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Why is it that riders who are overweight get looked down upon? I mean I have been told by my trainer and other people that I am a fantastic horse person and rider. But it feels like a lot of people don't think im good enough just because I don't weight 150lbs. I weigh 260 easy, I am tall (5'11) and I have a big bone structure. Even when I do lost the weight Im trying to lose, I will never be a stick, I will be a good 200lbs, and thats considered a healthy weight for my body type. And it makes me feel really bad about myself when I hear the giggles, or get marked down in a class because of my weight. Why can't everyone just be treated equally?

I have seriously considered giving up horses in the past because sometimes I just don't feel like I belong... :?
 

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The sad, honest truth is that there are JERKS out there and unfortunately, *no offense to people in this forum because I'm highly impressed*, many of them reside in the horse world. There are people out there who will find anything they CAN to make fun of someone else because they have insecurities and it makes them feel like a bigger person (rolling eyes). I used to get teased for being tall and skinny! See? Anything they can get their hands on. I call them Toxic People... or Parasites. They intrude on the things that make us happy. You will learn (I'm still learning) to ignore these people because they REALLY DON'T MATTER. Don't let them win. Don't let them take anything away from you that makes you happy. Never be the victim. Next time they giggle, let out a smile because they're only proving that you are so much better than them.
 

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Im sorry but i just want to ask a question, have they told you that you got marked down because your overweight ?

I have judged hacking and i would never mark someone down based on appearance, its purely on how you ride if your ride well then you get marked well.

I know there are judges out there that arnt fair, but ive never heard of something like this
 

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I'm sorry you have to go through that. I don't do competitions or anything and don't have to deal with that...but I do have my own inner demons to deal with as I am overweight too. I feel sorry for my horse for having to carry me around when most horses only have to carry an average size rider. Perfect Browbands.....I am glad you judge people by their performance, but a lot of people judge others on appearances. We talk about all kinds of prejudices in the world, but I think that is one that is often overlooked. I think you should be very proud of yourself though. At least you have the courage to get up there and ride! I don't even have that at this point. Good for you!!!! Don't let anyone stop you from doing what you love!!!!! There are a lot of skinny people who can't do what you do....remember that!
 

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What makes you think that you got marked down in a class for your weight?
Anyways, people will laugh at you for anything. I get laughed at for being short. I used to get teased when I rode bigger horses because my legs didn't go past the saddle flap... :D
 

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Like BackInTheSaddle said, some people are just insecure jerks that need to find something, anything, about another person to make fun of to make themselves feel better. I am only a tad overweight, but sometimes I feel absolutely huge. See, I LIVE with one of those people. My younger sister by a year is very pretty and very in shape, and is the biggest b*tch you're ever going to meet. She's vain, selfish, mean, and unsympathetic. She calls me all sorts of names, usually unprovoked, just to get a reaction out of me, just to make me feel like sh*t. Because underneath that pretty face is a little girl who feels insecure and feels like the only way to help that is to make others feel worse. Not that she deserves any sympathy for that. But just so you know, no matter what you looks like people like that will find ANYTHING to use against you.

Don't ever think of giving up something you love because of what others say. They just aren't worth your time. It's easier said than done, and I battle with self confidence issues and anxiety attacks daily. But you just have to keep you chin up and keep reminding yourself that you are an amazing person, and a great rider with a passion for riding and horses that none of those people will ever have or comprehend.
 

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Some people are just ignorant twats. EVERYONE, no MATTER there weight, no matter their height, gender, or race, NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE. Everyone has the chance to be an incredible rider.

Though, I will say I have turned down a sale because of the buyers weight. Not because I'm cruel hearted and mean, but because it would have caused the horse far to much pain and discomfort.
It was Sam that I was trying to sell, and the buyer was looking for a gentle broke horse like him. But...she said she was 400 pounds. Sam, while being rather large for a light riding horse, cannot handle that kind of weight, especially with his current condition and age, so I turned down the sale.

Some people are suitable for heavier boned horses like Sam, while others are meant for drafts. I would never laugh and tell someone they can't ride because of their weight or size. Everyone can ride, you just gotta find the right horse :D
 

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I am a bit paranoid about the horses I ride, I dont want to hurt a horse. Both of my horses are percheron/thoroughbred crosses, they are both heavy boned and solid, and drafty. And the other horse I ride is a 16.3 solid oldenburg.
 

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I have seriously considered giving up horses in the past because sometimes I just don't feel like I belong... :?[/quote]

When I first started working at the boarding stable I worked at for 2 years,I didnt fit in AT ALL!! I have tattoos,I like heavy metal and I like horses WAY more than ppl and come off a bit,closed off,at first.All the ppl who worked and boarded there were country-loven good ol folks in this tight knit little family type click.They would invite eachother to do stuff after work right in front of me,like I wasnt even there.I thought they were snobs,they thought I was trouble.But the ppl who took the time to get to know me adored me and I felt the same-its only the ppl who take the time to know you that are worth knowing or caring about,opinions and all!There were times I wanted to quit,but I refused to let them push me away from what i loved!As long as you love yourself,your already doing better than them,cuz they are obviously unhappy with their lives to put down yours..
 

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mystikal- I'm the same way, music-wise, and liking the horses more than the people-wise, ha ha. Minus the tattoos, don't have any yet. ;] I just started working at my barn and some people seem pretty snobbish still, but the ones who actually try to get to know me love me and we've become friends.

If someone writes you off just by their first glance or impression of you then they just aren't worth your time.
 

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2 right girl i am 12 yrs old in weigh in at 63.5 kilos i have gone to afew shows and seen people get marked down decause of there weight i have my first show comeing up and i hope this dosent happen to me
 

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2 right girl i am 12 yrs old in weigh in at 63.5 kilos i have gone to afew shows and seen people get marked down decause of there weight i have my first show comeing up and i hope this dosent happen to me
This is really annoying to read. Punctuation would be appreciated. Thanks.

I would love to put on my rose colored glasses and say this doesnt happen, but I think everyone knows there are many judges out there, in any sport, who are judgmental.
I suppose all you can do is ride better then everyone else. And if you notice a certain judge who continually places you lower then other judges, don't show under him. And inform others, it's not fair and if entries are continuously lower when he judges, maybe someone will get the point.
I'm getting ahead of myself. But I think at least it might make you a better rider. And you and your horse will know it. Thats what matters.
 

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As for the show ring,your just dealing with one of many prejudices.Some judges favor certain breeds or colors.The horses are judged unfairly as well as the ppl.I personaly dont show bc I feel like its the "politics" of the the horse world.But if you love to show,than do it!Try to avoid judges who are unfair and just do your thing!
 

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don't let people cut you down like that. :( its rude. your tall, that is some of you wight right there. and why would they even care?, your the 1 why is havin the time of your life with horses! you LOVE horses dont give up NOW, just b/c some person ses your to big. If you havent noticed that people these days are becomin RUDE, MEAN, and they will make fun of you any way they can. if your were like um... 100 pounds they would say your to small. see how that works? ether way they are ganna try to make you feel un cofterble about your wight, heith! :( people are really low these days. so mabye if you try to enor it... they will quit!

but if you thought that i was mean any were in there tell me. ( i wasnt tryin to contral your life). P.S hope i helped! :)
 

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Sorry you've got to go through this. I know plenty of "overweight" riders and they're all fabulous! It really affects nothing, and judges who think it does are idiots.
 

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I wouldnt worry about it...Im 510 and weight almost 190...the only thing I worried about was making sure my horse was proportioned to me....Im sorry the only thing I comment upon (in my head of course) is seeing someone my height and heavy riding a 14 hand or less horse...I would feel like Im straining the horse in that case, not to mention I would feel I look ridiculous. Sounds/looks like to me that you have picked horses that are the right size and you feel good riding. I wouldnt worry about it...you ride for yourself and because you enjoy it.....course everytime I get on my walker I tell him "sorry I know I keep telling you Im going to loose some weight"..but he really doesnt care, I do it more as a joke to myself.
 

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That stupid thinking is everywhere. Do NOT give up. Enjoy your passion and embrace it. Ignore the tools out there that try to say otherwise.
 

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The only one who makes me feel bad about my weight in regard to my horse is me. Its to bad that you are judged like that by others. I'm not a competitive person so I've never been in that situation. If its others that are just in a class, to hell with them. You're there to learn and enjoy your horse.
I am 5'8 and well into the 220 lb range, my horse is 14.3. Yes, I know I'm to big for her. I never overwork her and we take a break every hour no matter what. I'm sure I get lots of "geesh look at that fat broad on that little horse" whispers, but if I really cared about it I'd go on a diet :lol: Vida hasn't given me a hurumph or had her legs buckle from under us yet so I guess we're OK :wink:

ETA- Just remember, we are in the majority. 65% of Americans are overweight. If we all get together we can smoosh all those little skinny butts.
 

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I never have had any problems with bigger riders. I've seen plus size girls do amazing things that I can only dream of doing. :)
The only time I "judge" bigger riders is when they are on a -15hh horse and the horse is working up a sweat just walking a foot. But then again horses were once used as pack animals. BUT the same goes for 6'3 people who ride too small of horses and their feet almost drag on the ground.

I have the opposite problem people never trust me or always look at my like I'm weak because I'm 17 turning 18 and I'm 5'1 and 110 pounds soaking wet. So they always ask me if I need any help carrying things or picking things up! It gets so annoying after awhile even though I know they are just being nice.
The world is cruel, I'm sorry! keep your head up though. You will only make yourself miserable worrying about what people think of you. TRUST ME!
 
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