You made some good points in that thread. I wonder how many hundreds and thousands of teens have started horses on their own just by reading books or even just using trial and error. I've met young women who are not necessarily great riders or trainers, but they certainly knew what worked for their own horse and could ride that horse beautifully and do tricks.This old thread still disgusts me (even after moderating) - and it disgusts me how many people click the "like" button when someone is being rude to another person.
:rofl:, @gottatrot ! However: While childishness isn't good in an adult, childlikeness (as you're showing there) is a good characteristic to have - trying out new things, being slightly deranged and good-crazy, being amazed by things jaded people find boring, being open and loving, saying what you mean, etc. I think of humans as being like cross-sections of trees; all your ages are still inside you, and I think the people who are reconciled to that, and celebrate and honour that, are actually the most mature people in many ways.Pretty much when kids do crazy things, I watch because it is interesting, or try it too. Then people point out to me that I am an adult.
What is it they say "age is just a number and mine is unlisted".
:rofl: Very good!What is it they say "age is just a number and mine is unlisted".
No, it's fine, @Alder , I'm reconciled to it and through the stage where it was really hurting me - and that took a long time to get through, so I completely understand why some people hurt their entire lifetimes over things like this, and are still raw the day they die. I've just been very fortunate to have had a lot of education, and kindness from great people along the road, and above all to have gotten into a stable, loving family situation, and to have been able to talk about it; otherwise the pain of what happened would still be eating me, I think.I'm late to comment but I found myself really thinking about your posts about your childhood SueC. Hope I'm not a downer by bringing it up again!
I'm so sorry for the little girl you were, @Alder , and also for the pain that has stayed with you. :hug:I also had an abusive upbringing, but at 62 years I have yet to escape the effects. My critical mother made me terrified of people. Even being looked at by others sends me into a panic state; when she looked at me I saw the eyes of a hunter going for the kill. I only coped by becoming hidden and frozen, and later, by becoming a loner. To this day I dread going out and encountering people. I don't seem to be able to stop my mind from going into a panic state.
They are kind, warm and very intuitive creatures - it's no accident they are chosen for a lot of PTSD work with war veterans. In one sense they are therapy on four legs - just like music can be therapy through your ears. They are bigger than you, but aren't using that fact to bully you all the time. Our octogenarian friend Bill says that the human species is the very worst animal there is, because of the incomparable cruelty that is found in our species. A carnivore eats another animal because it's hungry and will die if it doesn't eat. A lot of humans actually enjoy hurting others, and just do it for fun. Which is not to say that all abusers are sadistic - some are, some aren't - there's the sadistic kind, and there's also the kind that never sorted out their own issues and are just running on autopilots, like corrupt computer programmes - because they won't challenge their own behaviour - often they don't even want to see it. And often, churches or work organisations become complicit in the abuse - turning a blind eye, enabling, and sometimes even encouraging abuse.I've always had an affinity with animals though and I loved horses from before I can remember.
A big you're so welcome, and I'm glad we could do something from me. :hug: It's such a lovely bunch of people.I joined this forum a while ago but rarely comment, for the same reason, fear of being attacked. But thanks to you SueC, and your warm and open nature, I find myself wondering if it's finally time for me to start talking. I also want to thank other forum members; gottatrot, Hondo, bsms, knightrider and others for their thoughtful posts that have started a change in my thinking. Maybe I'll start a journal!
A big thank you to you all!