Your trainer sounds like most trainers in my area. They want the horse in training 24/7. I think it's because they are tying their name to the horse and they want you to win win win. Most of the riders that have horses with trainers expect to win. That's what they are paying for. I am doing my horse at my house and hauling to trainers. It's taking me a lot longer and I'm much further behind then I would have been if I had gone the trainer route. I did not buy a made horse though, I bought a baby. If you are buying a made horse then you are already way ahead of a lot of people.
I think there are a few things to consider. If you want to learn to really ride your horse, then you kind of do need to have full access to him. Riding him once a week at a trainers ins't going to give you a good feel of what to do and how to do it. BUT you will probably win way more than you don't with the horse at the trainers.
If you are ok with the occasional bad day and you know that you can get the help you need, then I personally would keep the horse at home. But I like the feel that you get when you have put all the work in and go to a show and get the win. I haven't seen a win yet but I just started showing again. I do know a girl that has qualified for the world that does not do the full time trainer. She does use trainers though. She will send her horse for the winter months, so probably November to March-ish... sometimes longer depending on the weather I think. Then she maintains and hauls to lessons through the Summer. I'm actually thinking into looking at that option for myself. It's something for you to consider.
When you say "high-level" Reiners then you may have no choice but to use a full time trainer if you want to be competitive.... I am not sure this post was helpful. Sorry.
I think there are a few things to consider. If you want to learn to really ride your horse, then you kind of do need to have full access to him. Riding him once a week at a trainers ins't going to give you a good feel of what to do and how to do it. BUT you will probably win way more than you don't with the horse at the trainers.
If you are ok with the occasional bad day and you know that you can get the help you need, then I personally would keep the horse at home. But I like the feel that you get when you have put all the work in and go to a show and get the win. I haven't seen a win yet but I just started showing again. I do know a girl that has qualified for the world that does not do the full time trainer. She does use trainers though. She will send her horse for the winter months, so probably November to March-ish... sometimes longer depending on the weather I think. Then she maintains and hauls to lessons through the Summer. I'm actually thinking into looking at that option for myself. It's something for you to consider.
When you say "high-level" Reiners then you may have no choice but to use a full time trainer if you want to be competitive.... I am not sure this post was helpful. Sorry.