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...About selling my ponies.

I usually go through this stage when I'm feeling down and I always decide that I'm going to sell my horses, I get over it in about a day but this time I have been thinking about it for a while.

I'm gonna type out a number of reasons that are going through my head on why I should sell them:

1. We are over due on our paddock fees. Even if we pay up to date then we go behind again. This is usually because someone forgets to pay the owner of the paddocks and spends the rent money, or we have no money in the first place.

2. Lately I have been seeing them less and less, usually on weekends and it is only for a little while. They are sitting around getting fat, when they should be getting out being used.

3. I need a new gear. Saddle, the one I have now is far too narrow! I can't afford to buy a new one, Abby needs a new bit..also can't afford it.

Maybe I'm just worrying to much? Maybe I'm not. I talked to Mum and she didn't seem to be against the idea. It isn't like I'm loosing interest in horses, it is just we are..well..poor. I said that if I was to sell them, I would like to be able to join a riding school. Even if it is just some dodgy place, I will still need a horse fix.

I guess this is sort of a rant (?). It is so hard to decide, what do you guys think?
 

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Why don't you do a partial lease, or free lease on them? That way when you are more 'up' on time and funds, they are still there, and you don't have to purchase new ones.

You can also do a lease that requires them to stay where they are, and that way you can still see and use them (when their leasers aren't).

I dunno, I guess if you are really strapped, right now, maybe you should, but then, maybe you are just looking at it too hard.

Have you considered trading your current saddle for one that fits better? Same with the bit? Find out what's out there, and see if you can trade for what you need. `
 

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Why don't you do a partial lease, or free lease on them? That way when you are more 'up' on time and funds, they are still there, and you don't have to purchase new ones.

You can also do a lease that requires them to stay where they are, and that way you can still see and use them (when their leasers aren't).

I dunno, I guess if you are really strapped, right now, maybe you should, but then, maybe you are just looking at it too hard.

Have you considered trading your current saddle for one that fits better? Same with the bit? Find out what's out there, and see if you can trade for what you need. `
I was thinking about maybe doing a free lease with Abby. Chester needs a lot of work and I would prefer to sell him to a better home.

My current saddle is pretty worse for wear. It really isn't worth anything, I don't think anybody would want it. :lol:
 

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The harsh reality is that, except for people who make their living on horseback, horses are a luxury not a necessity. Selling them may be one of the hardest decisions you will make but it may be the right one. When you can't afford proper upkeep and your tack is ill-fitting and not in good condition anyway, then it's time to consider your ponies' needs.

There are quite a lot of people in the US who hold on to their horses long after they should have sold or even given them away. The ones to suffer are the horses.

You don't have to loose your passion for horses, if it's in your blood, it will always be there. Find a way to be around them even if it is working as a stable hand, but do what is best for your ponies.
 

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It's a hard situation. I can't imagine going thru it but the post above was a really good one.

Being a horse owner, I don't know that you will ever be able to stop horses or go to a different sport or hobby. Once it's in your blood its in your blood. What I think you might want to consider IS cutting down to the one horse, one you can focus on when you do make it to the barn, have just the one to worry about and have expenses on.

Horses ARE a big luxury, it's not the way it used to be years ago. Stables are around to make money, not to make it easy on you to keep and own a horse.

There are lease options, working in exchance of board, perhaps relocating your pony to a place that is a little cheaper until you get up on your feet again?

Either way it's going to be tough. I wish you the best and a lot more thinking before you make a decision you might regret. Good luck!
 

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How many do you own? Maybe sell some and keep one or two to lessen the costs?
I own two. Which one would I keep?

are you a good rider maybe offer lessons i dont know if theres any rules against it but that way you could see them alot and get paid to :)

or the lease idea sounds good
Hehe..No, I'm not a confident rider nor do I think I'm a good one! Thanks..

The harsh reality is that, except for people who make their living on horseback, horses are a luxury not a necessity. Selling them may be one of the hardest decisions you will make but it may be the right one. When you can't afford proper upkeep and your tack is ill-fitting and not in good condition anyway, then it's time to consider your ponies' needs.

There are quite a lot of people in the US who hold on to their horses long after they should have sold or even given them away. The ones to suffer are the horses.

You don't have to loose your passion for horses, if it's in your blood, it will always be there. Find a way to be around them even if it is working as a stable hand, but do what is best for your ponies.
Thankyou!

It's a hard situation. I can't imagine going thru it but the post above was a really good one.

Being a horse owner, I don't know that you will ever be able to stop horses or go to a different sport or hobby. Once it's in your blood its in your blood. What I think you might want to consider IS cutting down to the one horse, one you can focus on when you do make it to the barn, have just the one to worry about and have expenses on.

Horses ARE a big luxury, it's not the way it used to be years ago. Stables are around to make money, not to make it easy on you to keep and own a horse.

There are lease options, working in exchance of board, perhaps relocating your pony to a place that is a little cheaper until you get up on your feet again?

Either way it's going to be tough. I wish you the best and a lot more thinking before you make a decision you might regret. Good luck!
Do you still have to pay for the ponies needs if you lease? Worming, farrier, feed ect..I keep them at a agistment paddock and there is really no work, the owner has stopped working on the property all together. He is selling so I don't think he will be able to give me any work. Unfortunately this place is the cheapist, there is one other property but they are currently full.



Thankyou to everyone that has replied. I'm still thinking about it because I don't like how it currently is turning out. I do think selling both of them and going back to lessons is the best way to go. Maybe when I move out and I'm not relying on my parents, I will think about buying another horse. I really don't want to sell them, I loved owning horses for the short time that I have but yes, they are very expensive and I wish I realised that before I went out and bought the second pony. :D Thanks again!
 

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For leasing, you can work out an agreement with the leasee. I am about to lease a friends mare, she does not have the time to ride her at the moment and as she is only 3 years old and done next to nothing, and I am currently scouting for a new horse and havent had one for a year! it works out perfectly. We have decided that I will pay all costs associated with the mare while she is in my care, as though she is my own.

As for when you move out and are not relying on your parents, well sorry to say, but then it is even harder to afford them!!
 

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Since it wouldn't let me edit it...

I also wanted to add, even though this has nothing to do with it. That it isn't just "horsie" bills that are over-due, it is house hold bills also. Mum says she is working Full Time for a couple of months this year, but then what about the rest of the year? She also said that it would be better if we had them home. We rent, I doubt we could afford a place with paddocks that are for rent. We have gone for a couple of those and always got rejected. It sort of sounds like "Woe is Me" at the moment. Anyway..that is just a bunch of useless information. :)
 

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For leasing, you can work out an agreement with the leasee. I am about to lease a friends mare, she does not have the time to ride her at the moment and as she is only 3 years old and done next to nothing, and I am currently scouting for a new horse and havent had one for a year! it works out perfectly. We have decided that I will pay all costs associated with the mare while she is in my care, as though she is my own.

As for when you move out and are not relying on your parents, well sorry to say, but then it is even harder to afford them!!
I'm just not sure about the leasing. I have never done it before. I was thinking of leasing out Abby, but I don't really know what to do with Chester. Haha! I thought of the fact it would be harder when I moved out and was going to edit but it wouldn't let me. I don't like throwing all of these bills on my parents though..Thankyou! :)
 

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If you really want to have a horse then I think you should keep abby and sell chester. Judging from the things you have said about chester, he needs someone who can give him lots of time. That will cut your expenses in half. Take the money you get from him and pay up your board. There are things you can do to help yourself be able to afford tack and board and horse care, especially in the summer. Maybe you can get a summer job or do odd jobs for people for money or mow lawns or have yard sales...lots of times family and friends are happy to give you stuff to sell.
If you do downsize to just one horse will you be able to keep her up? Worming, farrier, feed, hay, vaccinations?
 

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If you really want to have a horse then I think you should keep abby and sell chester. Judging from the things you have said about chester, he needs someone who can give him lots of time. That will cut your expenses in half. Take the money you get from him and pay up your board. There are things you can do to help yourself be able to afford tack and board and horse care, especially in the summer. Maybe you can get a summer job or do odd jobs for people for money or mow lawns or have yard sales...lots of times family and friends are happy to give you stuff to sell.
If you do downsize to just one horse will you be able to keep her up? Worming, farrier, feed, hay, vaccinations?
Thankyou :) I will have a think about it. I should be able to keep Abby, it will be a lot cheaper if I did just have the one.
 

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Someone posted free lease??

I would never free lease a horse. Anything could happen, from stealing to neglect. If you do, make sure its close and you can check up on them if need be. If possible, maybe someone you know?

I'm so sorry about this whole situation, wish i could do more to help.
 

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Someone posted free lease??

I would never free lease a horse. Anything could happen, from stealing to neglect. If you do, make sure its close and you can check up on them if need be. If possible, maybe someone you know?

I'm so sorry about this whole situation, wish i could do more to help.
I won't be leasing. If I did it wouldn't be to some stranger it would be to someone a knew and trust. Thankyou..:)
 

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Sorry to hear about this Sam, I've been there. When my and my hubby had just gotten married and I had a baby on the way and he was away at school we did sell the horses, it was really hard, and I still miss them.

I suggest that you sell Chester and keep Abby, and see how it goes from there. Maybe if you can get enough money for chester to pay the board up to date and buy a new bit and then maybe ride bareback for a little while.

You are a smart, mature person and I know you will do the right thing. :) ((HUGS))
 

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Another thought - are you depressed? Because that can make everything seem so much worse. Check with your doc. Get your head cleared if that is it and it will make decision making easier.

As to the horses, keep in mind if you sell them you may regret it the rest of your life. I did that once and it will always be the one big mistake in my life I wish I'd never made (even with my divorce and all the other crap that has gone on). Can you get a part time job until you catch up on things?

There are options out there, won't be easy, but you need to decide which will make your life better, life with your horses or without. I had to get a part time job on top of my full time job back when I was going through money problems and it sucked but it was worth every tiring second.
 

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Sorry to hear about this Sam, I've been there. When my and my hubby had just gotten married and I had a baby on the way and he was away at school we did sell the horses, it was really hard, and I still miss them.

I suggest that you sell Chester and keep Abby, and see how it goes from there. Maybe if you can get enough money for chester to pay the board up to date and buy a new bit and then maybe ride bareback for a little while.

You are a smart, mature person and I know you will do the right thing. :) ((HUGS))
I was thinking about selling Chester, but I don't know if I can. It would be so sad, I think I would cry for days on end. :lol: ((Hugs)) I'm sorry to hear about you having to sell your ponies, it is something so hard to decide. You put so much time, money and love into them, and you don't know if the new owners are going to do the same. Thankyou so much..

Another thought - are you depressed? Because that can make everything seem so much worse. Check with your doc. Get your head cleared if that is it and it will make decision making easier.

As to the horses, keep in mind if you sell them you may regret it the rest of your life. I did that once and it will always be the one big mistake in my life I wish I'd never made (even with my divorce and all the other crap that has gone on). Can you get a part time job until you catch up on things?

There are options out there, won't be easy, but you need to decide which will make your life better, life with your horses or without. I had to get a part time job on top of my full time job back when I was going through money problems and it sucked but it was worth every tiring second.
I used to take anti-anxiety meds a while ago. I did go to the doctor last month about my anxiety and she said there was really no need to start on them again. I worry a lot and I do think I might have made it sound a little worse then what it is.

I'm actually looking for a part time job at the moment, I'm also looking into furthering some of my schooling as well. We will wait and see. You would have to be one motivated woman to work a full time and part time job, I don't think I could do that.

I have talked to some people about selling Chester, they also thought it was a good idea. I'm pretty happy just owning Abby, but it is still pretty sad. I will keep thinking about it..Thanks to everyone. :D
 

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Thats really tough! I am sorry that you are have to make this decision.
It sounds to me that the best choice is too sell Chester right now. It sounds like he needs a lot of work but you could sell him to an owner that can really work on him. You could also use the money for a new saddle, bit or to catch up on bills.
I would suggest looking into leasing Abby out on a partial lease. Ask around and see if anyone is looking for a horse. If you choose this path, make sure you have papers written up and are very clear abour who is liable for what. If it is a partial, on farm lease, I would suggest the other person pays for half of everything...it might even be easier to add up all the costs that you face in a month, divide that by two and charge the person that...I know that is how I lease my current horse. Good luck!
 

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Thats really tough! I am sorry that you are have to make this decision.
It sounds to me that the best choice is too sell Chester right now. It sounds like he needs a lot of work but you could sell him to an owner that can really work on him. You could also use the money for a new saddle, bit or to catch up on bills.
I would suggest looking into leasing Abby out on a partial lease. Ask around and see if anyone is looking for a horse. If you choose this path, make sure you have papers written up and are very clear abour who is liable for what. If it is a partial, on farm lease, I would suggest the other person pays for half of everything...it might even be easier to add up all the costs that you face in a month, divide that by two and charge the person that...I know that is how I lease my current horse. Good luck!
I have never leased a horse or leased one out. Would free leasing her be a good idea? Then they pay for everything else? I'm not really sure about the leasing thing, I have heard bad things about it.
 
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