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Ok i just recently moved my horse to a new pasture and put him in there with another gelding, i figured they would both be happier to have a buddy. But ever since i moved him he is very skittish of me and unless i have feed he wont let me touch him. This horse has never acted like this in the two years i have had him. The other horse is pretty mean to him, that is the only thing i can think of that has him acting this way. How long should i let him settle in to see if this is how he is going to be all the time or if he will go back to his usual self? He is not the same horse at all! It is so sad :(
 

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this happened to me before, what you have to do is try and halter him the best you can and then walk him and then take the halter off, let him do what about for a couple minutes and keep trying this untill he comes to the point where it isn't that bad :p
 

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this happened to me before, what you have to do is try and halter him the best you can and then walk him and then take the halter off, let him do what about for a couple minutes and keep trying this untill he comes to the point where it isn't that bad :p
Ok thanks, im gonna try to catch him saturday and work with him. I cant tell if he hates it there and hates me for taking him there or if he likes in and is afraid i am going to take him away from it
 

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Hi,

If your herd animal has always lived alone, with you his only company, now he finally finds himself with a live-in friend, chances are he's afraid of letting you catch him & take him away from that. So if that's the case, it will be a matter of proving to him you're not going to do that. If you can, section off a corner of the paddock, to help you catch him, then when you do, do something nice & let him go, without taking him from his buddy. Making friends with his buddy also helps an 'uncatchable' horse learn to trust you too IME

Sometimes horses who have been kept away from other horses do have social problems that cause it to be too difficult for them to live in company, but this is not generally a big problem. Perhaps the other horse is being 'mean' to your boy because your horse hasn't learned the finer bodylanguage messages. Or perhaps he's ignorring or rebelling against this horse's authority, or the horse is otherwise feeling insecure so it's 'upping the ante'. Or perhaps it's just normal 'horse play' that you're not used to, having kept your horse alone till now.
 

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loosie gave you a lot of possibilities for what's happening with your horse in his new situation. It'll be your challenge to read the horses & see what's really happening! Please don't take it personally; no need to feel dismayed!

The relationship is priority, then the horse will "catch" you. Change it up, think "relationship", not "catch", meaning, don't try to catch, but spend a good half hour in horse's space just sitting, & let horse's curiosity draw it to YOU. Don't even be eager to pet him, just allow him to make the gestures. It'll change the game.
 

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Paint23..My horse Stella went throught the same behaviour or would trot around me and only let me catch her when she was good and ready. She is also in a paddock with kate my wifes horse.

At first Stella was never a problem at catching or taking the bit. I am happy to say she has returned to being easy to catch but I now have to go to her. She has stopped responding to the whistle. But is still hard to get to take the bit.

How I dealt with her was to catch her, bridle her, and walk around then release. This has been pointed out by another member. I also would walk around in the paddock and make no attempt to catch her but if I got the chance I would pat her or scratch the spots she cannot reach. After a time (months) she came back to being her old self. I also seperated the paddock mate by a electric fence. This stopped them from walking side by side but still allowed contact. I also would take a chair and sit in the paddock ignore the horse, I did not look at her and would fuss around on the grass as if I had found something interesting. Beleave it or not this gets under the horses skin and there natural curosity gets the better of them and Stella could not resist investigating what I was doing.

If you try this you have to be sure the other horse has no malace in it or you may get hurt. But it does work and when your horse comes up to have a look just talk to it, nothing else then pick up the chair and leave. You are showing the horse that not every time you come into the paddock it means work.

My horse Stella is herd bound and I have issues when seperating her from Kate so be cautious your horse does not become the same. I seperate them both by leaving one behind, or not bringing Kate back leaving her at a friends for a few days. The lesson to Stella is her mate will return and I am slowely winning with the herd bound issue.

Good luck. Your horse still loves you, it is only being a horse, and will try it on any chance it gets. They are far more intelligent than we give them credit for.
 

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I would have to disagree in a way with some of the other comments, he will get used to his new partner in time. But he has to respect you and know where you are taking him is a good place to go, make it hard on him to want to stay in his pasture. He will figure it out but make him work if he wants to run from you let him run chase him soon coming to you will be way easier, if he still doesn't want to leave the pasture take a longe line with you and longe him do this till he decides that it is easier to go with you. I do not know the size of the pasture or the whole situation but letting him get away with what he is doing won't work out, that's forsure!
 

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Ok i just recently moved my horse to a new pasture and put him in there with another gelding, i figured they would both be happier to have a buddy. But ever since i moved him he is very skittish of me and unless i have feed he wont let me touch him. This horse has never acted like this in the two years i have had him. The other horse is pretty mean to him, that is the only thing i can think of that has him acting this way. How long should i let him settle in to see if this is how he is going to be all the time or if he will go back to his usual self? He is not the same horse at all! It is so sad :(
I read all the other replies and came back to your post.
Did you let these horses get use to one another before putting them together, like a week or so in a seperate area ? or did you just dump him into the other horse's pasture?
You stated the other horse is mean to your horse, I see that as the problem right there, your horse is on the bottom of the pecking order and is scared at this point, and that is why he won't let you touch him, it is called fear.........
Chances are he will remain on the bottom of this pecking order.......
 

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There horses have been aound each other alot, we camp and ride all the time. And my horse hasnt always been alone, ii just he would get pasture time with my other two hoses everyday, but we just recently lost our barn so i have had to separate all of my horses and put them where i could find until spring time. But last night he came to me and gave me kisses so i think he may be coming around! when the rain let up tomorrow im going to get him out and work with him. Thank you all for your advice its very helpful!
 

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I would have to disagree in a way with some of the other comments, he will get used to his new partner in time. But he has to respect you and know where you are taking him is a good place to go, make it hard on him to want to stay in his pasture. He will figure it out but make him work if he wants to run from you let him run chase him soon coming to you will be way easier, if he still doesn't want to leave the pasture take a longe line with you and longe him do this till he decides that it is easier to go with you. I do not know the size of the pasture or the whole situation but letting him get away with what he is doing won't work out, that's forsure!
Telly, BTW, appropriate punctuation will make reading & making sense of your posts a lot easier for people.

I don't see where anyone above as advocated 'letting him get away with it' as such. But I just see his behaviour as communication, not 'disobedience' or such. My interpretation of the term 'respect' means that it cannot be forced - you can't *make* someone respect you, it's not a question that anyone 'should' or 'have to' respect you, only that you can work towards **earning** someone's respect. I also think that respect comes part & parcel with trust and understanding - if you don't have those first, you won't get respect either.

Anyway, just me being pedantic about mindset issues I suppose... Good to hear your further information & progress paint. Sounds likely it'll all be rosey again very shortly!
 

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Sorry for my punctuation and my post wasn't meant to offend anyone, do what you have to do to get the job done good luck!
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Sorry for my punctuation and my post wasn't meant to offend anyone, do what you have to do to get the job done good luck!
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No worries & hope I came across as intended - reasonably & respectfully:wink:. You didn't offend me for one, I just wanted to share my opinions based on what you said. Cheers!
 

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Telly, BTW, appropriate punctuation will make reading & making sense of your posts a lot easier for people.

I don't see where anyone above as advocated 'letting him get away with it' as such. But I just see his behaviour as communication, not 'disobedience' or such. My interpretation of the term 'respect' means that it cannot be forced - you can't *make* someone respect you, it's not a question that anyone 'should' or 'have to' respect you, only that you can work towards **earning** someone's respect. I also think that respect comes part & parcel with trust and understanding - if you don't have those first, you won't get respect either.

Anyway, just me being pedantic about mindset issues I suppose... Good to hear your further information & progress paint. Sounds likely it'll all be rosey again very shortly!
Ok so i think i have my boy back!! We separted the two horses because it never got any better, the other horse would not let him in the shed and we have had terrible rains here lately and it has been cold. My horse is used to a barn so i didnt want him to get sick. One day after i moved the other horse, Koda wasnt skittish anymore, i walked right up to him and put his halter on him, got him out and cleaned his feet and brushed him down. He was just like he used to be. I guess the mean horse had him scared to death! Thanks everyone for your advice!
 

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Ok so i think i have my boy back!! We separted the two horses because it never got any better, the other horse would not let him in the shed and we have had terrible rains here lately and it has been cold. My horse is used to a barn so i didnt want him to get sick. One day after i moved the other horse, Koda wasnt skittish anymore, i walked right up to him and put his halter on him, got him out and cleaned his feet and brushed him down. He was just like he used to be. I guess the mean horse had him scared to death! Thanks everyone for your advice!
I apologize, I have been in your situation but the difference being that my horse would run to me as soon as he would see me coming, go figure!!! I read your post wrong and i thought he was being sour, like i said i do not know your situation pls accept my apologies.
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I apologize, I have been in your situation but the difference being that my horse would run to me as soon as he would see me coming, go figure!!! I read your post wrong and i thought he was being sour, like i said i do not know your situation pls accept my apologies.
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Oh its ok! Yeah my horse would run to me too before i put him with this new horse, when i had my three horses all together they all got along so good even at feed time, they all just minded their own business. So this was a drastic change for Koda. Having another horse that he saw as a potential friend be a bully to him was traumatizing! He wasnt used to that :( I had no choice just to throw him out with this horse tho. It was either that or sell him and i wasnt about to do that because i went through ten horses to finally find him!
 
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