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I HATE HER! The only reason Im still using her is because she is the only one my parents will pay, I'm only 14 so I can't get a job and pay for my own so I'm stuck with her! I don't like her because she never explains anyhing and is very confusing. Last night was my lesson and she wanted to work with rein management. Well I wanted to work on Walk, trot, canter, stop, and back because thats what she told me to work on and I did and Dozer is great with those. But, since she is the all mighty trainer she gets to decide. So we walk around the perimeter of the arena then trot. At one point Dozer leaves the rail to come to her. (she always gives him cookies and he is VERY food motavated!) SO I am bumping trying to get his huge head back to the rail, and he braces his neck and turns to her, then she tells me to drop my reins so I do, and she starts yelling saying how I'm ruining the horse and how I just let him get away with it and that it is annoying how I always do it. What the hell??? I NEVER do that!!! Its only when she is there and he wants cookies. She is so dumb! She gets mad when I can't pull his head around fast. Maybe because Im 100lbs and muscle-less and Dozer is an 18hh draft? Whatever, after that she told me I had to bump and when I did she said NO! Your bumping you should be pulling! Then I do pulling and she yells at me for not bumping! Then after we have yelled back and forth she says that she doesn't want to teach me anymore because I'm giving her lip! So I say fine! Leave! BUt does she? NO! Ugh!!! I HATE HER! ONe lesson she decided that I might want to learn how to show him in halter so we were pivoting and she kept saying I was doing it wrong but never would give me an explaination. In like the last two seconds of that lesson she said he is doing it right if his legs pass behind, if they pass in front he is doing it wrong. I really need to find a new trainer!!!
 

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ya i have. They were even watching last night and they say its my fault. UGH! Its because they were talking to her husband the whole time and the only time they listened was when I was yelling back at her.
 

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What sucks is that I need lessons. I cant train Dozer all by myself but she is all I have. maybe I will just post about what Dozer is doing wrong and you guys can give me advice on how to correct it. Then I wont need her....
 

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How old is your instructor? She sounds as though she's handling the situation in a very immature way. Now, I won't say that yelling back at her is the best way to go about it, but she need not yell at a child who is only trying to learn.

She sounds like a 16 year old kid.

Best of luck with getting a new trainer.
 

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Hmm that is tough. Best thing to do though is keep your cool as best you can.

When she gets frustrating, stop, get off your horse and say calmly "I don't understand what you're trying to tell me, please explain it again, even better show me so I can learn."

She doesn't sound like she should be training horses or instructing riders but if that's all your parents will allow then you're going to have to play her game til you can figure it out on your own - with our help of course.
 

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What sucks is that I need lessons. I cant train Dozer all by myself but she is all I have. maybe I will just post about what Dozer is doing wrong and you guys can give me advice on how to correct it. Then I wont need her....
What's going wrong is you're big teddy bear wants cookies and he's come to expect it from her. I'd be extremely frustrated if that happened to me and given my slight anger issue, the yelling would be a huge problem. But I understand where you're coming from with the big horse vs. girl. I'm 110 and 5'2. My mare is 17.3 and she's locked her neck before and all I could do was just pull back and make her stop, there was no turning her. Is there anyway you could just stop him and then move him back to the rail. Or maybe "dicipline" the instructor. Tell her if she wants you to be able to do this right, don't give Dozer cookies and break the habbit so he doesn't expect it from her anymore? Maybe if she gave you the cookies to give to him later?
Ugh that would **** me off so bad!!! you really need a better instructor but maybe if your parent won't offer that then something someone says here might help.

Someone above said maybe have her show you how to do it. If she won't get on him, or can't make him do what she want's...she shouldn't be yelling at you for having the same problem.
I'm slightly biased though...I've had crappy trainers and instead of going off on them, I just leave, no words, and when they ask why I say, I'm getting a trainer who can help me and not belittle me...thank you. (don't do that)
 

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Here is the problem, she doesn't ride other people's horses because she would feel bad because she doesn't ride her own horses. Oh and two other things that **** me off about her, she doesn't understand I am weak and that it is easier to pull his head around from the ground. The second thing is, she brings her grandson sometimes and he runs around chasing our chickens, making sound effects, etc. Mine and Dozer's first time at the equestrian center, she had her grandson in the arena on a pony that takes off with him, well, the pony took off and started running in circles around me and Dozer, making us both nervus. Then the pony noticed the gate open and took off and the kid was screaming at the top of his lungs, she was running after him, and Dozer was so worried that something was wrong with the arena so he had a spaz attack and started jumping and trying to leave. It was HORRIBLE!
 

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if you really dont like her, you should realllly talk to your parents about finding a new trainer and tell them why. when i was your age i had a truly horrible trainer who wrecked my confidence in riding so much after 1 year of riding with her, i wouldnt even canter a 20 meter circle without fearing my horse would fall, nor would i jump over 18 inches. i finally got a great trainer and im back to how i was before, completely confident riding my horse. trust me, you dont want your trainer to do that to you, its just horrible
 

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wow

Here is the problem, she doesn't ride other people's horses because she would feel bad because she doesn't ride her own horses. Oh and two other things that **** me off about her, she doesn't understand I am weak and that it is easier to pull his head around from the ground. The second thing is, she brings her grandson sometimes and he runs around chasing our chickens, making sound effects, etc. Mine and Dozer's first time at the equestrian center, she had her grandson in the arena on a pony that takes off with him, well, the pony took off and started running in circles around me and Dozer, making us both nervus. Then the pony noticed the gate open and took off and the kid was screaming at the top of his lungs, she was running after him, and Dozer was so worried that something was wrong with the arena so he had a spaz attack and started jumping and trying to leave. It was HORRIBLE!
That's just completely unprofessional!!! I would have stopped the lesson and rescheduled it for a time the little brat isn't there (sorry I don't like kids.) If she did again I'd move onto another trainer? I don't understand how your parents can see this as unprofessional, and then her confronting you by yelling...that's not instruction that's uncalled for criticism and blaming. I don't want you to drop down this low but if you have to get on your knees and beg your parents for a new trainer. Jeeze, this lady needs to get straightened out some how.
 

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She is so dumb! My friend also used her and is now with a different trainer. She is so lucky! Anyways she had the same problems and she agrees that this trainer has lowered her confidence and made her scared of her own horse, same thing she did to me. My friend has a new trainer that has boosted her confidence and help her horse improve tremendously! Im jealous!!!
 

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Maybe you could talk to your friends parents and see if they could talk to yours.... or ask if your rents would be willing to sit in on a session with another trainer just to see if you do better with someone else, maybe even your friends trainer. Ask the other trainer if they'd be willing to work with you for a little less(explain your situation) and ask your parents if theyd be willing to give you some trial time with another trainer...
If all else fails you can always just halt his saddle training, stop paying motormouth:lol:, and work, work, work on his ground training. Let your parents know you'd rather not use a trainer at all if you have to use her, show them you are serious. And as always you know that this is a community of people some of whom have hsared your situation and would be more than willing to give you advice should you choose to undertak his training on your own, maybe read up a bit and be your own trainer!
 

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Where do you live in California? I think that maybe having your parents talk to your friend's parents, might help them realize why you want to switch trainers, and what your friends new trainer is like that makes them much happier with her. I had a trainer for a few years who was the big trainer in the area, but she couldn't get on my horse because she was too big for my mare (my mare was a 16.1 hand Thoroughbred who was pretty fine boned and trainer was kind of heavyset), and she spent more time yelling and upsetting my horse than she did actually helping us out. It got bad enough that my mare would freeze up whenever she heard the trainers voice at local shows. She did much better when I worked with her on my own for a year or so before I sold her, than she ever did with the trainer. My parents had the same opinion too, that they liked her, and she was the big cheese in the area, so why would I ever want to switch, and me being me, I never really argued well, I just sucked it up until I finally snapped and told them I was quitting lessons. Hopefully you can get your parents to help you find a better trainer that you get along with and can actually learn from. Depending on where you live I might be able to give you some good suggestions for trainers.
 

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I live in Yucaipa/ Calimesa area. My friend is being trained by Dozer's old owner. I went to her house today to hang out and ride around with my friend, and my friend was riding her own horse and I was riding the lady's supposedly push button horse. TOTAL LIE. My friend and I asked for a canter and the horse took off and had no brakes or flexibly(Those were Dozer's problems when I first got him too) Then was a total spaz just walking around. We then switched that horse with another one. When I was trotting I set my reins on her neck and she took off in a dead run. And I mean dead run! After a few strides she bucked and kicked out to the side. I didn't fall because of my ex horse, Bucking Tater, but still. I don't want her training Dozer bad things... I think I will just ride, tell you guys my problems then, maybe you could help? I don't know, I'm open to suggestions.
 
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