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I was so surprised and so happy! Yesterday was my 4th or 5th lesson with Hammer. I was working with him in the arena like I did the week before - working on walk, trot, and cantor using body language and energy. When I stopped him, I gave him some pets for doing so well, then I turned away and walked off. He followed me!!!!! I went around the arena and he stayed right with me! My instructor/trainer said he trusts me now and likes my touch. I hope that's true. I will feel much more comfortable with him now. It was a great lesson, and I just wanted to share my excitement with people who understand! Thanks for reading! :D
 

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You know I was going to make some smart ar3e remark here, because I didn't understand.

I have just gone and read some of your other posts and now I understand that you are overcoming fears, and now this post makes so much sense to me. NOW I get your excitement and wanting to share, and I hope more people now understand why you are so thrilled.

Great going, keep up the good work.:D
 
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Good Job! It's exciting to work with a horse and have them show so clearly that they're willing to listen and (literally) follow your direction. I've had my horse for two years and I still get chills sometimes when he chooses to follow me around of his own free will when he could be doing other horsey things instead.
 

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Good on you! I know the feeling - my lease horse will follow me everywhere, unless he's loose in the paddock, in which case his mind is on food.

Sounds like you're making great progress though, keep it up!
 

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Wow you are cantering now! The last I read you were still on the ground work. I am green with envy. LOL Seriously I am happy for you and you are doing fantastic.

My next lesson the trainer is going to stay on the outside of the fence in a corner, while I get my horse, saddle up, ground work her, then do a ride in the scary corner of my arena. I haven't been able to do work my horse without the trainer here by my side, so this time she is just going to watch from a distance. I am hoping this helps me mentally. And if this goes without any problems, then we are going to put her back on the lunge line and try for a canter.
 

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Wow you are cantering now! The last I read you were still on the ground work. I am green with envy. LOL Seriously I am happy for you and you are doing fantastic.

My next lesson the trainer is going to stay on the outside of the fence in a corner, while I get my horse, saddle up, ground work her, then do a ride in the scary corner of my arena. I haven't been able to do work my horse without the trainer here by my side, so this time she is just going to watch from a distance. I am hoping this helps me mentally. And if this goes without any problems, then we are going to put her back on the lunge line and try for a canter.
LOL, no, I'm still on the ground! I'm getting the horse to do those things without a rope. I have to get my body language right. It's difficult for me. I have a hard time staying in the right position. I just learned that the rear is the gas and the front is the brake. How long have you been in lessons? My husband says I should be on the horse by now, but I'm perfectly comfortable going at this pace.
 

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There are plenty of people that take riding lessons, can ride, but have minimal to no skills when it comes to horse care, training and ground work. So, while your SO is right in that you could be riding now, I agree with your trainer far more! I think that learning the care and training aspects are just as important and it saddens me that so many people skip them, and then wind up in a bad way when they have a horse and no idea how to handle or care for it properly.
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LOL, no, I'm still on the ground! I'm getting the horse to do those things without a rope. I have to get my body language right. It's difficult for me. I have a hard time staying in the right position. I just learned that the rear is the gas and the front is the brake. How long have you been in lessons? My husband says I should be on the horse by now, but I'm perfectly comfortable going at this pace.

Ok whew, I thought I missed a lot and that you were way ahead of me in a weeks time. LOL
I haven't cantered yet though on or off line.
I started lessons back in May, but only for May and June, July became too hot for me. I have had 3 or 4 lessons in August. We are getting there, but its going very slowly.
My hubby says the same kind of stuff. Just get on and go ride. I started riding at 3, but in my 40's got the fear. So now into my 50's this is a hard road to go, I don't want to get hurt again I guess. I stopped riding altogether and wanted to get rid of the ponies I had, but hubby said no because he built the run-in's for them and all the post holes he dug by hand for the fencing etc. He said the ponies were staying. So I told him that they were his and I was done.
But then this haflinger mare came into my life and I don't know, but there was something that just connected inside me with her.
The fear is a horrible thing and it snowballed in me. I went from fear of riding to a fear of even just sitting on a horse, I could not lead them, and actually I could not go inside the fencing with one. Forget about leading them too.
I know I have told you before, my first lesson was a hard swallow for me, because I was embarrassed that I could not lead my mare. But that first lesson was awesome for me. And when the show I took my grandson into for lead line and I actually did the leading, it was a wow moment for me. No fear at all, and just a rush. A couple more riding lessons and I actually entered a beginners trail class. I was about as much of a basket case as one could get, but I was determined to do it and I did. It wasn't pretty, but I don't care. She was of course a little uppity for that class, she just waited til I got on to act up, but I handled her, and we got thru it.
I thought perhaps I was going to be fine, and took her to the beach one day, BIG mistake. Eventually due to some much going on, me being nervous, and another horse running past us, she bolted. My mare gives a warning sign though, so I knew it was coming and got her into the one rein stop. I really never got her feet to stop moving, but I did get her walking to a point where I felt it was ok and safe for me to get off. I led her back to the trailer and waited for the others to finish. I did some leading her on the beach but couldn't get her too close to the ocean.
I am an optimist though, I look at that experience differently then others that think I failed. I think I did very good, I got her to the beach, I did ride her on the beach, which once her feet hit sand she did not want to continue, but we worked thru that , and I actually handled a bolt(my biggest fear).
So now, I am in no rush, we are back to lessons and we are starting the trot off line now. I think if I can get into a canter, then the trot won't be so much of an issue.
We start off every lesson with ground work and that seems to help me a lot. I get a sense of her mood, and her movements. Sometimes I can tell she is going to act up, but with the ground work and not giving into her, she just licks her lips and accepts me.

Oh my, sorry I did not mean to write a journal here. LOL I don't really have anyone but my trainer that understands and that I can get this off my chest with.

Its funny really, this is not like riding a bike. When I started my lessons, my seat was horrible, I was never comfortable. The last 2 lessons have been great though. Once I stopped looking down at my horse and I look up and my seat is much better, hence I am more comfortable (which I hope makes my horse more comfortable).

I have another lesson tomorrow morning, so I will let you know how that goes.
 

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My husband says I should be on the horse by now, but I'm perfectly comfortable going at this pace.

Going slowly really pays off. I had my horse for a year before we re-started her under saddle. For a full year, we did ground-work.

Then almost another year doing lunge-line lessons.

Only recently are we riding on our own & I am certain my confidence comes from the fact that we took our time & didn't rush. She had been rushed before & that's not the right route for her (she's a big draft horse---slow & steady is her "thing")

Nothing wrong with taking all the time you feel you (& the horse) need!

Enjoy every minute of it! :D
 

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Oh gosh, I felt so nervous reading that. I understand that level of fear. I couldn't even stand near the pen at first. I've just been bucked off - over the horses head down into a ravine! I don't know what a bolt would feel like, and I don't want to know! My instructor says I should be on the horse later this month. I do not want to do that until I can groom the horse all by myself and handle him getting spirited on the ground.

What do you think about geldings vs. mares as far as being more calm?
 

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Hmm, I can only speak from my own experiences with my own horses about the gelding vs mare thing.

First horse was a gelding, but cut late. I ended up selling him back to original owner because I knew he was going to kill me some day. He has reared up and flipped over onto an experienced rider on him, he would rather walk backwards a mile, then take that one step forward, he would open mouth and come at me like he wanted to take a chunk out of my body, he would charge me in the field while trying to lunge him. Those were some of the issues I had with him.

Now my gelding pony is the opposite of that. He is just the cutest and calmest puppy dog kind of pony.

I had one mare pony that was your biotch of a mare. Could be the combination of her being a mare and pony. We even named her Queen B (the b standing for b*tch). She was just aweful.

Now I have this haflinger mare. She is super calm also and in your face puppy dog personality. For the most part she is great even in the saddle. But she has her moments (uppity, very forward on trails, bolting). This horse will do whatever you ask of her. So I think she and I just need to become connected and I need to get over the fear of the bolt. At least if I know that I can handle it I will be ok.

here are a couple of pics of her. You can see the mare glare in the one with her ears pinned back. And one you can see hot round(fat) she is, and the other one is just because. LOL
Please no critizism about not wearing a helmet please.
 

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Well some parts went ok, and others did not. I did get the mare out of the back pasture while keeping the gelding in the back. Got her into the arena, groomed, saddled, and lunged. Did the back end move in both directons and also the front end, (disengage the front and hind quarters?) and made her back. All went very well. then I got the bridle on and even managed to get on with the help of the mounting block. She stood still for that, which shocked me, I thought we would have a problem right there, but nope. Then I walked her completely around the areana. Did a couple circles at the walk and then this is where it doesn't go so good. I tried to get her into a trot. Managed to do it for a few steps and that was all.

So the trainer came over and we put her back on the lunge line and I rode the trot. I felt kind of sick to my stomach after that. I was wearing my helmet and I always get too over heated and sick from the heat. So the trainer took over and wanted to lunge her at the canter. Well we discussed this and I happened to mention that she was suppose to be trained as a driving pony. So the trainer hooked her up with the lunge line on both sides and ground drove her all over the arena! She is a great pony! She did much better at the driving then she does in the saddle.

Have I mentioned how much I just love this mare. LOL
 

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Well some parts went ok, and others did not. I did get the mare out of the back pasture while keeping the gelding in the back. Got her into the arena, groomed, saddled, and lunged. Did the back end move in both directons and also the front end, (disengage the front and hind quarters?) and made her back. All went very well. then I got the bridle on and even managed to get on with the help of the mounting block. She stood still for that, which shocked me, I thought we would have a problem right there, but nope. Then I walked her completely around the areana. Did a couple circles at the walk and then this is where it doesn't go so good. I tried to get her into a trot. Managed to do it for a few steps and that was all.

So the trainer came over and we put her back on the lunge line and I rode the trot. I felt kind of sick to my stomach after that. I was wearing my helmet and I always get too over heated and sick from the heat. So the trainer took over and wanted to lunge her at the canter. Well we discussed this and I happened to mention that she was suppose to be trained as a driving pony. So the trainer hooked her up with the lunge line on both sides and ground drove her all over the arena! She is a great pony! She did much better at the driving then she does in the saddle.

Have I mentioned how much I just love this mare. LOL

First of all, your animals are beautiful! I'm so proud of you. It sounds like it was a very productive lesson! I go so much slower than that. Good job! Which state are you in that it's so hot. I'm in Arizona and it's in the triple digits and humid. I usually book my lessons at 7 or 8 in the mornings. I'll be shopping for a helmet this weekend.
 

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Have you tried a vaulting surcingle while on the lunge? That helped me a lot. It's bareback, you can feel the movement of the horse better, but you have the handles to hold onto.
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I am on the Eastern Shore of Va. It in the 80's lately, near 90's. TMI I am also going thru change of live time, so even temps in the 70's turn me into a soaking wet mess. I have been able to deal with temps in the 60's, so I can't wait for real fall weather.

Thanks about doing good at the lesson. You will too! I started a little bit before you, so you will get there! I also push myself outside of the box, then come back inside the box. Each and every lesson we do something outside of my comfort zone. I have to or I will never do it.

I have a soft saddle by cashel, that I normally use, and just got the Black Forrest treeless saddle. So both that I use are close contact, I can feel her movements very well. Love those saddles. I have tried treed saddles, lots of them and I just can't stand them. I feel like I am riding a big block of wood. I do sometimes ride bareback also. I want to feel the horse.

Next week's lesson we are taking the hafie out of the arena. I think we will just work around the yard, and across the street in a field. In Oct we are going to take her on a trail and to the beach.

I am (once I can tolerate the temperatures) going to start working on the little pinto pony.

When is your next lesson?
 

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I have a soft saddle by cashel, that I normally use, and just got the Black Forrest treeless saddle. So both that I use are close contact, I can feel her movements very well. Love those saddles. I have tried treed saddles, lots of them and I just can't stand them. I feel like I am riding a big block of wood. I do sometimes ride bareback also. I want to feel the horse. When is your next lesson?
Oooohhhh, good info! Thanks. I normally have my lessons on Saturday morning, but my instructor called today and we may move it to tomorrow evening. It would be nice to see how the horses are at sunset.
 
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