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Hello!! I just came across this board in a search the other day, and it seems like a very nice place. So thought I'd post and see what info, ideas, or comments I can get. I have a lot to type, and at times I tend to ramble, so I will apologize now. :wink:

Just like a lot of other posters I have seen on here, I used to ride every weekend, summer, school break, or every chance I could when I was younger. Loved it then, and still love it now. Last time I was in a saddle was about 1 year ago, and it had been about 23 years(I am 36) since I had been in one. Nothing better in life than being on a horse.

For the past 2 years now I have been thinking of taking the step and owning a horse or possible a mule. I am not looking at rushing into anything, will not purchase on impulse and of course not doing it alone, will have some of my horse savvy friends help when I plan on taking the step. I know this is a horse message board but just a quick reason why I am looking into mules also. I am looking for a good mountain/trail/hunting partner, and every mule I have seen and encountered have been just awesome out in the hills, so surefooted, not bothered by a thing. Not saying there are not any horses out there with the same awesomeness.:wink: The mules just amazed me.

There are reasons why I am looking into this. One is the amazing bond and connection I felt with the horses when I rode. It was me, the horse, and the outdoors. Another is I would like my 12 year old daughter to experience this wonderful feeling. Just like any girl she loves horses. My son, well, he is 17 and I am sure he will think it's cool once he gets on and around a horse.

I understand and have taken into consideration the cost of owning a horse. I am not a rich person, but I have the funds and means of owning and purchasing one. I don't have a specific breed I want but know what I am looking for. I will not be going at this alone, I have friends who own horses, and know horses so I will have help. I will need a little refresher course on some basics, but it will come back. Looked into leasing a horse, but there are none in my area. This may sound selfish, I don't think I would want to lease even if there were some in my area. I would not be able to take the horse camping, to our cabin, or ride whenever I want to.

This is something I have talked about only to my friends, but not with my family(my boyfriend, and my 2 kids). They will think I am crazy, but that's fine. My responsibility, my time, and my pleasure, that's how I see it.

After so many years of not riding, am I crazy for even considering or be thinking about this??
 

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YOur are not crazy. You are crazy to think it might be crazy. Of course this is something that is right. It sounds so right to me! And you are of an age and your kids of an age where it's time to start thinking of the things that are important to you. Not only do you satisfy a lond delayed yearning, you demonstrate to your children that it's possible to take risks, even at the ripe old age of 36 (I am nearly 53 by the way!)

I started riding again as an adult at 41. After a 25 year hiatus. I had a 3 year old and a 9 year old. It was hard, and I chose to lease, but horses were more important to me than I had ever realized. I have really come into a whole part of me that would never have blossomed had I not just dont it. And I am not a big risk taker by nature. So, my feeling is the you already KNOW this is right for you.

The only thing that kind of raises slight feelings of uncertaintly is that if your only experience with horses is as a child, when you were under the care of an adult, you may be a bit naive as to what challenges you will face as a horse owner now. Even if you didn't buy a horse, but leaseed (as I still do!), you may find horses much more complex than you remembered from the days when you just hopped on and stayed on.

There are many behavioral challenges that might come with your horse. You will expect more and need a higher level of predictability than you might have accepted as a child. Especially if you have youngun's around. Remember that almost like having children; you don't get to pick your children. You get what you get. With a horse, you may choose the hrose, but you can't guarantee what will come along with the total package.

You sound like a very sensible person, so I assume that you have thought these thoughts more than I can know. However, my expereienc is that some Mules can be more challengeing to your creative training processes than the average horse. I may be wrong. I have seen really great mules but I've also heard some horror stories.
So, it would be good if you looked into mule info ,perhaps on the breed forum?

In any case, I think you will soon be one of us crazy forum junkies!
 

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No you're not crazy. When I went to camp while a teenager, I got to ride some horses and had only rode twice since then. I had never thought of owning or even riding a horse again. Almost 5 years ago, my wife asked me to "just go look at a horse." Since then, we now own 6 and have no regrets except not starting sooner. I would not give up any of them, the experiences we had with them, or the freinds we've made for anything. Who knows, maybe your bf will like horses too. It definitely has helped our marriage since it gave us something to do together that we both love (but we didn't know it at first).
 

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YOur are not crazy. You are crazy to think it might be crazy. Of course this is something that is right. It sounds so right to me! And you are of an age and your kids of an age where it's time to start thinking of the things that are important to you. Not only do you satisfy a lond delayed yearning, you demonstrate to your children that it's possible to take risks, even at the ripe old age of 36 (I am nearly 53 by the way!)

I started riding again as an adult at 41. After a 25 year hiatus. I had a 3 year old and a 9 year old. It was hard, and I chose to lease, but horses were more important to me than I had ever realized. I have really come into a whole part of me that would never have blossomed had I not just dont it. And I am not a big risk taker by nature. So, my feeling is the you already KNOW this is right for you.

The only thing that kind of raises slight feelings of uncertaintly is that if your only experience with horses is as a child, when you were under the care of an adult, you may be a bit naive as to what challenges you will face as a horse owner now. Even if you didn't buy a horse, but leaseed (as I still do!), you may find horses much more complex than you remembered from the days when you just hopped on and stayed on.

There are many behavioral challenges that might come with your horse. You will expect more and need a higher level of predictability than you might have accepted as a child. Especially if you have youngun's around. Remember that almost like having children; you don't get to pick your children. You get what you get. With a horse, you may choose the hrose, but you can't guarantee what will come along with the total package.

You sound like a very sensible person, so I assume that you have thought these thoughts more than I can know. However, my expereienc is that some Mules can be more challengeing to your creative training processes than the average horse. I may be wrong. I have seen really great mules but I've also heard some horror stories.
So, it would be good if you looked into mule info ,perhaps on the breed forum?

In any case, I think you will soon be one of us crazy forum junkies!
I totally understand what you mean. I have also expressed this to my friends, and they said they will be by me to help me. Also have offered, when the time comes, to let me keep the horse at their home, very nice. So I will have the help anytime I need it, as I will do anything to help them too.

I also have heard that mules take a whole different way to ride them. Also know that they can be difficult to find a good fitting saddle for them. The more I hear, read and see, the more I am steering clear of them, as a first time owner, I don't think I want to go the mule route. It has just been a thought that I have looked into.

Again, I don't know when I will do this, when I feel it is right, or the right horse comes along I will do it. It could happen in another month, year, or longer. This is a long term commentment, responsibility, and adventure :wink: that I have really been thinking of, looking into, and gathering as much info as I can about.

Thanks for you post, glad to know I am not crazy.
 

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No you're not crazy. When I went to camp while a teenager, I got to ride some horses and had only rode twice since then. I had never thought of owning or even riding a horse again. Almost 5 years ago, my wife asked me to "just go look at a horse." Since then, we now own 6 and have no regrets except not starting sooner. I would not give up any of them, the experiences we had with them, or the freinds we've made for anything. Who knows, maybe your bf will like horses too. It definitely has helped our marriage since it gave us something to do together that we both love (but we didn't know it at first).
I am sure when it happens I will be thinking the same thing "Why didn't I do this sooner?" I am sure bf will think I am crazy, but he will get over it. His brothers had horses, but he never rode much. He has his things he likes to do and have, so why can't I, right?? lol

I am an ACO(animal control officer) for my city, I have brought all kinds of critters home to take care of, and sometimes keep. He doesn't like it at that moment, but he gets over it quick.
 

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You ARE crazy! What you don't like it?
Here the inmates run the asylum. Muahahaha.
Welcome to the dark side, we have cookies... Horse cookies anyhow.

But, no seriously, it seems that you have discussed and put a lot of thought into what you are planning or potentially planning and so I must say congratulations and Good Luck!

(I'm finding it terriby hard not to be silly right now, once I can be serious, I can post more intelligently, I Promise!)
 

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Haha, here I thought I was crazy because I've been out of the saddle for 3.5 years now. If you can do it, I can do it! :D
 
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