadianartist you make some very good points that explain valid reasons why folks may not respond. I appreciate your input! Glad to add you to the Grumpies, though.

@ tinyliny......yikes! It's all my own fault. LOL !! Can I have some ketchup with that crow on Monday ?

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I can see where it can be annoying if the OP doesn't reply or give a quick "thanks". Depending on my mood at the time it may bother me or it may not. I will admit my mood dictates how I respond to threads and sometimes I am better off to just sign off and walk away..lol.

I truly do enjoy when the question sparks thoughtful discussion and a lot of opinions are given so if the OP doesn't respond it is no big deal. I enjoy reading other opinions even if I may not agree or it might not be the way I do things.

I believe I have been on here for almost 9 years and one thing I've noticed with the coming and going of many posters over that time is how the general consensus has changed on certain subjects. I know to do a search on here sometimes dredges old threads up and if the same question was asked the opinions would be different depending on those posting or simply the information has changed over the years.

With that time has also come getting thoroughly bored with generic, standard, regurgitated internet answers to questions. I think I probably get annoyed with those more than anything.

But all and all I enjoy reading the opinions of others and learning how people who don't live in or ride in my circle do things.
 

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I can see where it can be annoying if the OP doesn't reply or give a quick "thanks". Depending on my mood at the time it may bother me or it may not. I will admit my mood dictates how I respond to threads and sometimes I am better off to just sign off and walk away..lol.

I truly do enjoy when the question sparks thoughtful discussion and a lot of opinions are given so if the OP doesn't respond it is no big deal. I enjoy reading other opinions even if I may not agree or it might not be the way I do things.

I believe I have been on here for almost 9 years and one thing I've noticed with the coming and going of many posters over that time is how the general consensus has changed on certain subjects. I know to do a search on here sometimes dredges old threads up and if the same question was asked the opinions would be different depending on those posting or simply the information has changed over the years.

With that time has also come getting thoroughly bored with generic, standard, regurgitated internet answers to questions. I think I probably get annoyed with those more than anything.

But all and all I enjoy reading the opinions of others and learning how people who don't live in or ride in my circle do things.
I'm curious if you have any examples of how HF opinions have migrated on a given topic ....?
 

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I'm curious if you have any examples of how HF opinions have migrated on a given topic ....?
For myself, when I look through old posts (which I do, sometimes, really, before I post!) I feel like in general there has been a little bit of a shift from somewhat of a "make him respect you!" attitude to more of a "listen to what he's trying to tell you" attitude. If that makes sense.
 

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I'm curious if you have any examples of how HF opinions have migrated on a given topic ....?
I wish I could remember the thread a while back that made me come to that conclusion, I'll have to dig. I remember specifically thinking, "that is not the way that this thread would of went when I first joined". But again I believe it has to do with those posting as to how it molds the general consensus. I am not saying it is a bad thing, I am saying I have noticed a change.

But even simple stuff like popular grooming tools, tack, fly spray, or even available meds but that would fall under available products or information has changed.
 

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@COWCHICK77, thank you for your well thought out response, you bring up some interesting points, and your post prompted further discussion. Cool. I also very much enjoy other people's opinions and expanding my understanding of things. I'd be curious to hear more details about what you mean by 'generic, standard, regurgitated internet answers', some examples if you can think of them.
@ACinATX, yes, and isn't the 'listen to what he's trying to tell you' attitude , when it's safe for the human, the best first way to approach the issues, and instead of 'make him respect you', EARN his respect via consistency, fairness, yet firmness and take the time it takes to get there.

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Dang it. I was really hoping @mslady254 had posted this and then logged off for a day so that I could complain about how the OP started a grumble thread and then walked away.

Now my day is ruined. I even didn't get to complain.
 

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....it bugs me when an O.P. doesn't post a response in a timely manner after folks have taken the time to think through their issue and type their response with suggestions....suggestions that often involve safety issues for both horse and human. So, I'm wondering what time frame you think is reasonable Vs ?rude for an O.P. to fail to respond to the replies on their post.

Eg. O.P. posts their issue , I post my suggestions the same day, within 2 days several people have offered tips, another day, no evidence that the O.P. has read any of them,,,another day,,,still nothing from the O.P. ...it ruffles my feathers a bit but as in my title, maybe I'm just an old grump about it.I do understand that we all have very busy schedules, but when I have an issue and ask about it, I'm eager beaver checking for replies and trying to update often to thank people for responding. Guess I'm just curious what the time frame is (if any) before you begin to think the O.P. response is overdue.

Any other old grumps out there?

Fay, aka GrumpyGrumpusGrrrrrumpola
So many things can happen, especially if they're new. I think it's hard to navigate on this site unless you've worked with a similar platform. I have a feeling some may not be able to get back to their OP and replies.

I agree it can be irritating, but I figure most reply quickly or within a few days. If they've not replied by a week I'd figure they got lost here. I say that because I joined years ago and had a terrible time finding posts again that I'd read and replied to. I kind of quit posting because of it.

So, I guess like everything else in life, you just never know what's going on with them I suppose. I do understand though..
 

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Dang it. I was really hoping @mslady254 had posted this and then logged off for a day so that I could complain about how the OP started a grumble thread and then walked away.

Now my day is ruined. I even didn't get to complain.
Oh Geeeze, I never meant to ruin your day! It should make you feel better that I'll probably get totally behind in replying by tomorrow, so you can look forward to all the complaining you want!! Have at it, have fun!!

'Grumble thread', I love it...lol

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@alsosusleg2 now I feel like a jerk, like a horse , you have made me realize just how impatient a person I am. Thank you for the perspective, how arrogant of me to assume that people always chose not to respond. Funny (not), but I generally consider myself a patient person, but Sonny showed me many times, how much more patient I needed to be. And now you, alsosusleg2, truly, thanks for the reminder.

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