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So I have to ask. Something that came up as a topic recently here and thought I would bring up and start up here. I am not a parent myself nor do I plan to be in the immediate future, but it's a health topic that I tweeked my curiosity and wouldn't mind being more knowledgeable about.

Why would you choose one over the other? would love to hear first hand experience from all those of you who are parents.
 

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Some women don't get a choice. I know quite a few that could not breast feed. I understand that it is recommended though in order to build the infant's immune system. The hospitals in my area have a Lactation Consultant meet with the new moms after birth in order to assist with the process.

Personally I would do what ever works for myself and the child. If I can't then I won't stress myself out or feel inadequate. And if I can well then let's hope my poor nips survive. lol
 

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I breastfed my daughter till she weaned herself around 6-7 months. Its truly a wonderful time for you and your little one to bond and snuggle. Breast milk is much better compared to formula in nutrients and for the immune system. If you are little one is latching on correctly your nips ;) should feel no pain. If it is painful see a specialist!
It should not be painful. I was told that and its wrong.
 

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I was allergic to something in breast milk and formula, so I did not get a chance to breast feed when I was a baby. I became a very sick and weak baby as a result. I think breast milk is a key to a healthy baby. Not only is it better for them than formula, but it provides bonding time between mother and baby that is unrivaled by anything else. If and When I have a child you better believe it will be breast fed.
 

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I would definitely breast feed if I had a baby. Its healthier and it really helps make a nice bond between you and the baby. So, unless there was a medical reason not to, I would. :)
 

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Well, I'll get blasted a million times over for this, but I did not breast feed any of my three girls. I just plain wasn't comfortable with it and because of my own insecurities I chose not to. I know a lot of people think that's really selfish and will say I wasn't taking my kid's best interest into consideration, but I stopped caring what other people thought by the time number three came. Do I regret it? No. Do I wish maybe I would have at least tried it? Yes.

I was able to bond with my girls as babies just fine despite not breastfeeding and I don't buy that babies who are breastfed will be healthier and more intelligent. My kids were not and are not any less healthy or intelligent because of being formula fed.

I hate when women use "but it's a natural thing" as an excuse to whip it out in public and flash everyone. I also think it's creepy when women breastfeed past a year old.

All that said I would never ever discourage anyone from breastfeeding. If it's right for them I think it's wonderful. I just couldn't do it.
 

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I'm still a ways away from the baby stage, but I fully intend to breast feed when that time comes! I like the benefits that it offers. But I wont beat myself up if it doesn't work out. I'm not against formula.
 

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I HATE breast feeding! Hate it, hate it, hate it. I am not at all comfortable with it and I just really don't enjoy it. I felt this way from day one but put my feelings aside for the well being from my baby. In my mind it was well worth the couple of months that I had to sacrafice.

However I did breastfeed my son for the first 4 months and I will breast feed this baby until at least three months. My son latched on very easy, however I had alot of pain and he would throw up everytime after breastfeeding,after the first couple of weeks and alot of tears and fustration, we figured out that he was taking in to much air and drinking to fast and was causing himself to be sick. After that it was easy.

Benifits

-Full of nutrients that antibodies that formula cannot match (therefore there will be less illness as an infant and later in life)

-Breast Milk changes over time to match your infants needs (Protiens, sugar's, fats, etc)

-Easier to digest (less likily to have a babe with colic)

-Quick, easier and cheaper (Not bottles to mix, wash and sterilize)

-Bonding Time

-Studies prove that kids that are breast fed are more intelligent (But my feelings on this are that woman who choose to breast feed are often more intelligent and educated and often times the kids would have been just as smart if they had not been breast feed)
 

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I hate when women use "but it's a natural thing" as an excuse to whip it out in public and flash everyone. I also think it's creepy when women breastfeed past a year old.
lol 3 neighs im one of those woman you hate. I used to be very insecure about my body. Did childbirth ever change me. By the time it came to my daughter being hungry in walmart. I really didn't give a hoot. It was natural it was right and it was beautiful. Plus I just didnt care :lol:
 

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I love reading the posts about choosing not to breast feed. I personally witnessed the guilt and humiliation that my friends experienced because they were unable to breastfeed. And to be quite honest their kids are perfectly fine. I think there is too much pressure for women to breastfeed and it is clearly not natural for everyone.

-Studies prove that kids that are breast fed are more intelligent (But my feelings on this are that woman who choose to breast feed are often more intelligent and educated and often times the kids would have been just as smart if they had not been breast feed)
Tiffany you bring up a great point about the statistics. Always keep in mind that it can be fairly easy to bend statistics to fit a certain point of view.
 

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Absolutly, until you know all the factors you don't know the truth.

I'm not saying that it's a wrong statistic, but it's my opinon.
 

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I am currently breastfeeding my son. I love it. Yes in the beginning it was painful but it was new for both me and my son!
My mom and MIL have breastfed their kids (My mom a lot longer than my MIL) so I have a lot of support.
La Leche League is a great resource for breastfeeding and everything that goes along with it. They really helped me because I have overactive letdown and oversupply and they helped me breastfeed in a way that DS could handle it and I would be comfortable.

I think the benefits are huge. You are doing what nature intended and using your body the way it is meant to be used. I also believe every woman can breastfeed and if they can't its because of lack of support or they just chose not to. Are they bad moms if they didn't? absolutely not! They are still providing for their child and that's what matters most.

What I personally love about breastfeeding is that I dont see all what he takes in, but I'm always seeing him grow, fill out and the output . And the fact that only I can feed him and that is our special time. I know it wont last long so i'm taking in all of it.

I plan to nurse DS until he weans.

I have to nurse now but i will probably be back with pros of breastfeeding
 

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lol 3 neighs im one of those woman you hate. I used to be very insecure about my body. Did childbirth ever change me. By the time it came to my daughter being hungry in walmart. I really didn't give a hoot. It was natural it was right and it was beautiful. Plus I just didnt care :lol:
Have you forgotten that the rest of society might not be comfortable with your body and being a public place it is some what rude to not consider that?

I agree breast feeding is natural. I do not think there is anything wrong with it. But that does not make it OK to whip out a boob and expose others to it in a very public place.

Some people like be naked - it does not make it OK for them to go to Walmart minus their clothes.


LisaG I have to agree with you. The attitude of so many on breast feeding really does make those people seem to look down their noses at people who do not breast feed. They seem to not realize that some women are not able to breast feed.
 

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I also believe every woman can breastfeed and if they can't its because of lack of support or they just chose not to.
Absolutely incorrect. I am not sure where and when you came to that susposition but some women are physically unable to breastfeed. That's why wet nurses have been around for literally ages. Before formula was created people relied on wet nurses to breast feed their children.
 

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Have you forgotten that the rest of society might not be comfortable with your body and being a public place it is some what rude to not consider that?

I agree breast feeding is natural. I do not think there is anything wrong with it. But that does not make it OK to whip out a boob and expose others to it in a very public place.

Some people like be naked - it does not make it OK for them to go to Walmart minus their clothes.


LisaG I have to agree with you. The attitude of so many on breast feeding really does make those people seem to look down their noses at people who do not breast feed. They seem to not realize that some women are not able to breast feed.
The beginning of your post came across fairly harsh (although I doubt that was your intention) but I have to agree with you. Not everyone is comfortable being around public breast feeders. What some people view as commonplace and natural is not how others may feel. A vast majority of stores/malls in my area actually have lounges or breast feeding areas as a separate section in the restrooms that allows mothers to have a comfortable and semi private area to do so. I honestly wish that this was available everywhere. There are also ways to drap blankets so that you are covered. I believe they actually make special drapes for this purpose. I apologize for not knowing the proper term.

And yes it is very clear that there is not enough education being do for people to realize that not everyone can breastfeed even if they wanted to. Obviously there are times when our bodies simply won't cooperate with our wishes.
 

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And yes it is very clear that there is not enough education being do for people to realize that not everyone can breastfeed even if they wanted to. Obviously there are times when our bodies simply won't cooperate with our wishes.
So true!

I can not believe someone actually thinks that.... Wow!

And honestly, so what if there are women who do not feel comfortable breast feeding and use formula. It most certainly does not mean they do not love their children.
 

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I actually find that society looks down on breast feeding, thus the reason why women that find it uncomfortable to feed there child. Especially in a public place.
In every other culture it is a common thing that is not to be looked down on.
 

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I actually find that society looks down on breast feeding, thus the reason why women that find it uncomfortable to feed there child. Especially in a public place.
In every other culture it is a common thing that is not to be looked down on.
I can think of several other conservative cultures that would certainly not be okay with breast feeding in public. We are actually quite forgiving as a society in general.
 

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I actually find that society looks down on breast feeding, thus the reason why women that find it uncomfortable to feed there child. Especially in a public place.
In every other culture it is a common thing that is not to be looked down on.
I doubt most people look down on breast feeding as much as they look down on being forced to endure public nudity.

Every other culture? Every? Hmmm, Certainly not every. Heck, there are cultures where woman can not go out with out a head covering.
 
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